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Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:27 pm to DCtiger1
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Sorry I don't bust my arse to give all my money to my wife.
Horrible way to look at it if you want to stay married long term. Whatever you make is hers and vice versa
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:27 pm to OweO
shut the frick up
you live in shitty hood, with roaming dogs
and you live off of the Government
you have nothing to spend $$ on and its not even your $$
you live in shitty hood, with roaming dogs
and you live off of the Government
you have nothing to spend $$ on and its not even your $$
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:29 pm to OweO
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I know one married couple in particular
You "know" more people than can fit in Tiger Stadium
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:31 pm to danilo
either they get or they don't....their is no "I" in team...and that is what it is...I am lucky...wife doesn't work, but is frugal ...but she wants for nothing...
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:31 pm to DCtiger1
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You misunderstood my point. Income inequality is a huge issue. If one makes 100,000 and one makes 30,000, you can be "in it together" while still having issues. Sorry I don't bust my arse to give all my money to my wife.
My wife made almost double what I did early on before we had twins. She changed careers to spend more time at home and now I make a lot more than she does. We don't really compare incomes vs spending now but she probably spends more than me. She lets me manage the money so I'm good. We're also in our early 40s so it took some time to find a workable system for us
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:33 pm to danilo
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Everyone says one of the subjects married people argue over most is money.
Married for two years.
We have had a lot of big purchases arise, lots of bills, etc and never fought about money.
It's all in how you discuss it rather than argue over it.
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:35 pm to DCtiger1
quote:I'm in that exact position right now, and we have no arguments over money. With your mindset, I'd be surprised if you could find a woman to put up with you.
You misunderstood my point. Income inequality is a huge issue. If one makes 100,000 and one makes 30,000, you can be "in it together" while still having issues. Sorry I don't bust my arse to give all my money to my wife.
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:36 pm to stout
I bet they want to swing with him
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:36 pm to danilo
We argue over one issue that bubbles up...but that is neither money nor infidelity.
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:36 pm to cuyahoga tiger
quote:I think you're misguided.
their is no "I" in team...and that is what it is...I am lucky...wife doesn't work,
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:36 pm to cuyahoga tiger
quote:
their is no "I" in team
No, but there is an "M" and an "E"
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:42 pm to danilo
We got married when I was in graduate school. I didn't have jack shite for money and we lived off of her office job. After I graduated and got a job I never said a peep about how we spent our money (and we were relatively frugal). We were never a "keepin up with the Jones" type of people. We had friends and family on both sides of our income range-we just lived our life the best way we could and made sure our kids had everything they needed. If you're really a couple then you'll figure a way to work it out.
Posted on 7/31/17 at 9:57 pm to danilo
I save, she spends. And if we divorce she gets half the savings and everything that was spent.
Posted on 7/31/17 at 10:28 pm to DCtiger1
quote:
Arguments with spouse over money
You misunderstood my point. Income inequality is a huge issue. If one makes 100,000 and one makes 30,000, you can be "in it together" while still having issues. Sorry I don't bust my arse to give all my money to my wife.
My wife and I always made equal money from the time we started dating until 6 or 7 years ago. When we made equal money we split all bills 50/50. 7 years ago she took a job that moved us from NC to Baton Rouge and I had to take a 20k pay cut to follow her career because she had a degree and an opportunity to better us faster than my career path. We talked about it like adults and we came to the conclusion that I could no longer afford to split the bills 50/50 and she said she would cover them all except for my truck note and insurance. We still spilt groceries at this point and she still paid all the bills.
We have never argued over money no matter who is the making the most.
This post was edited on 7/31/17 at 10:31 pm
Posted on 7/31/17 at 10:59 pm to Rize
My recipe for success:
I earn more in my regular job. I also have a small side biz. We have joint checking and she can see every transaction in the personal and biz accounts with the press of a button or by picking up a phone.
She pays all the bills. We stay in our lane. Took a transition period once we merged finances. It doesn't just happen smoothly. It takes push and pull, give and take, insert your cliche here.
She doesn't begrudge me fishing costs or my Mardi Gras stuff. She gets whatever dress and shoes her heart desires for Mardi Gras and I can cook the fire out of the Reds, Specs and Tuna I bring home for her. She got a new car. I drive one with 246K+ Miles.
I get to watch a lot of college football. She fills up the DVR with Bravo bullshite.
I give, I take. She gets, she gives. But the key to all of it is her seeing EXACTLY what I spent at Artie's the first night of our charter trip. She sees it all and she can crack on me for it if she wants. I show it all to her.
The key is not to keep secrets and not to be an a-hole. Getting married should mean you don't have any and you aren't one. Now I have friends who have wives who are accountants for their business. I have other friends whose wives know there's side money and don't wanna know about it and trust without that knowledge. I'm not telling you the key to every situation is to do it my way every time.
But what I do works for me. You have to find what works with you. It takes time and it takes patience and it takes having the ability to compromise.
I earn more in my regular job. I also have a small side biz. We have joint checking and she can see every transaction in the personal and biz accounts with the press of a button or by picking up a phone.
She pays all the bills. We stay in our lane. Took a transition period once we merged finances. It doesn't just happen smoothly. It takes push and pull, give and take, insert your cliche here.
She doesn't begrudge me fishing costs or my Mardi Gras stuff. She gets whatever dress and shoes her heart desires for Mardi Gras and I can cook the fire out of the Reds, Specs and Tuna I bring home for her. She got a new car. I drive one with 246K+ Miles.
I get to watch a lot of college football. She fills up the DVR with Bravo bullshite.
I give, I take. She gets, she gives. But the key to all of it is her seeing EXACTLY what I spent at Artie's the first night of our charter trip. She sees it all and she can crack on me for it if she wants. I show it all to her.
The key is not to keep secrets and not to be an a-hole. Getting married should mean you don't have any and you aren't one. Now I have friends who have wives who are accountants for their business. I have other friends whose wives know there's side money and don't wanna know about it and trust without that knowledge. I'm not telling you the key to every situation is to do it my way every time.
But what I do works for me. You have to find what works with you. It takes time and it takes patience and it takes having the ability to compromise.
This post was edited on 7/31/17 at 11:02 pm
Posted on 7/31/17 at 11:08 pm to GFunk
You know a better story for the OT is I've had sleep overs with the girl who outed your avatar.
This post was edited on 7/31/17 at 11:10 pm
Posted on 7/31/17 at 11:20 pm to danilo
Explaining the difference between "needs" and "wants" to your wife is a losing battle. After about a hundred times you'll want to kill yourself.
Posted on 7/31/17 at 11:47 pm to danilo
Money is also one of the leading causes of divorce I believe.
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