re: ADHD and clutter

I can find stuff until she organizes it.

Ignoring mail (bills) isn't accidental due to ADD. It's ignoring reality, and bills are the reality that absolutely cannot be ignored.

When paper bills were still the thing, I'd immediately open the envelope, write a check, stamp it, and write the date I needed to mail it in the top left corner, and stuck it in a $1.50 Office Depot vertical mail rack. I'd also enter the amount into the budgeting software, so the money was already mentally "gone."

Now, it's e-bills.

Sign up for e-bills, but make sure YOU are copied when statements are mailed and paid. There's a fair chance these will get "missed" too, because it's not about clutter. On my end, similar to paper bills, I will get the notification of the statement in email, and I will go make the payment or move the date up to the day the statement was issued just to get it done.

But I'm the guy that scans my bills, and an tell you what I paid for water and trash in June of 2014. But I forced myself to become that way precisely so I'd never be what your husband is, the, "I forgot," guy. It wasn't natural, but I didn't want to make excuses for myself.

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ADHD isn’t real


If you have to take drugs to sit at a desk or whatever that’s a sign from God that you were meant to do manual labor

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el Gaucho with the rare shite post that is actually a truthful post

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Are you sure he has ADHD or he's just messy

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I’d ask him, but he went to bed at 4:30 am (leaving all the lights on) after staying up late buying stuff on line for his 12TH new hobby this year, of which half of that stuff will go unused/ half put together in a pile by the door to be “returned” later (but never really). We’ve had water shut off twice because he forgets to pay bills until I went to city hall to set up auto debit but he won’t let me manage bill payment because I will scrutinize impulse purchases. He sleeps maybe 3 hours a night and is up scrolling his phone, which never leaves his hand. He’s had the police called for a “loud party” by a neighbor. It was just him in the back yard on the phone. I haven’t finished a sentence in 30 years without being interrupted. Imagine Pee-Wee Herman on redbull. Anyone he has ever met in his life can attest he is ADHD level 10.

Has he tried medication?

Honey?

I didn’t realize you posted on TD.

Stop hiding my shite in drawers.

I remember right where I left it on the counter.

medicating mental/brain issues is the greatest failure of the medical community in the history of civilization. The brain needs energy in the proper amount and in the proper way to function effectively. Figure that out (how to deliver it) and you’ll figure out the “ADHD”

Only liberals believe in “mental illness”


Real Americans treat their kids adhd with a belt instead of a pill

So you have a husband and a son with ADHD? Yikes.