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re: Wife is mad because I won't go to in laws twice in three weeks
Posted on 5/8/24 at 6:05 pm to SidewalkTiger
Posted on 5/8/24 at 6:05 pm to SidewalkTiger
Just read the first page, but stick to your guns brutha. You told her the deal and she knew you wouldn't want to do it. I put my foot down in the same way.
Just give her a good humping the day before she leaves and when she gets back and all will be forgiven.
Keep us updated but stay strong.
Just give her a good humping the day before she leaves and when she gets back and all will be forgiven.
Keep us updated but stay strong.
Posted on 5/8/24 at 6:11 pm to SidewalkTiger
Might as well post pix. Then you'll at least know Jody is someone from TD
Posted on 5/8/24 at 6:14 pm to SidewalkTiger
Dude my wife got mad at me last night because she orders so much shite from Amazon she didn’t pay attention to the shipping label and opened her Mother’s Day present and somehow it was my fault because I sent it to my own damn house and not to my parents house.
I got nothing for you.
I got nothing for you.
Posted on 5/8/24 at 6:38 pm to SidewalkTiger
depends
is your sex life good?
than don’t be a dipshit and go
does she make excuses for not wanting sex or use it as a weapon?
if yes then gloves are coming off and i’ll do everything i can to not meet her “wants”
is your sex life good?
than don’t be a dipshit and go
does she make excuses for not wanting sex or use it as a weapon?
if yes then gloves are coming off and i’ll do everything i can to not meet her “wants”
Posted on 5/8/24 at 7:16 pm to LouisianaLady
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Honestly, for me, the drive just adds insult to injury. Expecting grown adults, especially without children, to sleep over at your home 10 to 12 times a year for multiple nights is pretty crazy.
I did see that OP clarified this isn’t really something her parents are demanding or expecting, but rather something his wife is stuck on.
OP, if I were you, I would sit down with her when you’re not fighting about it and just explain your mismatched expectations. Maybe you can come to a compromise. Personally, I think the frequency you’re going would be too much, but I realize everybody treats seeing family in person differently. Maybe that is your compromise.
I thought going once a month was a good compromise, I'm actually shocked how many folks are saying to just go
Posted on 5/8/24 at 7:41 pm to LouisianaLady
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Serious question. Is this really what most of you do on the weekends?
Those weekends are few and far between now that we have kids and they always having some sport or party or something.
My grandparents passed away when I was really young, so it's always been important for me that my kids get as much time with their grandparents as possible and we try to make as many family events as we can. This doesn't really relate to topic at hand as there are no kids involved, yet.
As far as other poster goes, I think it's crazier to make a 12 hour rountrip visit to in-laws every month than to make it to holiday/family events.
In a vaccuum, visiting family for Mother's Day and a graduation event in a short period of time isn't so bad. But in this situation, I'd probably push for either Mother's Day or Memorial Day, but not both, or if doing both, skipping a month or 2 of the routine weekend visits.
Staying through a Sunday afternoon for church and lunch after with a 6 hour commute home looming sounds brutal.
Posted on 5/8/24 at 8:12 pm to SidewalkTiger
Everyone’s different. Maybe that’s a real compromise for y’all, and that’s fair.
It would be an incompatibility for me personally to go sleep at anyone's house that often. With kids, MAYBE. Maybe. But without? No way.
I could maybe see it if they live somewhere cool and y’all make a fun weekend out of it, but even then I wouldn’t need that monthly. If you’re just sitting in the house looking at each other all weekend, brutal.
Like I said earlier, I feel it is possible to maintain a very close and healthy relationship with your family members by regularly talking to them on the phone and seeing them just occasionally.
It would be an incompatibility for me personally to go sleep at anyone's house that often. With kids, MAYBE. Maybe. But without? No way.
I could maybe see it if they live somewhere cool and y’all make a fun weekend out of it, but even then I wouldn’t need that monthly. If you’re just sitting in the house looking at each other all weekend, brutal.
Like I said earlier, I feel it is possible to maintain a very close and healthy relationship with your family members by regularly talking to them on the phone and seeing them just occasionally.
Posted on 5/8/24 at 8:17 pm to SidewalkTiger
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AITAH
Yea. You are
Posted on 5/8/24 at 8:26 pm to SidewalkTiger
While I agree with the OP, you still get a well deserved downvote for not providing pics x3.
