re: What would you do if your daughter told you she is now a he and is trans?

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I hate the world we live in. How the frick did transgenderism become the new hot thing?

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People like you voted Democrat. And kept doing it. Others didn't vote Republican because they're "libertarians." And kept doing it.

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It’s crazy that this is actually something that we now have to worry about but unfortunately it is.

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both sides this David

You should send your newly masculine daughter to Ukraine. No greater glory than dying for Zelensky.

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The reality is that the people on this forum would love and accept their kids.

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The reality is that it’s not that hard to raise sane children. And nature is on your side.

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What would you do if your daughter told you she is now a he and is trans?

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Depends on age....if below 18 I'd find out what bullshite and who was pushing said bullshite at her school and tell go scorched earth. If older than 18 I'd tell her to retake 8th grade Biology.

I know exactly what I DID when my daughter did just that....I wouldn't react at all. I would say "that's great....how's school? (work, band, whatever). My daughter has also told me she wanted to be an animator when she is grown, a lawyer, an NBA player, a composer and a professional musician. She has said she would never marry but also makes plans for a wedding with my lovely bride. The same thing with having kids, says there ain't no way she would have a child but also knows exactly what her children's names will be. I did exactly the same thing with those announcements...took them with a grain of salt knowing that kids make all sorts of convoluted decisions and change their minds eventually. The worst thing you can do, in my humble and possibly misguided opinion, is take anything a person under the age of 20 or so says about their plans for the future for more than a fleeting thought soon to be replaced with another, often 180 degrees out if sync with the original plan. At the end of the day an individual's body and life is the only thing one can truly own. It is a parent's job to expose a child to examples of what a productive member of society, well adjusted emotionally and mature, looks like. That is done by example, not words, and it does not pay to say one thing and do another. Kids will also make all manner of proclamations to annoy the authority figures in their lives...this is a basic tenet of human nature. Those authority figures play right into the kids hands by over reacting. Kids are a lot like dogs in a pen constantly working on escaping...they have an unlimited amount of time and resources to get the adults in their lives to jump through hoops. If the adult over reacts they have played the scripted roll the kid wrote for them like an academy award winner.


What is to fear about one's daughter identifying as a male? Do you love and care for the individual or do you love and care for your image of the individual....because gender identification is all about image and societal issues, by definition. If it is your child and it is the latter your child has a bigger problem than gender confusion or whatever the term is and that is a parent who does not love and care for them unconditionally. If that is the case it is no wonder that child grows into a confused and emotionally challenged adult.

If you do not think you are capable of loving and caring for another person unconditionally prior to having a child you should avoid doing so. If you discover this personal failing after having a child you are the one who needs counseling and you also need to excercise extreme caution lest your character flaws transcend generationally and you damage the child YOU created beyond repair. Exponentially more adults going through life identifying as the same gender as their biological sex who are damaged beyond repair by parents who were emotional wrecks themselves than there are adults who were born with the reproductive organ of one biological sex and identify as another gender.

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I know with an absolute certainty that will not happen. She's raised in church, homeschooled, will not be allowed a phone or access to social media, and spends most of her free time outdoors, playing sports, and learning the piano.

I know it the same way I knew my super liberal cousin's twins would be gay when they were 5. And now their seniors in high school and both of them are gay.

It's actually not rocket science or luck.

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Spoken by someone without kids or without adult kids or, more likely, someone who was extremely lucky to have a child who fit their idea of the child accidentally and through no action of the parent themselves. Children are individuals, they are not clones or younger versions of ourselves. They are going to do what they are going to do and all a parent can do is lead by example and hope for the best. Kids know this by the time they are about 5 but forget it when they have kids of their own....

Pray! Move to the most remote spot in North America.

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Spoken by someone without kids or without adult kids or, more likely, someone who was extremely lucky to have a child who fit their idea of the child accidentally and through no action of the parent themselves.

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You sound like a shitty parent.