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Posted on 4/29/16 at 5:55 pm to Titus Pullo
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Get that first piece of pussy out of the way and the rest will fall in line.
Hell get a high dollar, fine arse escort if you have too so you don't fall in love with the first ho that gives you a taste. That will get your confidence up and with you having a good education and job and being successful the chicks will come to you. Esp in a city like DC where there's probably more girls than straight guys.
Maybe for his second piece of tail, but the first I don't think you should go with a prostitute. Just go to a nasty night club, find the trashiest girl you can find, frick her, and then go out for the big leagues. Losing your v-card to an actual whore I think would make his self esteem even worse, since subconsciously he'd be thinking he has to pay for it in order to get it.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 5:55 pm to MouseBenQ
I was wondering how in the world you were 28 with no relationships then you said you're Asian and you went to Georgia and it made sense.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 6:00 pm to The Boat
Sunday school and small groups-make some real friends, and it'll all start to happen. 99% percent of the girls i ever dated where through mutual friends. Set up with my wife on a blind date.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 6:06 pm to OMLandshark
He just needs to get it out of the way to realize it's not a big deal and not put it on a pedestal.
Also, if his first time is with someone other than a pro, he could just as likely be self-conscious about whether he's "doing it right" or whether she enjoyed it.
Like I said though, it's just an option. But should he go that route he should get a fine looking escort and not some back page skank. A 28 year old who's single, working and never been in a relationship should have plenty of cash.
The main thing is not to fall in love with a skabk or a ho just because they gave you some and be confident everywhere he goes.
Also, if his first time is with someone other than a pro, he could just as likely be self-conscious about whether he's "doing it right" or whether she enjoyed it.
Like I said though, it's just an option. But should he go that route he should get a fine looking escort and not some back page skank. A 28 year old who's single, working and never been in a relationship should have plenty of cash.
The main thing is not to fall in love with a skabk or a ho just because they gave you some and be confident everywhere he goes.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 6:08 pm to MouseBenQ
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if you can't change ur personality
You can. What steps have you taken to improve yourself? Grab a few self-help books, hit the gym, start dressing better and pay for a good haircut. Your confidence will soar in six months.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 6:19 pm to I Love Bama
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You can. What steps have you taken to improve yourself? Grab a few self-help books, hit the gym, start dressing better and pay for a good haircut. Your confidence will soar in six months.
Or you could skip all that and just get hooked on cocaine.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 6:25 pm to MouseBenQ
Here are your steps:
1. Never allow yourself to base your self-esteem and identity based on success with women or the success with others. If you do, you will never be happy with yourself.
2. Become the person you want to be. If that means reaching a certain level of education, do it. If that means getting in shape, learning an instrument, learning a new language, having a specific hobby, ect. Do it. Keep learning, keep pushing, and keep improving yourself.
3. Live the lifestyle you want to live. There is a job out there that fits your talents and lifestyle, at least to a degree. Seek it, do it. If you want to be an outdoorsy person who travels a lot, just work to do that. It seems stupid, and simplistic, but it's the truth. However, it will take time, patience, planning, and effort to achieve but it is always doable.
4. Whatever you love doing, always strive to be the best you can possibly be at it. This is how you continue to build confidence. As you realize you are in better shape, more competent, more skilled, ect your confidence will go up.
5. DO NOT LOOK for relationships. DO NOT CHASE women. If you look you will never find. If you chase, they will run. Just do. Just enjoy living and being who you are and they will come to you.
6. Be funny and confident, but not obnoxious or arrogant.
7. Always treat every single person you meet with the utmost respect and compassion whether they're a secretary, a homeless man, or a CEO.
8. When all else fails, live for others. Volunteer your time to charities. Get involved with organizations. Give back to your family, ect. The more love you give away freely, the more life tends to love you back. It's all very reciprical in the geand scheme of things.
Follow these 8 rules and you will never be a failure. You may stumble a lot, but you can only truly fail if you quit trying to better yourself and others.
1. Never allow yourself to base your self-esteem and identity based on success with women or the success with others. If you do, you will never be happy with yourself.
2. Become the person you want to be. If that means reaching a certain level of education, do it. If that means getting in shape, learning an instrument, learning a new language, having a specific hobby, ect. Do it. Keep learning, keep pushing, and keep improving yourself.
3. Live the lifestyle you want to live. There is a job out there that fits your talents and lifestyle, at least to a degree. Seek it, do it. If you want to be an outdoorsy person who travels a lot, just work to do that. It seems stupid, and simplistic, but it's the truth. However, it will take time, patience, planning, and effort to achieve but it is always doable.
4. Whatever you love doing, always strive to be the best you can possibly be at it. This is how you continue to build confidence. As you realize you are in better shape, more competent, more skilled, ect your confidence will go up.
5. DO NOT LOOK for relationships. DO NOT CHASE women. If you look you will never find. If you chase, they will run. Just do. Just enjoy living and being who you are and they will come to you.
6. Be funny and confident, but not obnoxious or arrogant.
7. Always treat every single person you meet with the utmost respect and compassion whether they're a secretary, a homeless man, or a CEO.
