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re: How Do You Deal With Death?
Posted on 5/24/20 at 3:59 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Posted on 5/24/20 at 3:59 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I am usually called on to carry the casket. Very small family (yes, I am a girl). Haven't had to deal with any seriously direct blows, aunts and uncles, mainly. But, I am usually the one with tears, because loss of life is sad. Someone close, I don't know, I probably will withdraw. I struggle with what I believe happens after. I think the choices we make here and how kind we are to others is very important.
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Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:01 pm to Odysseus32
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1. I'm scared to death of dying. I'm not religious, I don't have any idea what happens after death. My assumption is that it's like before you were born, so nothing at all. But it scares the hell out of me. Admittedly, this fear has subsided a bit this past year.
I'm pretty much the exact same way. I unfortunately think about it all the time and I'm not quite sure way. I consider myself agnostic, so maybe my lack in faith is the reason for this, but it's always been hard to actually follow a specific religion since I'm more of a 'see it to believe it' kinda guy. I'd like to believe in an afterlife, but it's hard to believe something like that when no physical evidence of it exists.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:10 pm to BregmansWheelbarrow
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Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:10 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Prepare yourself for the loss if you know they aren’t in good health. My grandfather didn’t have the greatest health and he died pretty young for a grandparent. He lived a pretty hard life blue collar life though and had been in and out of the hospital a few times. After one of his health scares I thought to myself about the possibility of him passing and prepared for it. He died suddenly a few years ago and it sucked, but I was able to handle it ok as I had thought about it possibly happening. I still grieved but I was able to move on before some of my other family members. It’s different for everyone, but for me it helped.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:13 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:13 pm to SaintlyTiger88
A few years back, we buried my dad on a Monday and the wife's dad died that Friday. My dad was my hero and the wife's dad was one of the best men I have ever known.
Was a tough week, but dad had dementia and the wife's dad had lung cancer (asbestosis).
My religious beliefs are beyond strong. Regardless of my beliefs, they are both in a better place.
As for me, I will finish playing the hand I have been dealt and go with no regrets or any fear of death. We live, we love and we die. Our responsibility to make the very best of our time and die having accomplished something worthwhile.
Was a tough week, but dad had dementia and the wife's dad had lung cancer (asbestosis).
My religious beliefs are beyond strong. Regardless of my beliefs, they are both in a better place.
As for me, I will finish playing the hand I have been dealt and go with no regrets or any fear of death. We live, we love and we die. Our responsibility to make the very best of our time and die having accomplished something worthwhile.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:21 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I’ve become terrified of it. I simply enjoy living and see no reason why I wouldn’t want to live forever.
I deal with it by ignoring it as best as I can. I do believe I’m going to be a basket case if I reach 60 because I’ll feel death is always the next step by then. Maybe there’s an inherent brain response that shuts down the fear of death as we get older and closer to it. But I think I fear fearing death at that age more than death itself.
I deal with it by ignoring it as best as I can. I do believe I’m going to be a basket case if I reach 60 because I’ll feel death is always the next step by then. Maybe there’s an inherent brain response that shuts down the fear of death as we get older and closer to it. But I think I fear fearing death at that age more than death itself.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:23 pm to MeridianDog
I've buried all 4 of my grandparents, my mother, my father, my sister...she was only 42 ..and my best friend for life in a freakish golfing accident, he was 29. My sister's death was the one which made me focus on the living, made me more committed to loving & enjoying them in every day life, every day. I have an older sister, 2 sons in their 30's and 2 unbelievable grand children, a 3 yr old little girl & 1 yr old little boy. I miss those that I have lost, each in their own way, but my focus is on those I still have
with me. This way works for me.
with me. This way works for me.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:25 pm to Methuselah
Once..I entered college. I enjoyed learning, making new friends, and earning my degree.
Then I had to leave and it made me sad. But had I not left, the younger high school students would not have been able to come to my university. There was only room for so many students.
I became depressed that I was no longer able to contact my college friends. No internet or email or social media when I left university.
I wrote a letter to the college ministry priest. My old friend, Father Ted, told me it was time for me to be kicked from the nest and to learn to spread my wings and fly.
Life on this earth is about learning and loving but at some point, you have to let go and allow the younger generations to enjoy the experiences that you had.
Then I had to leave and it made me sad. But had I not left, the younger high school students would not have been able to come to my university. There was only room for so many students.
I became depressed that I was no longer able to contact my college friends. No internet or email or social media when I left university.
I wrote a letter to the college ministry priest. My old friend, Father Ted, told me it was time for me to be kicked from the nest and to learn to spread my wings and fly.
Life on this earth is about learning and loving but at some point, you have to let go and allow the younger generations to enjoy the experiences that you had.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:26 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I don't really know how I deal with it. Haven't been close to anyone that has died.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:26 pm to Keltic Tiger
When I had the stroke I considered that I could die The only regret I had is that I hadn't a chance to say goodbye to some people in the hide the porn and sex toys.
It was sobering laying there in the hospital bed doctors and nurses all the panic and me thinking this could be it,I imagine I'll be learning a lot of important life's lessons in the months to come
It was sobering laying there in the hospital bed doctors and nurses all the panic and me thinking this could be it,I imagine I'll be learning a lot of important life's lessons in the months to come
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:28 pm to OWLFAN86
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OWLFAN86
You are a very smart man, Mr. Owl and we all (mostly) care about you very much.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:29 pm to OWLFAN86
You at Methodist Willowbrook? If so, ask the nurse to fetch you a tuna sandwich from the cafeteria. Those things are money there.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:30 pm to SaintlyTiger88
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When a loved one is taken from you, how do you deal with it?
I start by not thinking they were taken from me. They we never “mine” in the first place.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:31 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I lost my dad in January. I find that not thinking about it helps. Also, as I get older I’m less emotional about things. Death is a part of life and I accept that. It’s the natural order of things.
One thing I did before he passed was to write out my feelings to him so he could read it. There was nothing left unsaid, bc regret like that would have been tough.
One thing I did before he passed was to write out my feelings to him so he could read it. There was nothing left unsaid, bc regret like that would have been tough.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:31 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I accept life’s process with a deep faith, not that I am at church each week. Losing a loved one is never easy & mourning is expected. Kirk Douglas was interviewed after his 100th birthday & was asked, “Kirk, are you afraid of death”? He replied, “Afraid? Afraid of death? Why? Everyone does it”.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:32 pm to SCLibertarian
Sorry to hear that man. I know you’re not my biggest fan, but I’m praying for you.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:33 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I take it pretty hard. Thoughts of my own death doesn't bring me the anxiety that the death of someone close does.
I've never believed in an afterlife like a heaven or hell. I'm open to some kind of universal consciousness we become absorbed by, but we lose individual consciousness.
I've never believed in an afterlife like a heaven or hell. I'm open to some kind of universal consciousness we become absorbed by, but we lose individual consciousness.
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:34 pm to mattz1122
I've been moved to a rehab center in Tomball I've been here two weeks I'm here at least another week Monday will be a month since the episode
Posted on 5/24/20 at 4:35 pm to liz18lsu
Love you Liz You've been very encouraging during all this I will recover enough to be able to grab your arse when we meet
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