A stepdad with your child

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saw pictures on social media

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Don’t have a Facebook if you are not with your kids mother. There is NO good that can come from it.

If you are active in your child’s life it’s probably disrespectful on the part of the mother.

If you aren’t active in your child’s life then just be happy someone was willing to pick up your slack and give them some positive attention.

It is much worse having a single mother raising your son who is trashy rolling dudes in one after the next.

When you have kids you want them in a stable situation when they are not with you.

I think it depends on the situation of the kids father. If the kids father is nonexistent in his life then I’m all in on a stepdad trying to be a father figure to the son, but if the kid has a good father who’s in his life then yeah I think it’s weird for a stepdad to try and take the role of being a father.

I have a stepdad who tried too hard to be my father and it was very annoying. My actual father is very active in my life and always has been, and he’s a very good dad so someone else trying to push himself as a father was very annoying and it would push me away from having a good relationship with my stepdad because he was just trying too hard. All in all it just depends on the situation as to whether the actual father is in the kids life or not.

Less Facebooking would probably make you feel better about yourself. That said, I would welcome any positive influence into my child’s life when not with me.

This would be my biggest reason to avoid divorce as a married man with a child.

I’m a step dad. Met my current wife when her son was 8. His dad is very much in his life so I kept my role in check and just tried to be an “extra” influence when needed. The only really uncomfortable part was that I was athletic and into sports and his dad wasn’t. So we went to the ballpark and played catch more than he and his dad. Then I started coaching his little league baseball team. His dad came to the games and practices and I always felt like I was taking away something from him. It all worked out though. Kid is 18 now and in the military. Me and the dad get along.

I wouldnt have a problem with the BF/new hubby trying to be a friend to my kids ect, but the second he crosses that line and tries to physically discipline or have my kid call him any form of "Dad" we'll have a serious conversation

I think a little discomfort would be normal, as we men are territorial creatures. However, if it really bothers someone badly, they are probably just feeling guilty that they are not putting forth the effort that they should be to raise their own child.