DarlingClementine

Sorry for your loss.

It’s been 6 years since my husband died, and I still think of him daily, a lot. I still cry sometimes. The pain dulls, and only time does that… but I don’t think it ever goes away. Though I can think of him now and smile, too…For a long time it was pure aching grief.

Losing the ones we love is the hardest thing we ever do in this life. I am glad you had a dad you loved that much, even though it is causing you great pain now. We all have our personal timeline for wading through the worst of it, but it will slowly become more happy memories than anguish.

The first review was very lengthy and had some great suggestions…including bungees and/or cable wrap with combination lock for ‘fail safe’ on the road, and extra security while away from the vehicle.

I am fine squeezing into pretty small sliver of space, usually sleep next to the tire…but the last trip with ice chest/food box/tent//chair/ AND tire was ridiculous! If fact, this fall I was near a marina and it was raining and I didn’t feel like setting up camp…..so I got a room at a lodge by the water. The next morning was Atchafalaya level fog! Luckily, there was also a restaurant at the marina, so I had breakfast, watched the fog and waited for it to lift…this was in Utah, I seldom see fog there

Since my husband died, I just leave sleeping bag and food/water/gear in the SUV.. There are lots of times I just decide to spend the night wherever I am instead of going home.

Going to start using "the shawz", if I can remember it!

My word/s is "weather vane"…more likely referred to as "one of those wind thingys"

Because you are thinking of Dian Fossey who studied gorillas.(she was murdered, never solved)

Jane Goodall studied chimps.

Birute Galdikas studied orangutans.

My favorite thread ever when you recovered the stolen motorcycle in Mississippi. Epic. Something like "I’m going to Mississippi with a trailer and coming back with a motorcycle"

. And you did.

The only thing lacking was any and all "officials" declining to pursue criminal charges,

I’ve worked for estate sale companies for years and have seen every situation. Families can be WRECKED when parents leave assets distributed unequally. Spend it all before you die, leave it all to charity, or spit it EVENLY between the kids. Not the grandkids., they can inherit in turn from their parents, or their parents may choose to pass down grannies $$ right away, but don’t you skip your kids for your grandkids. The sibling without kids gets screwed, or the one with 6 kids gets the lions share.

If one kid has less than another, it doesn’t matter. Leave it equally distributed, and maybe the more well off kids help the poorer sibling…but it should be their choice. A lot of times the poorer sibling made poor choices, and it shouldn’t be successful siblings loss to have little golden child ne’er do well get rewarded for their "grasshopper fiddling while the ants worked" ways.

One thing I see in almost 100% of cases is that the IN LAW fights tooth and nail for money, and they are not even the heir. If a man has four siblings , his WIFE, who is not an heir, will stick her nose in it and demand her husband get every cent coming to him. Same if a woman is the heir, her husband will demand she fight for every penny. That is what disgusts me. Spouses of heirs should stay completely out of the entire process.

An heir who will blow through the $$ in six months then come begging siblings for help can have a trust set up that gives them a monthly amount so that doesn’t happen. One sale I worked on, an only child , useless 50 something year old living at home, had just that done by his mom. He was PISSED but she knew he would blow it all and be homeless in a year, so she had him get payments instead of a lump sum. Encourage your parents to do that for the family black sheep so you aren’t dealing with "because familyyyyy ……" pleas within a year or two.

Now, if one of the kids is doing jail time for murder, has abused the folks, or there is some COMPELLING reason to make it uneven, then that is on a case by case basis. Overall, I advise leaving it even between the next generation only ( no skipping gens, or making grandkids equal heirs to kids)

Things get really complicated these days…with step kids, half siblings, etc etc…."your, mine and ours" situations….i would hate to deal with that complicated scenario…

I only know that favoring kids for "because little jimmy isn’t a doctor like Buddy" or “Janie married a rich man, so Susie should get more" will lead to resentment in most cases, and destroy the family ties. Don’t do it.

You will spend a lot of money, then almost certainly use it a few times , then let it sit. Gathering dust, mocking you.

Is this a real ad?

I don’t get it….isnt advertising to sell products, and that would mean appealing to the largest # possible consumers…not some tiny niche?

What is your pets name? Lol

I know maternal grandmothers parents names. Know paternal grandmothers parents names. Not much else about any of them ( a little). I stayed at my mawmaws house countless times as a kid and teen, and would ask about the old days when she was a kid . She was born in 1900) I mainly asked about life back then, not so much about family members.

Her life skills eclipsed anything I ever did…..canning food, sewing her own clothes, cooking "from scratch." She was a widow for forty years, so it was just us two for many many weekends. She lived to be 95. My maternal grandpa , , her husband, died when I was 2.

The other set of grandparents lived in another state, so I only saw them around Christmas and maybe one or twice during the year, so was not very close to them at all…though I adored my paw.

I only met one great grandparent before she died, I have a vague memory of an old lady sitting in a chair, I was a little kid, and she died before I saw her again. They lived in another state as well.

Today’s kids are lucky to have both parents , together with full siblings. Now it is more likely to include step parents, step siblings, step grandparents, half siblings and so on.

Same! I was ready to grab the tin foil hat and my go bag….