re: Why did you get divorced?

I traded a 40 for two 20's.

Just kidding, We hated each others guts but she had more balls to file than I did.

We were both very young and dumb. I knocked her up and decided to do the responsible thing and proposed. A few weeks later she had a miscarriage and since we were already planning a wedding and both sets of our parents were ecstatic about us getting married so we followed through with the wedding. We really didn’t even know each other all that well. I was incredibly immature and figured married life should look like my parent’s marriage. Daddy worked his arse off and mama took care of us kids, ran the household, kept up with finances etc. so I worked all the hours I could to have nice things.

I started to notice how fricked up she was after the birth of my son in 1989. She didn’t work and after she had our son I expected her to manage the household and keep up with our finances and I just kept working as much as I could. Well, to shorten this narrative, she fricked up the checkbook so many times that I finally had to take her off the account and manage it myself. After our daughter was born , about 5 years into our marriage, she sank into a deep depression. I begged for her to get help so she could at least function in life. She refused to get help and it got to the point to where she would t even get off the sofa to care for the kids. It was so bad that if I wanted clean work clothes or food to eat I had to do it myself, often after working a sixteen hour shift.

The final straw was when I was getting ready to go camping with a couple of buddies on grand isle. I was really looking forward to that and we had been planning this trip for several months. Literally, I was packing up my truck to leave the next morning when I went to check the mail. In the mail box was a number of NSF checks and what it would cost a n fees etc. I was at a loss because ever since I took over the finances we had been on solid financial ground. I was totally mystified about the bounced checks so I left right away to go to the bank to see what was happening and why the checks bounced. Well, they sat down with me and went over each check and deposit to find my error.

My error was not hiding the box of blank checks from her. I never thought I needed to. She had been taking checks from the bottom of the box of checks and using them to fund her lottery and video poker excursions which I didn’t even find out until much later. I still don’t know how she managed to play video poker with the kids home all the time. I am almost sure she would leave them alone at home to go play.
Anyhow, when I got home I told her to pack her shite and when she refused I packed her bags and put her arse in the car and brought her back to her mama. I kept the kids and told her that we would get it all straightened out once I had time to cool down and she had time to think about what she had done.

The financial debacle she caused bywriting several thousand dollars of bad checks. As I got into moving out of our rent house, I found all kinds of shot like brand new kid clothes that had never been worn and were stuffed in a garbage bag in a closet. Numerous prescriptions that were partially used. The
Most heartbreaking thing I found was a stash of food in my sons closet. He was about 5 1/2 years old and was stashing food because the bitch wasn’t feeding the kids worth a damn. No would cook big meals when I was off and freeze them so all she would have to do was heat up the meal and serve the kids. At the end she wouldn’t even do that much and I was too damn dumb to see it mostly because I was at work all the time. We were married 8 years and the last 3-4 years were fricking terrible but I kept trying. When we divorced we used the same lawyer and agreed to everything including custody of the kids. She ended up having to pay me child support and even though we had joint custody, I was the domicilary parent. She got the kids every other weekend and two weeks in the summer. So the kids lived with me and it continued until they were both 18. The kids were 6 years old and 18 months old for my daughter. It was the best thing for the kids and I will give her credit for realizing that she couldn’t take care of the kids nor provide for them so she basically handed them over with little to no argument.

I have been married to Ms. lsu2001#2 for 24 years and I finally got my shite together, returned to college to get a degree and start a new career.

It was a very rough time in my life but in the end it worked out for the kids especially since my wife was so close to the kids that when my boy was in middle school they both begged my wife to adopt them. I don’t think the really knew what that meant but the notion was very heartwarming. Ex wouldn’t go along with the adoption so we just left it alone.
If I one piece of marriage advice it would be to really get to know one another before getting married and to never let working long hours interfere with taking care of the family. Well, I guess that is two pieces of advice but whatever.
Happy trails all,
LSU2001
TL/DR bitch was crazy and lazy didn’t work nor keep kids up like I wanted so I brought her back to her mama.

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bit I imagine you have to really fricking hate a woman to tap out

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It's not the woman (or man), it's the situation.

Married 30 years

I've posted this before.
My first wife was having an affair with an old high school boyfriend. We had gotten married, she was in nursing school, I worked OT to pay off her student loans.
Came home from work one Wednesday and there was a sign taped on the front door "I'm tired of living for everyone else, I want to live for me". Went inside and most of the furniture was gone, our bank account empty.

Was a long year for me after that, as I had taken my vows seriously. In the first 3 months, I went from 168 to around 119 lbs.

But I finally decided to move one, and have been married to my current wife now for almost 23 years. It all worked out for me ultimately.

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I think she just sucks all the energy out of me.

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Go on…

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Which time?

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Same here. Different wives, different stories.

Third time is a 22 year charm.

ONE WORD: STEPCHILDREN

She fooled around, and I found out.

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Meh, you suck arse, and swollow!!!


JK... old skool Td was the shite. Hope all the best for you.I love your banter, and disposition here. You are one of those that made this place!!

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Geez man take his cock out of your mouth.