re: Have women bitten off more than they can chew w/(family courts/marriage/divorce)

Is that a household chore?

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Hell, Gwen Stefani is having a baby in her 50’s. Women aren’t nearly as limited as men think we are. Or at least the ones in my circle aren’t.

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Let me explain it to you from the medical viewpoint.

What you just described is so far outside the norm that it can’t even be considered an outlier.

It is an outlier of an outlier.

IVF is insanely expensive and not even remotely as successful as people believe.

It is ~55% if you are still in your childbearing age (< 35).

It hits ~25% at 40 years old and tanks to under 10% over the age of 40.

Attraction for women is often a long game. It takes time to build comfort and confidence around them.

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Not working gives too much time for idle minds, which can lead to much worse stuff to deal with

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Seems like if women cheat its some dude they met at work

So, you’re saying that they can not be attracted to you physically at all, will themselves into spending time with you to get to know you, and then become attracted to you by becoming comfortable and familiar?

I think this only works when a woman already sees a guy as right on the line between datable and not. If she wants nothing below a 7, and he’s like a 6.5, I can see that working. However, she’s not going to have the patience to go through that process with a 5, and he’s not capable of displaying enough value to jump up to a 7 in her eyes. If this was the case, the friend zone simply wouldn’t exist because men would be easily capable of graduating from it through persistence and self-improvement. The fact that such is so incredibly rare leads me to believe that it’s just not a feasible strategy for most men.

I think the bigger issue is that men don’t value female friendships. Sure, being friends with an attractive woman isn’t as appealing as boning her, but one can get a ton out of a good friendship with a woman that shares a lot of common interests. Plus, female friends make for the best wingmen.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned not to be embittered by women who would rather be a friend than a romantic partner. I’ve learned that I’d rather be a friend than a romantic partner to a lot of women as well. Two people can have a decent amount of compatibility for a friendship but have shite compatibility for a relationship. Chemistry isn’t that rare, and doesn’t mean you have to have a romantic relationship with that person. Learning this has improved my life significantly.

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Now what’s the rates for men that do it? That was my point. At least that’s my stance on it. She didn’t have any kids or other health issues (other than mental ). I guess I just look at it from a different angle than most, for sure

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Lower than it is for women.

The cohort among all demographics with the highest rate of divorce happens to be women with 10 or more sexual partners in their past.

I can’t find the data for men right now, but if you extrapolate out that the majority of divorces are initiated by women, these results aren’t surprising.

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MFer, what would you do if you lived alone?

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Bruh they dont clean.

Some of my single friends think im a neat freak because i dont have skid marks in the toilet or dont leave dirty dishes in the sink.

Im so far from it but i just dont see a point in having a dirty kitchen where i fricking make my food.

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If she wants nothing below a 7

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Dating a woman with that kind of "system" is a losing proposition. I wouldn't marry a shallow woman if I were a 10 myself.

Dudes want high maintenance women, then they complain about high maintenance women. There's an escape...

I will say Type A is better off with type A. Two materialistic, linear types are probably better off together than with someone who doesn't think like they do.

well that's just intellectual dishonesty.

But sure, tell your wife, after both of you return home from a long day at work, that you aren't going to help cook, clean, or fold laundry on the off chance that someone breaks into your house tonight.

That and pushing a lawnmower once a week for 7 months out of the year sounds like a pretty even split.

That rating system isn’t a conscious decision. It’s just an over-simplification of how their subconscious is instantaneously evaluating potential romantic partners. A shallow person is one who has a conscious checklist of physical criteria. However, your brain has its own agenda, and can be shallow too even if your conscious brain thinks you aren’t. That’s why what women SAY they want in a partner is so completely different from whom they’re attracted to. It’s not that they’re lying, they legitimately don’t know because they have control over who they decide to say they’re attracted to, but don’t have any control over what actually attracts them.