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re: For married OTers, could you handle your spouse having an emotional affair/connection?

Posted on 3/30/24 at 12:25 pm to
Posted by SDVTiger
Cabo San Lucas
Member since Nov 2011
74354 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 12:25 pm to
If shes having an emotional affair with someone else its your fault

Work on yourself first. If that doesnt work move on
Posted by sabbertooth
A Distant Planet
Member since Sep 2006
5317 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 12:37 pm to
Life is to short to deal with BS.
If she wants out show her the door and move on in life.
Posted by Patfic15
Baton Rouge
Member since Sep 2018
3274 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 12:41 pm to
Married persons of the opposite sex cannot be friends. Stop trying.
Posted by chinhoyang
Member since Jun 2011
23677 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 12:42 pm to
I suspect that there is more than one person here who would say "shite, I wish she had someone to talk about all the emotional tripe she wants to talk about."
Posted by Blizzard of Chizz
Member since Apr 2012
19127 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 1:34 pm to
Problem is people don’t know how to define boundaries whether it’s personal relationships or friendships/ acquaintances. Nothing wrong with having a diverse group in your circle, but when you’re with someone but still getting together for drinks or lunch regularly with acquaintances of the opposite sex it eventually becomes an issue.
Posted by Dadren
Jawja
Member since Dec 2023
1015 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 1:45 pm to
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I suspect that there is more than one person here who would say "shite, I wish she had someone to talk about all the emotional tripe she wants to talk about."

Probably.

I’d advise them to be careful what they wish for because Jody is a pretty good listener.
Posted by ronricks
Member since Mar 2021
7110 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 1:55 pm to
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Married persons of the opposite sex cannot be friends.


This is just silly and reeks of insecurities
Posted by OysterPoBoy
City of St. George
Member since Jul 2013
35551 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 1:57 pm to
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Define emotional affai


Letting some baw watch her finger herself on FaceTime.
Posted by Robin Masters
Birmingham
Member since Jul 2010
30012 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:00 pm to
I guess it would depend on why she was telling me.

Was she telling me because she wanted to end it or was she looking to relieve her conscience and get permission to be with Jody?

Posted by SDVTiger
Cabo San Lucas
Member since Nov 2011
74354 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:02 pm to
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This is just silly and reeks of insecurities


No it doesnt
Posted by Oates Mustache
Member since Oct 2011
22233 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:09 pm to
Hell naw. A relationship is both emotional and physical. Why would I stay with someone cheating on me emotionally.

And those emotional affairs lead to fricking, so again, naw I'm out.
Posted by Dadren
Jawja
Member since Dec 2023
1015 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:11 pm to
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This is just silly and reeks of insecurities


I, for one, enjoy knowing that my wife is confiding in and forming friendships with other men.

Jesus, I felt like a cuck simply typing that out
Posted by UncleRuckus
Member since Feb 2013
7690 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:13 pm to
If she’s confessing to an emotional affair, she took that dick multiple times just isn’t willing to own up to that too
Posted by Oates Mustache
Member since Oct 2011
22233 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:13 pm to
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This is just silly and reeks of insecurities


I'm not saying it's impossible, very few things are, but people of the opposite sex see each other with their eyes before knowing anything about that person.

That attraction draws people together. If you add common interests and time to talk about them, they make an even deeper connection.

This leads to sex in a huge number of cases. Hell, it's why you're currently with your SO. It's how this shite happens.
Posted by Hayekian serf
GA
Member since Dec 2020
2614 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:22 pm to
What?

Our marriage would pretty much be over. Depends how old my kids are. But in all reality I couldn’t see staying with anyone who broke their vow.

This post was edited on 3/30/24 at 2:25 pm
Posted by Dadren
Jawja
Member since Dec 2023
1015 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:24 pm to
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This leads to sex in a huge number of cases. Hell, it's why you're currently with your SO. It's how this shite happens.

This is what I don’t understand about these people who think this is possible.

This is the path YOU yourself took…why in the hell would you be OK allowing other men to walk through that same door?

Walk in and shut that mf’r. Hard. Goes for woman too.
Posted by Mfiwd
Member since Mar 2020
338 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 2:53 pm to
Crossing the line, is crossing line. Who wants to look like fool?

It's how the relationship slowly dies or morphs into something else.

Cock block and block actively, if you care at all
Posted by soccerfüt
Location: A Series of Tubes
Member since May 2013
65943 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 3:03 pm to
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would you instantly file for divorce or try to work through it?
My version of “working through it” would be to bang her mom.
Posted by Oates Mustache
Member since Oct 2011
22233 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 3:04 pm to
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This is what I don’t understand about these people who think this is possible.

This is the path YOU yourself took…why in the hell would you be OK allowing other men to walk through that same door?

Walk in and shut that mf’r. Hard. Goes for woman too.


The only time I think it's possible is in circumstances:

1. where the dude or chick is gay
2. one of the two are ugly as sin

If these are reasonably attractive people, our eyes tell us "damn, they look good and the immediate urge is sexual". That's literal, biological attraction. And then add in common interests, like for instance, they meet as part of a community running group, and now you have both physical attraction and a shared interest.

It's a recipe for both an emotional relationship (important for the woman to commit to sex) and the physical attraction (important for both).

People that say they can be friends with the opposite sex without the sex part just haven't had the opportunity present itself to act on it.

There are posters here that will say they are friends with someone of the opposite sex. Well those friends are gay, or not attractive.
Posted by Oates Mustache
Member since Oct 2011
22233 posts
Posted on 3/30/24 at 3:05 pm to
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My version of “working through it” would be to bang her mom.


What about her mawmaw?
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