re: Anyone here every give a eulogy?

Yeah it will be exactly three weeks tommorrow. Colon cancer that eventually spread to his liver and hip bones. Once he found our hospice was needed his health went worse. I was just glad I was able to take care of him along with my mom during those last several days.

I wrote one for my dads funeral but couldn't bring myself to so it. My 1st cousin did it for me. It was hard enough being at the funeral for me. He died suddenly so I wasn't prepared. Sorry for the loss if your dad. It sucks

Recently went to a funeral of an Aggie fan (friends dad extremely close to my heart). His best friend was talking about how one day they were discussing funerals. Bill said something like he wanted everyone to smile and start chanting his name. Middle of the eulogy and the whole congregation stands up and starts chanting "BILL BILL BILL.." It was pretty strange at the time but it eased everyone which is all that matters.

He's your Dad. You just tell how good of a man he was. I'm sure you have some stories to share exemplifying how good of a man he was for you as his son. Everyone appreciates those.

I'm glad I didn't have to speak at my Dads'...I would have lost it for sure. He left way too soon.

If you're worried about getting up there and breaking down, but you feel like you have to be the one to deliver the eulogy yourself, maybe get someone like your wife to go up to the front and stand with you. Just having someone by your side squeezing your hand can sometimes be reassuring enough to help you get through it.

Did it for both grandparents. Its hard. Really hard. There was a few times when I didn't think I would make it. Took and deep breath, got it together and continued. I tried to lighten the mood a bit by telling funny stories about them. That seemed to work.

Gave one for an old man who was a mentor of mine when I was 19. Choked up at the end and it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do, but I'm glad I did. Told a few stories, cracked a few jokes, and left by saying be happy to have shared the times you did not sad that they are over.

First, my condolences for your loss.

I've had to do a few eulogies, both spoken and written.

I will give you a tip that works for a lot of people who struggle with eulogies.

Hand an index card to each of your family members and a few friends. Ask them to write on the index card their favorite memory or experience with your dad. They can remain anonymous if they want.

Order the index cards, give a brief introduction and read the cards.


At the end, share your favorite memory.

That always makes for a really good eulogy because everyone feels like they have a part of it, and you never know what's going to come up. Heartfelt stuff, humor, you name it. And it takes the pressure off of you to be brilliant when you feel at your worst. It also allows you to just read, and you have less of a chance of falling to emotion if you are just reading.

Eulogies are tough, tough. If you're not an experienced speaker, take my advice. It will take a lot of the worry away for you.

Ours had colon cancer as well, stage 4 when we found out. This was back in August and the doctors said he had a month at best. So when he was able to br released from the hospital, he was unable to live on his own and nursing home was out of the picture because we know how they could be, so we decided to take him and have him live with us.

It got tough at times not being able to do things without having someone stay with him, and taking care of his needs plus the family's needs, but honestly it's one I dont regret at all. Overall was a good experience, you know like you said, just glad I was able to take care of him during his final days. Miss him of course, but the fact that he's once again with his wife, family and old friends, gives me comfort.

You are a good man. Props to you for taking care of your family.