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Black Love or War? How racism hinders Black dating and relationships
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:20 pm
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:20 pm
people need to start laughing in these loons' faces and showing them a middle finger or this shite will never end
Black Love or War? How racism hinders Black dating and relationships
Eartha Hopkins
Sun, August 1, 2021, 6:40 PM·7 min read
Slavery and racism historically prevented and disrupted Black marital unions and continues to plague the Black community and Black relationships today
Fans of the 2000 film Love and Basketball can testify to the collective heartbreak felt when Quincy McCall (Omar Epps) dunks on Monica Wright (Sanaa Lathan) to win their final game that would decide the fate of their union. As Wright walks away in grief after losing both her heart and the game, McCall says, “Double or nothing,” to profess his love for her despite being two weeks away from marrying someone else.
While few of us will find ourselves battling it out on the basketball court desperately trying to win at love, many heterosexual Black men and women find themselves in a fight to find the “one.” Although some self-help books and online relationship experts will have us all believing self-development is the only cure for the distance between Black men and women seeking companionship, the issue is far deeper than that.
In fact, Dianne M. Stewart, associate professor of religion and African American studies at Emory University and author of “Black Women, Black Love: America’s War on African American Marriage,” delves into how slavery and racism historically prevented and disrupted Black marital unions and continues to plague the Black community and Black relationships today.
“I wrote the book because I could not find any other materials that comprehensively addresses what some perceive as a crisis in African-American love, dating, and marital relationships today,” Stewart explains. “What I mean by this is many authors and pundits treat the low rates of romantic partnership and marriage among Black women as a personal issue. My book elevates the issue to the level of civil rights.”
Middle passage and slavery
The capture of Africans during the transatlantic slave trade during their prime years for marriage and companionship displaced potential relationships that could have built familial foundations. As partners disappeared into oblivion, with no closure or explanation of where they were going except that they would never see their loved ones again, Black families had to adapt to this new, extremely traumatic normal.
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Black Love or War? How racism hinders Black dating and relationships
Eartha Hopkins
Sun, August 1, 2021, 6:40 PM·7 min read
Slavery and racism historically prevented and disrupted Black marital unions and continues to plague the Black community and Black relationships today
Fans of the 2000 film Love and Basketball can testify to the collective heartbreak felt when Quincy McCall (Omar Epps) dunks on Monica Wright (Sanaa Lathan) to win their final game that would decide the fate of their union. As Wright walks away in grief after losing both her heart and the game, McCall says, “Double or nothing,” to profess his love for her despite being two weeks away from marrying someone else.
While few of us will find ourselves battling it out on the basketball court desperately trying to win at love, many heterosexual Black men and women find themselves in a fight to find the “one.” Although some self-help books and online relationship experts will have us all believing self-development is the only cure for the distance between Black men and women seeking companionship, the issue is far deeper than that.
In fact, Dianne M. Stewart, associate professor of religion and African American studies at Emory University and author of “Black Women, Black Love: America’s War on African American Marriage,” delves into how slavery and racism historically prevented and disrupted Black marital unions and continues to plague the Black community and Black relationships today.
“I wrote the book because I could not find any other materials that comprehensively addresses what some perceive as a crisis in African-American love, dating, and marital relationships today,” Stewart explains. “What I mean by this is many authors and pundits treat the low rates of romantic partnership and marriage among Black women as a personal issue. My book elevates the issue to the level of civil rights.”
Middle passage and slavery
The capture of Africans during the transatlantic slave trade during their prime years for marriage and companionship displaced potential relationships that could have built familial foundations. As partners disappeared into oblivion, with no closure or explanation of where they were going except that they would never see their loved ones again, Black families had to adapt to this new, extremely traumatic normal.
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Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:22 pm to djmed
The frick does slavery have to do with black marriage considering the institution was thriving as recently as the mid-60s?
The issues with black marriage are caused by several factors including the welfare state, the divorce culture, and a hookup culture that doesn’t stigmatize unwed mothers.
The issues with black marriage are caused by several factors including the welfare state, the divorce culture, and a hookup culture that doesn’t stigmatize unwed mothers.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:27 pm to djmed
So black men are dogs because of slavery?
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:29 pm to djmed
Are blacks really just petulant babies en masse or is that just how liberals believe them to be?
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:30 pm to teke184
Thomas Sowell and Larry Elder often point out that black families were more intact than white families in the Fifties.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:30 pm to djmed
You too can earn big $ writing about your race.