8. When all else fails, live for others. Volunteer your time to charities. Get involved with organizations. Give back to your family, ect. The more love you give away freely, the more life tends to love you back. It's all very reciprical in the geand scheme of things.
Follow these 8 rules and you will never be a failure. You may stumble a lot, but you can only truly fail if you quit trying to better yourself and others.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 6:26 pm to MouseBenQ
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Been pretty depressed lately. Kinda look back at life and finding that I never had a relationship and I am 28.
"Relationships" are overrated. First get that into your head.
Maybe you're just one of those people who are meant to be alone. I know I am, and once I figured that out I became a free, happy person.
The last time I was in love I was your age. Now, 38 years later, I don't feel deprived, or that I've missed anything. The loner's life has been pretty good for me, and it can be for you too.
If you're a loner type, the loneliest you can be is when you're with another person. Remember that and you'll be alright.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:11 pm to MouseBenQ
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Is it impossible to find the right person specially if you can't change ur personality?
You can't change your personality. But you can change your behavior. Figure out how to put yourself out there.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:13 pm to Cosmo
9mm in the #$#$ for the win
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:15 pm to MouseBenQ
I understand what you're going through, but this is just not the place to ask this question.
Ultimately, work on yourself, improve yourself, and fake the confidence. With time you'll get it, be in shape, and find someone. The best advice I can give is don't put women on some sort of pedostal. They are human beings too, fallible, and capable of fricking up also.
Ultimately, work on yourself, improve yourself, and fake the confidence. With time you'll get it, be in shape, and find someone. The best advice I can give is don't put women on some sort of pedostal. They are human beings too, fallible, and capable of fricking up also.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:32 pm to Jcorye1
Actually I think the OT was pretty easy on him and gave him some good advice.....and some not so good. But he didn't get ripped.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:35 pm to MouseBenQ
You need to start doing cocaine. It will bring you out of your shell.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:36 pm to MouseBenQ
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:37 pm to nes2010
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You need to start doing cocaine. It will bring you out of your shell.
This guy gets it. Nothing gets you laid like cocaine®
Posted on 4/29/16 at 7:40 pm to MouseBenQ
My thought is this is legit. So, being married thirty years, of (at best) very average looks, here is a simple piece of advice.
If you do not believe in yourself, neither will she.
If you do not believe in yourself, neither will she.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 8:01 pm to MouseBenQ
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I live in the DC area so there are some places to go for socializing.
I live in NoVa and believe there is no excuse for being bored here. Join Meetup and find about, oh, 30 groups to hang out with. There's kickball and softball leagues everywhere here, no experience needed, just contact a league and get on the "players looking for a team" list. Or you can join a local running group. A knitting group. A dancing school. Whatever floats your boat, just get out there.
Once you get that going, hit up all the dating websites that appeal to you. Everyone does it here.
Posted on 4/29/16 at 8:07 pm to MouseBenQ
Who else is in for buying this guy his first lay? Put me down for $25
This post was edited on 4/29/16 at 8:08 pm
Posted on 4/29/16 at 11:24 pm to MouseBenQ
I didn't read where you said that there was anything in particular wrong with you. Many people are telling you things you need to do to improve yourself. Do you need improving?
I am leaning toward thinking you avoid conversing with women because you are shy, yet goal oriented with them. The relationship goal quickly translates to desperation so stop it. Talk with them as if they are just another human being, like you are.
Find women to speak with that are in your field so that your conversation can flow naturally. Shared common interests make speaking to anyone easier.
Converse with women that you are not attracted to as well. It is good conversational practice with no pressure for you to be awesome. Compliment them, not with hot or sexy stuff but stuff like you are nice, you are funny, you are smart, etc. Be sincere and truthful with your compliments. Never lie to any of them or act like you are someone you are not.
After you get comfortable talking to someone, consider asking them for their phone number. Send a few light hearted texts since people no longer converse. If she is receptive to the light back and forth texting, ask her to join you for ice cream, Go karts, a museum, or anything that fits in with both of your interests.
women are masters of flirting and subtly letting you know if they are interested. Be observant and receptive. They seldom will hump your leg so you have to watch for her particular style.
Practice makes it all easier and more natural feeling. Be courteous and respectful and have fun.
I am leaning toward thinking you avoid conversing with women because you are shy, yet goal oriented with them. The relationship goal quickly translates to desperation so stop it. Talk with them as if they are just another human being, like you are.
Find women to speak with that are in your field so that your conversation can flow naturally. Shared common interests make speaking to anyone easier.
Converse with women that you are not attracted to as well. It is good conversational practice with no pressure for you to be awesome. Compliment them, not with hot or sexy stuff but stuff like you are nice, you are funny, you are smart, etc. Be sincere and truthful with your compliments. Never lie to any of them or act like you are someone you are not.
After you get comfortable talking to someone, consider asking them for their phone number. Send a few light hearted texts since people no longer converse. If she is receptive to the light back and forth texting, ask her to join you for ice cream, Go karts, a museum, or anything that fits in with both of your interests.
women are masters of flirting and subtly letting you know if they are interested. Be observant and receptive. They seldom will hump your leg so you have to watch for her particular style.
Practice makes it all easier and more natural feeling. Be courteous and respectful and have fun.
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