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re: Well my step son decided to come out last night.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:17 pm to dewster
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:17 pm to dewster
quote:Support what? His desire to suck a pecker? A lot of figs seem to be coming out in this thread. Soft times makes soft men!
You can't put this childish nonsense aside and support the kid? I doubt he can control this. Gay or straight, he should have the care and support of his parents. I hope he doesn't read your posts.
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Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:18 pm to Adajax
quote:
Might this offer a clue as to why?
Around middle school peers replace parents as the biggest influence in their lives, in general.
Parents have less influence, are less respected and spend far less time with their kids than they do with elementary school kids.
quote:
Harvard psychologist Howard Gardner states in his book Changing Minds that by about age 10 a child’s peers rather than the parents assume primary importance in the child’s decisions
After the age of 15, the best you can hope for is to be a friend to them.
This post was edited on 6/3/23 at 1:19 pm
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:18 pm to Adajax
I would have yelled & screamed at him with extreme displeasure that he announced yesterday because he was late and missed Pride Month. You can’t find a rainbow cake in June anywhere.
Then I would congratulate him and tell him thanks for telling us we will support you regardless of what your choice is.
Then I would congratulate him and tell him thanks for telling us we will support you regardless of what your choice is.
This post was edited on 6/3/23 at 1:22 pm
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:19 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
Around middle school peers replace parents as the biggest influence in their lives, in general.
Parents have less influence, are less respected and spend far less time with their kids than they do with elementary school kids.
None of this suggests that a teenage kid can’t bond with a step-parent.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:22 pm to Taxman2010
I am straight. So are you.
I am a step father. So are you.
I am a good dad.
I am a step father. So are you.
I am a good dad.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:22 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:I dont care. I dont care if it is the neighbors cousin. I dont care. It is common human decency to not be a dick.
its not his kid.
I disagree on the role of step parents as well, I know many folks that have remarkable relationships with their step parents. A step parent can be a very positive influence on a child.
quote:When they act as the OP did, you see why.
Older step kids don't often bond with step dads.
quote:Drink yourself drunk when their mom is upset. Declare yourself a non factor in the relationship and then take it to the web is ideal.
You do what you can
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:22 pm to Taxman2010
quote:
until he moves out in august.
#WhiteBoySummer was two years ago. 2023 is #GayBoySummer at Taxman's house.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:22 pm to Taxman2010
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Either way I have to worry about this kid smelling my underwear until he moves out in august.
lolololololol Have an upvote, good sir!
quote:You too, sir!
Sounds like you were a big influence in his life.
This post was edited on 6/3/23 at 1:25 pm
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:23 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
None of this suggests that a teenage kid can’t bond with a step-parent.
The OP took that off the table by refusing to smell his underwear and vice versa. How can trust be restored?
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:24 pm to fallguy_1978
quote:Not being an a-hole should be a pretty firm rule in either instance.
Big difference if he raised the kid since he was 2 or married mom when the kid was 17.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:24 pm to tigerfoot
quote:
It is common human decency to not be a dick.
Was he?
Sounds like the mom was the one who was upset.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:25 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:Yes.
Was he?
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:25 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
is the thought that you have to treat a step kid like a son.
Not what I said. Especially if the dad is in the picture. You’re just being a sick trying to be a second dad.
But the way it was worded read to me like raising anyone else’s son is soft. What if the dads a POS and the son looks to step dad? Why would you not step up? In a married or just loving relationship with the mother. Why not?
Seems cruel. Especially depending on age of the kid. Every boy is going to look to the most constant male in their mothers life for something. If the dad is around it will be different and have conditions. If dad is not around? Don’t marry the woman. Because you are fricked. You’re either the step dad he loves as a dad or the second “dad” that he hates.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:25 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
None of this suggests that a teenage kid can’t bond with a step-parent.
No, but as I informed you earlier it makes it much much harder, and over the age of 15, virtually impossible to bond as a real son. Most of the time the lack of bonding isnt on the father. Its on the sone.
I expect you don't have kids.
This post was edited on 6/3/23 at 1:26 pm
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:27 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
I expect you don't have kids.
You would expect wrong. But that’s not unusual for you.
quote:
No, but as I informed you earlier it makes it much much harder, and over the age of 15, virtually impossible to bond as a real son.
Then how it is we often see athletes talk about the strong, often parent like, bonds they develop with their coaches in the absence of a parent in their teens and later?
It doesn’t take near as much effort as you think it does when you’re a decent human being.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:29 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
Then how it is we often see athletes talk about the strong, often parent like, bonds they develop with their coaches in the absence of a parent in their teens and later?
for every one that does, there's two dozen that don't.
Stop believing the stupid shite you read in the media.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:29 pm to Taxman2010
If he just gay who gives a frick?
Just don't let him mutilate himself
Just don't let him mutilate himself
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:31 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:
Stop believing the stupid shite you read in the media.
Imagine being the guy adamantly defending that a man shouldn’t make an effort to parent a kid because it’s “not his” even though he married their mom.
Again, just giving us another peek at your stellar family values there.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:33 pm to LSU alum wannabe
quote:
What if the dads a POS and the son looks to step dad?
The biggest issue step dads have is kids who do not accept them at all, particularly as an authoritarian.
This is why blended families fail most often, kids with no interest or respect for the step parent.
Marrying a women with kids is a chore. Youre not guaranteed to bond with those kids.
Posted on 6/3/23 at 1:34 pm to BluegrassBelle
quote:
I’ve already explained how contextual clues in his posts suggests under 18. Are you dense?
Leaves in august implies he just graduated high school and is about to head to college, right?
Honestly I think roger is often over the top but when I read it, I took it as mom Lost her mind and step dad decided to come here and make jokes with strangers. I didn’t take his comments super serious.
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