Well, It’s Finally Here...I’m Getting Married Tomorrow

The fiancée will be my wife tomorrow. Took me getting to my mid 40s to get here but here I am.

Sitting here in the hotel taking a breath. If the Board will indulge me for a minute...the past couple weeks have been like a blur.

I’ve had bad luck with women in the past. I unknowingly screwed up because I was a dumbass, I couldn’t read signs, I would get busy with other things like work and be neglectful, another would be impatient and demanding, bad timing, etc. A relationship of convenience, where we were just going through the motions, of almost ten years ended. Honestly, for a long time I didn’t want to be married. Then, when I did, I felt that my time had probably passed and that I would be a lifelong bachelor. And I contented myself. Then a family friend told me about someone and set us up. Things are different now. I’m more aware and mature. And we’re both committed together in this next phase of life.

This has been a long time coming. Two years ago in the spring we were due to be married. Then COVID hit. We tried a few more times to set a date but new COVID surges, economics and job situations, family situations, all sorts of complications kept arising to blow our plans up. The fact that her family is in Russia greatly complicates matters too.

We decided to just have a quick, personal marriage ceremony to get it done and get on with our lives. But then she broke down and said that she always wanted a wedding with her family and friends there to celebrate her getting married. So if there was any way that I could help make that happen, I was going to do it. We decided to wait a little more and things finally began to look better. We were able to schedule July 1. The logistics were all coming together. And then Putin invaded Ukraine.

I don’t want to complain too much as we are very fortunate. There are people dying in Ukraine and people who have lost close loved ones to COVID. But what I want to get at is leadership in government is critical and plays massive, intrusive, destructive roles in people’s lives. And our leaders...whether it’s Fauci or Biden or Putin or Xi Jinping or Whitmer or Cuomo...these people have been playing games with other people’s lives. All while they themselves don’t have to live with the results. Rules for thee, not for me, you will be controlled, we will frick things up, make things worse, and you will deal with it while we insulate ourselves from the damage of our own decisions. I’m sick of it.

We picked right here in Georgia to have the wedding after looking at a lot of options like moving it to Greece, Italy, Turkey, Mexico. When examining the convenience and the fact that a lot of her friends are stateside, not to mention most of my family too, it became apparent that more would come to a wedding here rather than abroad.

Her parents, a sibling, and a friend will be here. They all went across the border to Finland to get the Pfizer vax so they are able to travel to the US. The rest of her family are either unvaxxed or received Sputnik vax so they are barred from entry. But her parents are here and that’s very important to her. And me.

I’m so thankful for her. I’m sure I would have just kept on keeping on like I always do but these last few years have been beautiful with her in my life. We come in, we cook dinner together, we eat, I clean up the kitchen a little, she loads the dishwasher. We sit on the couch and watch Househunters and Gutfeld and other shows and movies. She even lets me watch all my soccer matches and joins in with enthusiasm and a good attitude...”I like this team, I like their uniforms...let’s go!” lol. We explore the small towns of Georgia, go to shops and farmer markets, all that crap that’s like from a Hallmark movie. And you know what? I love it. She always greets me with a hug and a kiss and asks me how I am. Always. Whenever we meet for lunch...and I’m often late...and I walk in and begin to apologize, she just smiles and takes my hand. She makes my life wonderful. But the way she treats my parents...it’s made an incredible impression on me, she’s so genuinely good to them.

While the world outside our window goes insane, she reminds me a few good things remain.

Sorry for the long post, thanks for reading, I just needed to decompress for a few minutes and spill to my friends here on the Board.

I’m so ready for tomorrow night. I’m so ready to be married.

See you all later.