How Do You Deal With Death?

It's happens so we move on, very few family members deaths have impacted me so far

“Death smiles at us all; all we can do is smile back.”

I lost my dad at a very young age and I think it shut something off in my brain. I’ve lost grandparents, close friends..including my best friend that I had known my entire life...and even a girlfriend and when I went to the funerals, people would seem upset with me because I wasn’t visibly upset or just outright losing my shite.

I do get sad, obviously I care about the people most important to me...I’m just not an emotional person. I don’t have it in me. The bright side is that people that are struggling find me easy to talk to because I control my emotions so well, they say it makes it easier for them to communicate their feelings without breaking down themselves.

As far as what happens after death...I figure someone will see fit to find me a good patch of dirt under a nice big tree and bury me there. That’s about my only expectation.

I refuse to think about it until the time comes, I’d drive myself crazy otherwise.

You mourn your loss and go on with your life. If the person who died truly loved you, that’s what they’d want.

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When a loved one is taken from you, how do you deal with it?

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You just deal with it. Some pray, some cry, some exercise. My wife and I have an appointment Tuesday to see if her bleeding is just implantation bleeding or if she miscarried. This would be our first child. I've done all 3 things I just mentioned in the past 12 hours.

I basically checked out of life for 3 months after losing my son last year. It was an incredibly trying time and I still think about it every day. You can’t imagine what it feels like to have to sit with a funeral director and plan your young child’s funeral.

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It's happens so we move on, very few family members deaths have impacted me so far

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You must be quite young.

Death happens to every single human being. I don't cry when people die. I believe they are in a better place. It's just a fact of life to me.

Now the exception to this is the death of a child. THAT is not supposed to happen. If I lost my child, I think I would just stop breathing.

I've been to many family funerals. I was there the moment my stepdad passed away from cancer. My father currently has cancer, and many of his siblings are dead or on their way to death.

This is has had two effects on me.

1. I'm scared to death of dying. I'm not religious, I don't have any idea what happens after death. My assumption is that it's like before you were born, so nothing at all. But it scares the hell out of me. Admittedly, this fear has subsided a bit this past year.

2. When people die I don't really have much of a response.

People die. That's what happens. When I hear of family members dying, I just sorta hurt for their loved ones. The person is gone, but someone else is in pain. That's the real tragedy.