re: Anxiety is crippling my cousins daughters

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My anxiety comes in the form of office people (engineers, HR, etc.) sending emails instead of calling or texting and expecting an answer immediately as if they called or texted.

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You sound like you are easily controlled.

I never sent an email expecting an immediate response. It would be stupid to have such an expectation. Same goes for text messages.

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I never sent an email expecting an immediate response.

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I’m speaking within 24 hours … if it’s something that can’t wait more than 24 hours or till the next time I’m in the shop for more than an hour

Part of the everybody gets a trophy generation. Helicopter mom never let her do anything herself or have any bad consequences. Always went up to the school and talked to the teachers if she got a bad grade. This is just continuing to enable her. “Crippling anxiety” is bullshite. Everybody has anxiety to a degree. These kids have just been taught it’s a way to get people to do what they want.

Let me guess. She’s been in “anxiety” medication her whole life. That’s what fricks up these kids brains.

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24yr old and a 19yr old. Last week my cousin met us in Charleston SC with her 19 yr old. They were planning on staying 5 days. They left after 2 days because the 19yr old was having anxiety. Drove 7 hours to stay 2 days. Cousin told me later that her 19 yr old finished the last 2 months of her senior year of HS from home. She's taking online community college classes now because being around people is too much. The 24yr old flew from Louisville to Dallas this past Thursday with a connection to LAX for a pharmacy school function. She got to Dallas and couldn't make herself get on the 2nd flight. This was her 2nd flight, first alone. She and my cousin concocted a plan for her to rent a car and drive from Dallas to my house in B'ham, AL, my cousin would drive down from KY to take her to the Louisville airport to get her daughters car, then drive back to Harlan KY. Then yesterday, the 19 yr old called and asked for her parents to come get her from Richmond KY, where she had drove herself to visit a friend going to school at EKU. She couldn't bring herself up to drive home. Said the traffic in Richmond KY was too much. I told my cousin that she has to stop rescuing her kids. They aren't learning to fight through adversity and overcome fears when you keep saving them. She agreed and said it was their daddy was the one coddling them. Insanity.

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They need to start therapy, I forgot the type, where you get put in what you see as a helpless situation and you build strength and successes in those areas. Almost like exposure therapy for phobias.

Usually the parents help the children feel confident, but seems like parents keep outsourcing responsibility and industries pop up to address the needs.

Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is generally the type that is prescribed for this

CBT is good. They generally use it for everything. That’s just identifying the harmful thought and replacing it with a true more positive thought.

I’m talking about something else. I’ll look it up, one second.

They are starting to discover some therapies that involve the actual physiology of being stuck in the fight or flight state

They know that the vagus nerve regulates the parasympathetic nervous system. If it is dysfunctioning or under active. You will live in the sympathetic nervous system state (fight or flight). If they can find a consistent way to regulate the vagus nerve that could be huge for people suffering with severe anxiety

I’ve seen some products and techniques that claim to stimulate the vagus nerve but I’m not sure if they are actually effective at this point. At least for those with severe cases

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Grow the frick up you are 24. Get on the plane, or don’t and sit at the airport until you figure it out

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If the dad had the sense, and the balls, to do that he wouldn’t be in this situation.

It’s hard not to get frustrated with those types but severe anxiety is very very hard to relate to and justify if you have not experienced it

It is a state, daily, hourly, where your body and mind are in a constant battle with each other. It is both physical and mental and incredibly exhausting to live life that way. Extreme anxiety is very very similar to PTSD in the way it is felt by the body

Very easy to see how individuals in this situation can get sucked into a life of drug and alcohol abuse as those are immediate gratification fixes that can shut of the feeling for a brief time. The irony being that once the numbness wears off the feelings return even worse than before

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There’s a difference in helping and enabling. Of course a parent will help. But the kids who can’t function in life need of learn.

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Correct, but it is not something to be mocked or ostracized. It is also something the cause of which can not be easily explained or understood. There is no one singular cause

A lot of the reason people with it, go within themselves is because they are scared to talk to other individuals about it. They know it seems silly to the normal person. They are afraid they will be seen as weak by others, when in actuality in most instances, their minds are brilliant and their expectations of themselves are extraordinarily high. They think the entire world has the expectations of them. They place a ton of pressure on themselves at very young age