re: How Do You Deal With Death?

God bless you.

Went to funerals almost every month as a kid, lots of older relatives. Dad died when I was 14. Short of losing a child or niece/nephew, meh, we gotta go some time.

Oh man SC. I am so sorry, your wife and you will be in my prayers. God needed another angel, please talk to someone like a therapist or a pastor or vent on this forum. I will be glad to give you my email address if you want to chat. I’ve never been through anything like that but seriously will let you vent, brother.

I lost my mom when I was 10. No one's death, including my dad's, has affected me as much since then. It was very hard at the time but I learned early to accept death. My kids are grown and losing one of them would hurt some, but I could deal with it. Admittedly, losing one of my grand kids would challenge my courage.

I do believe in an after-life. I worked in the hospital right out of high school. I got to know a lot of patients that eventually died. Then I had to handle there dead bodies. No one will ever convince me that a person's spirit, life force, soul, or whatever it was that occupied that empty shell, just ceased to exist.

There's something behind a person's eyes that I believe will always exist in some form or another. Like water. It's either liquid water, or water vapor, or ice, or steam. Or it's hydrogen and oxygen molecules. But it never really goes away. I'm sure some scholar will disagree and prove me wrong, but that's my story and I'm sticking to it. So I look at dying as going on to the next great adventure. Makes it more palatable.

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When a loved one is taken from you, how do you deal with it?

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Well, in the last two years I had an older brother and Dad die. These two were the most influential men in my life and in no time they're gone. I feel like I have been abandoned and lost most of the time.i
I was their hospice caretaker so I feel that I fulfilled my part in honoring their lives and I am proud they wanted me to do for them at their weakest time.