What is your opinion on funerals?

The one in the coffin is the easiest to frick but the most awkward if you get caught

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Black funerals >>> white funerals

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Not if you have any plans for the rest of the day...or week.

I prefer the James Brown style. I still don’t think he’s been buried yet.

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Exactly. Funerals aren't the time/place to see who is "loyal" to you because they show up or don't show. It's not like a birthday or wedding.

I have been a pallbearer twice, small family (I am a small, 5'0 female). So, not those. Honestly, I prefer the ones in the mid-west, wake in a funeral home, casket in a corner, room set up comfortable, like a living room.
These Southern church funerals where the grieving family acts like a party host is bad.
Two examples:
Former gymnast teammate was killed in a car wreck at 18. I was older and already in college. I went and made my way up to the front to pay respects (behind a stream of people). I get to the front and her mom says "Liz, how is your ankle?" Her daughter is dead and she wants to know about my ruptured achilles from years ago, because she isn't sane at this point. It was awful.
I went to my uncle's funeral in BR a couple of months ago. My 88 year old grandma comes in to the church at the end of the wake in time for the funeral Mass. She is a strong Southern woman and watching her silently break down over his casket was painful. She outlived her middle son and we all watched her pain. The we saw her stillborn daughter's grave at the cemetary, in a place that was reserved for infants. The tiny spaces were heartbreaking.

I have only been to what you call the southern style. I never really thought about different regions of the country doing funerals differently but I guess it makes sense. There are several schools of thought I guess. The 2 day funeral allows more people to pay their respects. Especially ones that may not be able to get off or work to attend a day service. But obviously this is more stressful on the family. Obviously this is the most important thing here. Then the one day thing is quick and neat kind of like ripping off a band aid fast. I have been a pall bearer twice as well. That is a very weird experience.

One day service is definitely the most popular route these days.

All I know is if someone dies before I do, they ain't coming to mine. Why go to their's? Besides close friends and family members, of course.