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Aging and inner life theory. Agree or not?
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:14 pm
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:14 pm
About aging:
Just a comforting theory for the youngsters on this board. When you are middle aged, or old, you will be THE SAME person you always were ( maybe a little mellower, and certainly uglier, but you will probably just be a physically older version of you.)
Once, in my 20s, I was in a frame shop and I overheard two old ladies talking. They were asserting to each other how they felt the same as they always had about pretty much everything, it was only their outer shell that was different. I was glad to overhear it, because as a young person I dreaded growing old and becoming The Establishment, thinking I’d lose my gusto, or no more romance, or become dull and stodgy.. I guess that CAN happen, but it doesn’t need to.
I, for one, am exactly the same as I always was….possibly a little mellower ("don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff")….but same sense of humor, same "never meet a stranger" attitude, same likes and dislikes. Maybe slightly less of a physical risk taker. (Yea, I won’t be jumping out of a plane again, though zip lining still on the table, that sort of thing. )
Of course, if you are an a-hole, please change. Rein it in. It CAN be done. Otherwise, If you are a pretty good person, and happy within yourself, you can carry that always.
This is why on an Internet chat board, it can be hard to guess ages. Old people don’t write "old speak" Middle Agers don’t write "middle age speak" and college kids don’t write "college speak". ( Well, maybe a little. The newest slang may not catch up to an older generation until it is already out of vogue. I googled "cap" from a JD5 quote this week. I have yet to use appropriately it in a sentence, but I can if I want to! ) The physical old or young clues aren’t there…. No grey hair, or no body piercings, no wrinkles or no acne, no cursive vs lower case. We all look alike on a keyboard….and since most folks FEEL the same throughout life, we express ourselves the same as we always have.. Assumed ages of fellow posters may be wildly off., until someone remembers where they were the day Kennedy was shot, or mentions being married 50 years, or this year graduates college, or some other obvious clue setting the math gymnastics going…
Really old people, those with dementia and other age related mental conditions, can upset that apple cart. …but up to that horrific possibility…you will always be you. Possibly slightly wiser, simply because humans learn from our mistakes…and oldsters have had time to make a LOT of "learning opportunities."
Has this been your experience? Even grade school to college? Diapers to, uh, diapers? The volatility may simmer down, but is the underlying you-ness still the same?
Just a comforting theory for the youngsters on this board. When you are middle aged, or old, you will be THE SAME person you always were ( maybe a little mellower, and certainly uglier, but you will probably just be a physically older version of you.)
Once, in my 20s, I was in a frame shop and I overheard two old ladies talking. They were asserting to each other how they felt the same as they always had about pretty much everything, it was only their outer shell that was different. I was glad to overhear it, because as a young person I dreaded growing old and becoming The Establishment, thinking I’d lose my gusto, or no more romance, or become dull and stodgy.. I guess that CAN happen, but it doesn’t need to.
I, for one, am exactly the same as I always was….possibly a little mellower ("don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff")….but same sense of humor, same "never meet a stranger" attitude, same likes and dislikes. Maybe slightly less of a physical risk taker. (Yea, I won’t be jumping out of a plane again, though zip lining still on the table, that sort of thing. )
Of course, if you are an a-hole, please change. Rein it in. It CAN be done. Otherwise, If you are a pretty good person, and happy within yourself, you can carry that always.
This is why on an Internet chat board, it can be hard to guess ages. Old people don’t write "old speak" Middle Agers don’t write "middle age speak" and college kids don’t write "college speak". ( Well, maybe a little. The newest slang may not catch up to an older generation until it is already out of vogue. I googled "cap" from a JD5 quote this week. I have yet to use appropriately it in a sentence, but I can if I want to! ) The physical old or young clues aren’t there…. No grey hair, or no body piercings, no wrinkles or no acne, no cursive vs lower case. We all look alike on a keyboard….and since most folks FEEL the same throughout life, we express ourselves the same as we always have.. Assumed ages of fellow posters may be wildly off., until someone remembers where they were the day Kennedy was shot, or mentions being married 50 years, or this year graduates college, or some other obvious clue setting the math gymnastics going…
Really old people, those with dementia and other age related mental conditions, can upset that apple cart. …but up to that horrific possibility…you will always be you. Possibly slightly wiser, simply because humans learn from our mistakes…and oldsters have had time to make a LOT of "learning opportunities."
