re: Why do people cheat?

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The Torch

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yeeeaaahhh

this one is going through a breakup

you can tell

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Is it just me or do you notice that a lot of people that cheat have smokin wives and slum it with the nastiest thing that crawls out of a gutter?

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That "smokin" wife might get boring after a while. It ain't just the eye candy that works for some.

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Why do people cheat?

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because its warm and squishy up in there

So do you think it hurts less to end it after cheating or to just cut it off before? Like I get it, it’s an uncomfortable conversation to have “like yeah I’m not into this anymore”, but at the same time I imagine it hurts worse after being cheated on.

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Starts out just opportunity arse...but the thrill and the high are what keeps you doing it.


It's the rush. The taboo nature of it. It starts out small...there are the little things, the flirting, the "oh no, we shouldn't"...

Next thing you know you're in each other's arms and kissing and the chemistry is exploding. It's an incredible high. A damn drug.

Then the sneaking around, what a rush.

And sure it's Stupid

But it's exhilarating. And every time you swear it's the "last time"

That "we can't do this anymore".

But everything stemming from the dying relationship at home simply serves to reinforce the bad behaviour. To drive you to your lover's arms in a stolen embrace, in a secret place.
And my God is it hot.

Because it isn't real. It's a fantasy. And it only ends in tragedy but while you are on it the ride is incredible.



The only hard step is the first one.

After that it's as easy as can be. The excuses flow like wine.

And people in the throes of a torrid affair will do damn near anything to protect and continue it.

Even when they're caught. Even when they've been damn near busted in the act, they'll try and weasel their way out of it.

Behaviour not unlike a junkie.

They are in a fog. They either refuse to see or just don't care about who they hurt because it feels so damn good. And there's no cure. Relapse is high.

The best advice is not to start. Because you'll fall in that hole no matter how "careful" you try to be

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That sentence/paragraph structure though . You express your thoughts like a junkie.

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So do you think it hurts less to end it after cheating or to just cut it off before? Like I get it, it’s an uncomfortable conversation to have “like yeah I’m not into this anymore”

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Absolutely. The truth hurts but doesn’t damage someone’s psyche near as bad as being cheated on.

When you get cheated on, even though the signs have usually been there for a while, it just breaks you. You wonder “what was wrong with me? What made me so worthless that they would do that to me?” And a thousand other questions. Some that never get answers.

If you just break up, sure there’s some sore spots but it’s easier to move on.

That being said, it’s in many women’s nature not to jump ship unless they at least have a lifeboat waiting. You are fighting the screwed up side of human nature.

People desire that intimacy, and if the intimacy isn’t there for long enough, they’ll find it somewhere else. And this goes for both sexes.

She can be provided and cared for, but if that passion is dead, it only takes a spark of attention from someone else to start a fire.

And once that fire is lit, someone almost always gets burned.

There’s a script to it. And once you know the script, it’s easy to see what’s really going on.

ive read your posts in the past on this.....whew!

Son, you've marched a dangerous path.

I’m sure there are plenty of ways cheaters justify it but I am always put off when one of my friends or someone I respect talks casually about cheating on their spouse.

Even if it’s a “joke”, it rubs me the wrong way.

Why stay with someone if you’d risk your whole relationship over some strange?

I doubt there is just one simple answer to this.

My best friend for the last 25 years just ended his 12 year marriage because of his wife's cheating.

This girl was a really great person when I knew her. I'd have never in a million years suspected her of cheating, but apparently, as mentioned in this thread, the taboo aspect of things pulled her in and she spun out.