re: 12 Year Old Girl with BPD

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I have set up cameras. In fact I caught her sneaking butcher knives into her room. When I confronted her about it she said she was going to attack my wife and her baby sister with them.

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I'm sure there's a military hospital where you are - can you get her admitted for observation? These types of threats would seem to be an automatic for having her admitted.

Has any progress toward helping your daughter and family been made?

I had 2 paragraphs typed out as to what I would do... but it's not my place to tell anyone to make that choice. Hope your family gets its peace back and the other children aren't affected.

Edit:: ill just say this. you don't want to live the regret of not doing something if one of your other family members winds up hurt or dead.

Are you and her mom still together? Is the sister from another mother? How long did mom stay home with her when she was a baby? Do you and/or wife spend much time trying to really connect with her in some meaningful way each and every day? Do you spend much time together as a family over dinner, etc?

Since it appears mom works full time and has a 1 year old, it doesn’t appear your kids are a priority in your life. She probably thinks so, too, and is trying to force you to do so as well by acting out in crazy ways.

She may be “bipolar,” but this also seems like the actions of an emotionally damaged child who had little to no nurturing from her mother whose job it was to do that.

Are you in the BC area??

My son is a little older , and fights any demons. I found a local chapter of NAMI. It’s a national organization for those with mental issues and the family members of them too. Great for resources and information. I don’t know if BR has a local but Lafayette does. I’d highly recommend contacting them. Family members support group meetings were first Sunday of every month. But you can search internet for current info
God bless you and yours. It’s a difficult journey, traveled by to many. There is always hope.

If she truly has, Borderline Personality Disorder, then she needs help. I know you're trying, but this is beyond the scope of most therapists. She needs to see someone that deals with BPD routinely before she hurts herself or someone else.

I am bipolar. Was told years ago by a Dr but didn't believe him. But it only gets worse the older you get. Biggest problem are the meds and side effects. One medication might work for one person and not someone else. This condition really sucks.

Just know when she gets mad and uncontrollably, give her space. When a person with this crap gets mad, they can't control it even though they think in their mind to stop but they can't.

When I have had manic episodes in the past, I usually can self reflect after an hour and sort it out.
The smallest thing can set it off. And I fell stupid and apologize for it. But thank God I have a very supportive family.

Now for the really bad news. People with this disorder are very prone to impulsive behavior. They usually get into drug use or alcohol. I did when I was young. But I managed to get a really good job that did frequent drug test and I had a family that was more important.

And the worst thing is people that don't have this don't understand. Some people will dismiss it and blame you. Tell you it's fake. I wish it was but it's not. Just make sure she knows you love her. And find a medication that works. Good luck and hope this helps.

One other thing. Find her a hobby. Martial arts helped me a lot. Find out what she likes. Just something to focus her attention on. Something with goals and something to look forward to.

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Sounds like a sociopath. Yikes!

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Don't think so. Sounds like she is trying to get attention. Just have to give her positive attention. But take her suicidal threats very serious. I still struggle with it all the time. But knowing what that would do to my family holds it at bay.