Has this been your experience? Even grade school to college? Diapers to, uh, diapers? The volatility may simmer down, but is the underlying you-ness still the same?
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:16 pm to DarlingClementine
Sir, this is a Ryan’s steakhouse.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:18 pm to DarlingClementine
I remember the first time I did shrooms
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:21 pm to DarlingClementine
Getting old sucks, man. But it sure beats the alternative.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:22 pm to DarlingClementine
You aren’t who you think you are. No person views you the way you view yourself, likely no two people see you the same way. You’re the a-hole to some, friend to others, mentor to some, etc.
Just another random thought to add to your thoughts.
Just another random thought to add to your thoughts.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:23 pm to DarlingClementine
Well I don't get raging boners at random intervals like I did when I was 15; so that's different.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:24 pm to DarlingClementine
To be serious, I'm 50 and I'm "wiser" than say I was at 20, I do feel I'm overall the same person. I'm nonchalant, laid back, laugh easily, and I can get along with anyone. None of that has changed throughout my life. Overall, contrary to my post on here, I'm a very kindhearted person who I admit can be easily manipulated or taken advantage of. I can only see the good in you, can't see the bad. The main base has stayed the same, I've just learned some lessons over the years.
This post was edited on 4/3/24 at 6:25 pm
Posted on 4/3/24 at 6:24 pm to Jim Rockford
That falls under "volatility simmers down" haha
Posted on 4/3/24 at 7:10 pm to Mushroom1968
quote:
I remember the first time I did shrooms
quote:
Mushroom1968
Posted on 4/3/24 at 7:29 pm to DarlingClementine
quote:This is a profound, thought-provoking topic.
is the underlying you-ness still the same
I don't really have a clear answer.
What I will say is this...
In my view, age is a state of mind.
Sometimes, when I'm in a more philosphical mode, I like to look at older people's faces and try to imagine them as a young person. Behind the wrinkles and gray hair is their former, younger self from days past.
Time is a strange concept to ponder. shite trips me out.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 7:31 pm to North Dallas Tiger
TL:DR
This post was edited on 4/3/24 at 7:32 pm
Posted on 4/3/24 at 7:34 pm to DarlingClementine
I’m 63 and feel like 45. With zero supplements… I have a permanent illness but it hasnt changed my spirit. I did give up drinking which has drastically improved my life physically and mentally…
Posted on 4/3/24 at 7:51 pm to mdomingue
quote:
But it sure beats the alternative
Does it though?
Posted on 4/3/24 at 8:02 pm to DarlingClementine
100% feel the same but more cautious and hopefully a little wiser from my "life lessons" but it still cracks me up to see myself old in the mirror. I just don't feel that way except for some physical limitations I didn't have at a younger age.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 8:18 pm to DarlingClementine
If I'd known this post was going to be here, I'd have eaten one of dem D-9 gummies. Maybe I'll eat one tomorrow and come back.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 10:48 pm to DarlingClementine
I’m 52 but my brain is locked in my 30’s. Having younger kids helps. We still cut up and play games like a bunch of kids.
Posted on 4/3/24 at 11:41 pm to DarlingClementine
So all these youngsters getting tattoos everywhere won’t regret it when they’re older, like my mom claims?
Posted on 4/3/24 at 11:57 pm to DarlingClementine
Nice post and well said.
Agreed
In my 40s now and the only thing different is I don’t trust a thing the government says, and have less shits to give and take less shite.
Agreed
In my 40s now and the only thing different is I don’t trust a thing the government says, and have less shits to give and take less shite.
Posted on 4/4/24 at 1:47 am to DarlingClementine
According to anyone over 50 years old since the B.C. era, every young generation is lazy with no work ethic and entitled as there ever has been. Funny bc if that were true the world would digress except technology is exponentially greater today than it was then. Pretty much all the major inventions came from people who were under 45 years old. You think AI or Facebook or Tesla originated from a 60 year old man? No way. It has always been created by the younger aged professionals as they are more open to new concepts and adapting new concepts. Meanwhile a 60 year old in my office couldn't even work a SUM formula in Excel while making $250k. Unbelievable.
Posted on 4/4/24 at 2:21 am to DarlingClementine
I still see myself, for the most part, as the same guy I was at 25. Which is why it's so disconcerting to look in the mirror and see a 45 year old guy looking back at me. Every pass by the mirror is a jump scare now.
This post was edited on 4/4/24 at 3:03 am
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