re: Would you take a lie detector test

If one of my kids was missing or my hypothetical 2nd wife, absolutely. I know it’s a gamble, but you are gonna be suspect #1, and they won’t fully move off you and devote their resources to finding your kid/wife until they clear you as a subject. Risk worth taking if it speeds up the process.

Now, my ex-wife, who I still care about if for no other reason than she’s the mother of my children, I’d hope they find her and I’d be out there searching and handing out flyers, but a lie detector? No chance. There’s no way with the shite she’s talked about me that a lie detector would do anything to help me at all. Or finding her. If I “pass” it, I failed it because I’m an emotionally abusive narcissistic sociopath and they’d just look at me harder.

Going by all the bullshite therapy speak that is so pervasive on social media, popularized to weaponize and grift, that it’s lost all meaning. Especially when most of the “coaches”/“influencers” educated themselves by watching 10,000 hours of TikToks. I’d say most of us in this boat would be wise to not take it.

Hell, if I ever get married again—minuscule chance as that would be—I wouldn’t trust what she may have said to her all her social media tribes that only exist to validate poor behavior. The algorithm is strong, and a lot of these “tribes” are very appealing and have a gravity to them that’s incredibly strong and becomes an endless reinforcement loop of feeding people what they need to hear to absolve them of having to take accountability and justify current and future bad behavior.

Nobody truly cares about anyone else, they just want you to be around to justify theirs. Men are susceptible too, but in my online experience, it seems those groups/tribes of men genuinely care about lifting each other up. Women’s tend to sabotage each other with terrible advice wrapped up in “empowering,” “you go, girl,” language where terms like “self love,” “self care,” and “live your truth” are just codes for being selfish, and damn the consequences to their own mental health and collateral damage done to the people around them. Which is a pretty brilliant strategy considering they’re all competing against each other. But I’m not hating, it’s been baked in their DNA in order for survival of themselves and their genetic offspring.

And this isn’t coming from some bitter exhusband—I have no idea what my ex is doing/has done. I just discovered this world of Evolutionary Psychology and the work of David Buss that gives a very interesting insight when it comes to dating and mating strategies for both sexes of humans going back thousands of years. And with teenage son and daughter, I want to be as educated and prepared as possible to help them navigate the new world of social media and online dating that is fricking them up even worse than we can truly fathom. But maybe I fell prey to power of the algorithm myself, and am an unknowing hypocritical sucker.

Got off on a bit of a tangent there, but it just underscores the danger of taking a lie detector for your girlfriend/potential future wife.

But I’d still do it for my kids, parents, brothers, and a small circle of good friends, I couldn’t live without doing everything I possibly could to help them find them. Anybody else, and no chance.

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Probably not. On a somewhat related topic, I probably wouldn’t ever do that brain scan technology in the Black Mirror episode where the Insurance company was seeking out witnesses to a random auto pedestrian accident.

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I’ve gotten away with all kinds of stuff.

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As in you've successfully passed lie detector tests multiple times? That's pretty impressive.

I just want to do it for fun.