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The disingenuous double standard of people marrying too young. What’s your take?
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:06 pm
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:06 pm
So often you hear people mentioning someone marrying young (let’s say 18-25) say: “well, everyone is different” - then if the marriage doesn’t work for whatever reason, you’ll hear people say, including the former bride/groom say, “we were just too young”
Anyone personally experience this or know of someone that has gone through this? Are these things said to simply placate those affected?
Anyone personally experience this or know of someone that has gone through this? Are these things said to simply placate those affected?
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Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:09 pm to Paul Allen
I married my practice wife when I was 30. She was a bitch/slut/whore. It didn't work out. I was too young.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:09 pm to Paul Allen
Hindsigts always 20/20 partner.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:11 pm to Paul Allen
It is what it is. Plenty of examples on both sides. The biggest problem I find is that regardless of age people often rush in without really understanding what they are fully getting into.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:14 pm to Paul Allen
It's never an age issue. It's a maturity issue. Some that get married at 20 are more ready than those who wait til 30.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:26 pm to Paul Allen
most people used to get married at 16-18 yrs old, anything over 16 is not "too young" to get married
age has nothing to do with being ready for marriage, whether or not you are mentally mature is all that matters, some people never are mentally ready for marriage
age has nothing to do with being ready for marriage, whether or not you are mentally mature is all that matters, some people never are mentally ready for marriage
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:27 pm to Paul Allen
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Paul Allen
Dang, Paul Allen. You came close to asking an interesting question.
Why did so many marriages from 100 years ago survive, when, on average, the newlyweds were much younger than today?
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:29 pm to Paul Allen
Almost any age feels too young to get married.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:30 pm to Paul Allen
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marrying young (let’s say 18-25)
young? in the south that is considered old
over 25 and single down here, you are practically a pariah
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:53 pm to Paul Allen
Get married and have kids from 16-25. That way when you are divorced at 35, your kids will be on their on, and you still have a lot of years to chill.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 3:56 pm to Paul Allen
I’m 30 and get tired of people telling me after I dump someone that “you don’t want to wait too long - all the good ones will be taken.”
Bitch, that ain’t the reason to get married. I’ve never been married and know that’s a classic way to end up unhappy.
Bitch, that ain’t the reason to get married. I’ve never been married and know that’s a classic way to end up unhappy.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 4:11 pm to Paul Allen
I did the whole young military marriage thing
It was pretty commonplace and acceptable at the time (still is). I saw nothing wrong with it. 10 wasted years later, I could kick myself in the balls for that decision.
People warned me but I thought I had the world figured out.
I did not fully appreciate the fact that I was still learning who I was as an adult nor did I anticipate my "adult self" being 180 degrees different than my spouse at the time. As we approached our 30's we truly matured away from each other.
It was pretty commonplace and acceptable at the time (still is). I saw nothing wrong with it. 10 wasted years later, I could kick myself in the balls for that decision.
People warned me but I thought I had the world figured out.
I did not fully appreciate the fact that I was still learning who I was as an adult nor did I anticipate my "adult self" being 180 degrees different than my spouse at the time. As we approached our 30's we truly matured away from each other.
This post was edited on 12/19/17 at 4:12 pm
Posted on 12/19/17 at 4:22 pm to Paul Allen
I was 21 and my wife was 16 when we wed. The same age as her parents and my parents when they wed. We re going on 43 years. Both of our parents remained married. My father is gone now.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 4:56 pm to Paul Allen
quote:Every situation is different.
Anyone personally experience this or know of someone that has gone through this?
Younger people don't yet have the wisdom to chose wisely.
That being said I married my barely 18 year old bride when I was 21. We've been together through good times and bad for 48 years and counting.
We had to work through some rough patches but divorce was never a consideration.
We are closer today than ever before. All the work was dam well worth it.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 4:58 pm to Paul Allen
There are 23 year olds mature enough for marriage, and there are some who are not.
Everyone changes with age, it's just too easy to blame it on youth
Everyone changes with age, it's just too easy to blame it on youth
Posted on 12/19/17 at 7:38 pm to Paul Allen
My wife and I got together when I was 17 and she was 16. We moved in together about 6 months later.
19 years later we are still together and couldnt be happier. Our house and everything else in our possession is paid for and we have 2 kids that we adore.
Its a highly individualized institution. Some people should never get married or attempt a committed relationship. Theyre too selfish.
19 years later we are still together and couldnt be happier. Our house and everything else in our possession is paid for and we have 2 kids that we adore.
Its a highly individualized institution. Some people should never get married or attempt a committed relationship. Theyre too selfish.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 8:05 pm to Paul Allen
I got married in 1994. I was 17. She was 18. We were too young and we're still married to each other.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 8:23 pm to Paul Allen
Married at 23 (both of us). No one batted an eye about it, but it was the early 90s.
Posted on 12/19/17 at 8:28 pm to Paul Allen
People change a lot between the ages of 18-22, they change again between the ages of 23-28. People who get married young have the opportunity, and liability, to grow and change together. However, sometimes, partners won’t like who their partner changed to be. Rather than embracing those changes and loving unconditionally, some people simply do not maintain those affections. “You’re not who I fell in love with” is a common phrase for that reason.
Women hope men can change (the way they want them to).
Men hope women stay the same (the way they fell for them).
Women hope men can change (the way they want them to).
Men hope women stay the same (the way they fell for them).
Posted on 12/19/17 at 9:13 pm to Paul Allen
I've never heard a couple say we got married to late.
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