Unless your race is...
Unless your race is...
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:33 pm to djmed
Holy shite they legit blame everything on racism.
OH I can't keep strong personal relationships.
Racism did this.
At least she goes into this a bit, yet I bet she still votes for this.
So again, it's a problem you've perpetuated on yourselves for decades.
OH I can't keep strong personal relationships.
Racism did this.
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Benefits were denied to Black families and only available to single Black women with children. This made it necessary to enter into an open and healthy cohabitating marriage or to lose benefits that were necessary due to enforced poverty.
At least she goes into this a bit, yet I bet she still votes for this.
So again, it's a problem you've perpetuated on yourselves for decades.
This post was edited on 8/3/21 at 4:37 pm
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:35 pm to dgnx6
In the 1960s Black Americans had the highest marriage rate in the U.S. Yes, it was higher than White Americans. So, that tells me Black relationships went in the shitter when we started following funky arse liberals.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:36 pm to dgnx6
Seems like racism would lead you to become closer to and bond with the members of your own race.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:42 pm to djmed
Ahhh, brought to us by the same people who not only see color but they also see shades of color!
We all know light skinned blacks look down on the darker skinned blacks. That's a fact. Hell, that dumb bitche Oprah had a whole entire show on it!
Worked with a black woman who was somewhat on the darker side and she explained to me how a few years ago, she dated a lighter skinned black guy and his family didn't approve of her.
These people need to get over the perceived racism in everything, it's worn out
We all know light skinned blacks look down on the darker skinned blacks. That's a fact. Hell, that dumb bitche Oprah had a whole entire show on it!
Worked with a black woman who was somewhat on the darker side and she explained to me how a few years ago, she dated a lighter skinned black guy and his family didn't approve of her.
These people need to get over the perceived racism in everything, it's worn out
This post was edited on 8/3/21 at 4:46 pm
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:44 pm to GoAwayImBaitn
There is a reason foe the “paper bag test” and it wasn’t white people doing it.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:51 pm to djmed
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Black Love or War? How racism hinders Black dating and relationships
The real reason that black relationships are hindered and black women don't marry is simple. A whole lot of black men ain't worth a shite. If black women paid more attention to another Sanaa Lathan movie, Something New, they might find a man.
This post was edited on 8/3/21 at 5:11 pm
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:56 pm to djmed
Wow! She had to write a whole book to cover this topic. The black girl that used to sit next to me at work could sum this up in one sentence. She refused to date black guys. I asked her why and she said "because they're all F'd up!"
Posted on 8/3/21 at 4:59 pm to djmed
Man do they have a list of excuses. It never ends.
I never thought anyone could pass SJW, White women as the biggest snow flakes, but African Americans have blown by them and are putting space between them and SJW white women.
I never thought anyone could pass SJW, White women as the biggest snow flakes, but African Americans have blown by them and are putting space between them and SJW white women.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 5:07 pm to djmed
This post was edited on 8/3/21 at 5:10 pm
Posted on 8/3/21 at 5:15 pm to djmed
I think most of us white devils would prefer if they married one spouse rather than making babies with multiple.
I didn’t read that drivel. Is this clown really saying whites are keeping blacks from finding true love? We sure aren’t keeping them from fricking as many people as they want.
I didn’t read that drivel. Is this clown really saying whites are keeping blacks from finding true love? We sure aren’t keeping them from fricking as many people as they want.
Posted on 8/3/21 at 5:16 pm to Saint Alfonzo
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The real reason that black relationships are hindered and black women don't marry is simple
i would think it's because black men find it a status symbol to date white women
Posted on 8/3/21 at 5:16 pm to GoT1de
"You too can earn big $ writing about your race.
Unless your race is..."
Actually, you can earn big bucks writing about that, too, if you do it the right way. See DiAngelo, R., White Fragility
She's done quite well for herself!
Unless your race is..."
Actually, you can earn big bucks writing about that, too, if you do it the right way. See DiAngelo, R., White Fragility
She's done quite well for herself!
Posted on 8/3/21 at 5:19 pm to LCLa
Nice try, but the results and conclusions are the opposite of what the author concludes. Everybody trying to rewrite History and making excuses, my God…
Posted on 8/3/21 at 5:22 pm to djmed
Give me a fricking break.
Black people have trouble getting married today because of slavery? STFU
Black people have trouble getting married today because of slavery? STFU
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