re: Another casualty of the opiate epidemic

Reach out to Todd Zalkins on Facebook or find his website and co tact him through there

We do get better though like many people in this thread have stated.

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She was beaten and raped while going to her car a few months back.

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Sad. Did they catch the guy?

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Both. She was beaten and raped while going to her car a few months back

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Damn, that's a long way to fall in a few months.

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I know what needs to be done, but I wanted the wisdom of the OT to guide me down the right path.

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You need to rethink things in your life if you think this is a good idea.

I am the male version of the OP’s piece of shite girlfriend. In fact, I’m a lot bigger and stinkier than the $800 turd that she morphed into. I have experience with this.

As a 15 year on and off opiate abuser - mostly on - I finally did enough damage, in the eyes of the woman I loved, to justify her bringing me divorce papers while in rehab. I was left at the lowest point in my life. It was my one and only attempt at in patient rehab, and thus far it’s worked. I have been clean for almost two years now. It’s my understanding that statistically, i am the exception to the rule.

Not a day goes by that the emptiness associated with losing her doesn’t grab me in the throat. Even though I’ve dated a little bit recently - in one case the most physically stunning woman I’ve ever seen, and in another case, a lady more “socially prominent” than my ex wife (who was big in that kinda stuff) - I’m pretty sure that I’ll never love again. I’ve loved other women, but none to the degree that I loved her. I’m pretty well convinced that I’d have never gotten clean sans her leaving me, which creates a horrible catch 22.

As others have said - she HAS to get clean for herself. Her sobriety can NOT hinge on the status of “y’all”, which sort of dictates a complete break. That being said - at least in my case - the “planner” in my ex wife never contemplated the scenario where I remained sober, and still loved her. It’s left me completely empty as far as romantic interests go, and her completely mad at the world.

I don’t know what to tell you, and don’t know that any one person’s experience can be extrapolated to another’s. I do know that my sobriety was wholly contingent on becoming a fully functioning person apart from her. Although that’s happened, the damage left in the wake of my incredibly selfish choices have left me clean and heartbroken, and have left her jaded and emotionally wrecks, and likely every bit as unhappy as my abhorrent behavior while married to her and using.

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5 10's a day isn't a lot for an addict at all bra

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That was the point. $800 doesn't go very far when it comes to pain pills. It's why everyone switches to heroin.

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Both. She was beaten and raped while going to her car a few months back.

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Damn

She wasn't seeing a,professional to work through this and to get properly medicated?

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I am the male version of the OP’s piece of shite girlfriend.

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the damage left in the wake of my incredibly selfish choices

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So you're really nothing like the OP's girlfriend since you willingly chose to indulge in opiates while she was taking them as a way to cope with the trauma of rape and abuse.

Maybe catch up on the thread before posting your story. Beginning to see there was a lot more than the OP let on initially, and its clear she needs real help. Now if the OP makes all efforts to get her that help and she refuses, then it's a sad situation all around and he should be done with her.

If she agrees to enter rehab and seek counseling, well that's up to the OP, but if I truly loved and cared for her, I would stick it out until I had no other choice.