re: Affair advice-UPDATE page 19

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She’s 44 and also married. Her husband(they don’t have sex)

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She's lying.

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is extremely controlling and tracks her every move which limits us to work

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She's lying.

Congrats, you're her side piece and you fell in love with her. You broke rule #1 and put the pussy on a pedestal.

You should divorce your wife to show your mistress you mean business.

I'm going to offer you two pieces of advice, perhaps both controversial:

(1) If you genuinely love this other woman, then you should leave your respective spouses and undergo the dramatic life transformation that will be required to pursue the relationship openly. This will entail incredible strife and determination. Amongst other things, you will have to get divorced, carefully manage your relationship with your children to remain a good father, navigate the difficulties and career risks of an intra-organizational relationship, move out, fend for yourself logistically, and alter the entire structure and rhythm of your existence. It will be brutal. It will be stressful. It will be exhausting. It will be expensive. It will be emotional beyond description, because children are involved. It may fail. Reflect carefully on whether that is the course you want to pursue. Do you love this other woman intensely enough, deeply enough,truly enough to weather what is to come? Do you think she reciprocates? But if, after careful thought, you feel it is the only path to authentic happiness, then take it. You don't owe anyone your life nor your joy;

(2) Given that there may be divorce litigation in the offing, it was foolish to post this. Delete your post and ask that the moderators remove the entire thread.

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Glad my misery entertains so many

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Schadenfreude. Would your children’s misery entertain you?

You sound like a male teenage kid. Apparently you don't know what real love is and it's apparent that you never experienced it. Anyone who can shut their emotions on and off like you don't know the real value of life. You don't play with a person's emotions like you are doing. I think that the best thing that you can do is leave your wife. You threw the trust out of your marriage. Once that trust is gone the marriage is doomed. Your wife will never trust you again or believe anything that you have to say. You destroyed any hope that your marriage had. You should leave your wife and let her go on with hers. I've known young guys going through puberty that have more feelings than you. I sincerely hope that your wife finds a real man and gets to experience what real love is all about. It would be in her best interest if you let your wife go. Without trust you have nothing to build your marriage on.

Her husband knows. And your wife is going to clean your clock over someone 10-15 years older. Jeez man, you were supposed to do that in in 20s before marriage. Sucks to be you

A good friend of our family was in a situation like yours...

The husband and the co-worker he was sleeping decided they couldn't live without each other and told their spouses, so they could 'be together'. Next day Husband of the side piece freaked the frick out at their office they both lost their jobs..

Since the idiots were up front about the affair they both got hammered in the divorce and he was rarely able to see his kids.

The two morons got married, but it wasn't exciting anymore, and they got divorced shorty after.

One daughter ended up a doctor, but she had no male role model growing up and she ended up marrying two assholes that beat the shite out of her...

The other daughter barely graduated high school, had drug problems, and never talked to her father again...

but at least he had sex...

This isn’t real.

I married into a step situation and the kid thinks the dad is a POS. Same situation.

Hope the pooty is worth all that.

There are defective fathers out there. OP is one of them.

Troll somewhere else, why did you waste our time typing all that