Posted on 5/8/24 at 8:32 pm to LouisianaLady
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. If you’re just sitting in the house looking at each other all weekend, brutal.
They live out in the middle of nowhere on a farm.
I honestly don't see them that much, that's part of the reason it's pointless for me to be there.
I sleep in Saturday morning because we usually get in at 1 or 2 AM, by then her dad is usually gone to town to pick something up or working around the farm.
She kind of visits with her mom and younger sister or whatever, sometimes that evening they'll all come in and we'll talk a little.
Then Sunday, we get up go to church, come home, have lunch, then we leave.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 10:19 am to SidewalkTiger
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quote:
How long you been married and are you the bread winner?
3 years and yes.
I like my in laws, just don't want to go their house twice that quick.
I told her I don't see them visiting us 2 of 3 weekends, and that if her brother's wife was trying this, they'd all tell him to stand up to her.
But when I do it, I'm the bad guy
YANTAH
Posted on 5/9/24 at 10:50 am to GreenRockTiger
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I don’t blame her
I don’t blame him. 6 hours isn’t a short trip
Posted on 5/9/24 at 10:53 am to lsuson
6 hours one way, meaning you are spending 12 hours in a car over the course of 72 hours.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 11:22 am to teke184
Did I miss a mention that you are doing all the driving both ways? If you were to ask your wife to drive the Friday outbound so you could nap, would that get through to her that that long a drive can be miserably stressful? Especially after an eight hour work day.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 11:27 am to SidewalkTiger
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I thought going once a month was a good compromise, I'm actually shocked how many folks are saying to just go
It is a good compromise. I'm advising going unless the fallout of not going is worth it to you.
I think it's too much driving in too short a time frame, and the conversation needs to be had afterward. This needs to be a one time deal, not a pattern.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 11:29 am to fallguy_1978
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Agreed. That's not really a weekend trip to me. Ours is 400 miles one way.
You almost have to take off Friday or Monday to get all of the stuff done that you didn't because you were traveling (laundry, errands, yard work etc). You can do it and be back at work Monday morning, but it sucks.
Nailed it. When you have a full-time job M-F and kids, the weekends is where a lot gets done. these long weekend trips throw all of that out of order and your scrambling to get your balance back the next week.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 1:03 pm to SidewalkTiger
Women are crazy. For example,
Last Friday my wife (no pics) asked me, "hey, what you have planned on Saturday morning? I have a hair appointment Saturday morning and I need you to keep the kids."
I have been prepping for a bass tournament, so she should know that I will be more than likely fishing Saturday morning so I say, ok they can come fishing with me and they both start whining about that.
I do the only logical thing at this point and text my mother to keep the kids Saturday morning for the hour or so she will be gone. I didn't think it was a big deal but she immediately got pissed over it.
"I don't understand why you just can't stay home and keep the kids?" umm because I had plans and there are six other days of the week you can get your hair done? Not to mention the problem is solved. She gets her hair done, I get to leave the house at 6 am to go fishing it should have not been a thing at this point.
The only thing I can see that she was mad that I was not going to be inconvenienced.
Last Friday my wife (no pics) asked me, "hey, what you have planned on Saturday morning? I have a hair appointment Saturday morning and I need you to keep the kids."
I have been prepping for a bass tournament, so she should know that I will be more than likely fishing Saturday morning so I say, ok they can come fishing with me and they both start whining about that.
I do the only logical thing at this point and text my mother to keep the kids Saturday morning for the hour or so she will be gone. I didn't think it was a big deal but she immediately got pissed over it.
"I don't understand why you just can't stay home and keep the kids?" umm because I had plans and there are six other days of the week you can get your hair done? Not to mention the problem is solved. She gets her hair done, I get to leave the house at 6 am to go fishing it should have not been a thing at this point.
The only thing I can see that she was mad that I was not going to be inconvenienced.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 1:08 pm to SidewalkTiger
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From what I can tell, it's more her than them.
They seem to understand, they come here once or twice a year but usually we're the ones traveling.
They would never come twice in three weeks just to visit.
If these are grandparents and they are retired thats pretty messed up.
Posted on 5/9/24 at 1:09 pm to jizzle6609
Sounds like grandpa is still actively a farmer, which means his ability to get away may be limited.
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