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Straight Guys that Rub your Back in public

Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:19 am
Posted by tigerpawl
Can't get there from here.
Member since Dec 2003
22454 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:19 am
I'm a guy. There's a male department head that I do work for that has a very annoying habit of rubbing my back, not quite in a gay way, but more as a gesture of encouragement or endearment. However, it is definitely the "slow hand" variety. He's married with kids; very smart and otherwise pleasant to be around. Sometimes it's my bicep while we're shaking hands. It's always in public and in plain sight of other people. He also does it to other men in his department and he seems to be comfortable with it. The others don't object but I'm guessing they're having the same thoughts as me. He did it again to me yesterday. I made up my mind that if he does it again, I'm calling a time-out, pull him aside and politely tell him I would prefer he not do that.

I know some people grow up in families that could be described as "huggers" or "touchers" and develop these habits in their formative years, but I think it's very inappropriate simply because 1) he doesn't have my permission and 2) it's a major invasion of my personal space. I also think this is a classic trait of con artists and/or a method of manipulation.

This ever happen to you? What do you think his motives are? What would you do?
Posted by fightin tigers
Downtown Prairieville
Member since Mar 2008
73729 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:21 am to
Next time he does it jump back and remark loudly, "Quit rubbing me ya queer!"

That'll set him straight.
Posted by Pectus
Internet
Member since Apr 2010
67302 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:23 am to

Posted by Konkey Dong
Member since Aug 2013
2169 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:23 am to
After reading this, I think you are the closet fig
Posted by Sir Drinksalot
Member since Aug 2005
16759 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:24 am to
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because 1) he doesn't have my permission


This is funny to me bc what's the opposite? Signing an agreement to touch?

You're a grown arse man. Tell him you don't like it.
Posted by zmanthetigerfan
Prairieville, LA
Member since Oct 2015
889 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:25 am to
quote:

Sometimes it's my bicep while we're shaking hands

This is a power thing. He has now established dominance over you beta.
Posted by Martini
Near Athens
Member since Mar 2005
48884 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:26 am to
quote:

, I'm calling a time-out, .


He's gonna put his weiner in you and a 30 second time out is all he needs.
Posted by auggie
Opelika, Alabama
Member since Aug 2013
28348 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:26 am to
find a different job,quick.
Posted by Ed Osteen
Member since Oct 2007
57556 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:28 am to
"Hey, while I have you in my personal space and everything, let me tell you to back to frick off"

Fun fact: Matt Hoffman holds his own forearm when shaking people's hands to prevent anyone from pulling his elbow out of socket. He's done so much damage to his arm over the years that it can be pulled out just from the slightest bit of strain
This post was edited on 11/30/15 at 6:31 am
Posted by Upperdecker
St. George, LA
Member since Nov 2014
30668 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 6:50 am to
I bet he'll give you a raise if
you show him your stink hole
Posted by upgrayedd
Lifting at Tobin's house
Member since Mar 2013
135180 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 7:40 am to
You should start moaning and groaning when he does it to you. Say stuff like "oh my God, that's the spot" and "oh yeah, don't stop". Say it loud and in a very sexual way and see how he reacts.
Posted by Rhino5
Atlanta
Member since Nov 2014
28908 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 7:52 am to
Posted by Spilled Milk
Member since Mar 2015
1075 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:04 am to
Send him my way, I enjoy a good back rub...I don't care who it comes from
Posted by Pecker
Rocky Top
Member since May 2015
16674 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:04 am to
quote:

Sometimes it's my bicep while we're shaking hands.

That's not even a natural motion. Unless he's knelt behind you and you're on all fours when you shake hands.
Posted by Ace Midnight
Between sanity and madness
Member since Dec 2006
89765 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:39 am to
So, by implication you would rather a gay guy rub your back or the straight guy to do it in private?





ETA: NTTAWWT
This post was edited on 11/30/15 at 8:40 am
Posted by Jake88
Member since Apr 2005
68636 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:40 am to
He's the Q in LGBTQ. He's testing himself on you. You're in his spank bank, congrats.
Posted by Hangover Haven
Metry
Member since Oct 2013
26906 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:40 am to
Does it move when he rubs you...?
Posted by Mullet Flap
Lysdexia
Member since Jun 2015
4208 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:41 am to
Posted by KosmoCramer
Member since Dec 2007
76635 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:45 am to
He probably does it to everyone in case he gets used for sexual harassment.

He can just have the guys testify that he touches them as well.
Posted by Number2
Baton Rouge
Member since Nov 2009
2270 posts
Posted on 11/30/15 at 8:46 am to
Yeah that's a power move. Next time you see him walk up from behind him wrap your arm around him and lightly tap the lower side of his back (enough to invoke a little bit of pain)and ask him how he's doing.
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