re: What do you think the unhappiest age is?

Damn...

As I stroll into my 40's like a boss my main concern remains my account balances. Starting to see a grey hair or three in the beard.

Other than that I still look young, so they say...

Whatever

I tell ya it ain't no lie that shite starts hurting outta nowheres when you hit the 40's - what a fricking jip huh? Damn

My rotator cuff on the left side is starting to bug me. Not good

The unhappiest age is the one you spent with the chick with the personality disorder where you woke up every day hearing 17 new things you did to victimize her annd she texts you bullet pointed grievance lists.Every day was its own entire season. A single Sunday morning could last 6 months. Your drivers license says you are a certain age but your soul says you’re a Civil War veteran. Your central nervous system says you are 137 years old no matter how old you are. A conversation over dinner might feel like an episode of Game of Thrones. Your life insurance company calls and says they are waiving the suicide clause and recommends suicide. NASA classifies her bedroom as a weather disturbance. You go in young and come out eligible for both social security and combat pay. A tax audit is more relaxing.

Whatever age that is, is the worst. The best years are spent with the best people. The worst with the ones who make you responsible for managing their emotional and mental health.

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It breaks my heart seeing that the overall sentiment here is the worst age is however old we happen to be right now.

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Things keep getting worse


In 2018 I made less than half of what I make now but a ribeye was 6 bucks so I ate steak every day


Now I may eat steak a few times a year


Our lives are purposely being degraded

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What do you think the unhappiest age is?

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Ages 44 to 50 were the hardest years of my life.

Job loss, lost one of my very best friends to cancer (he was 41), divorce, going from seeing my children daily to seeing them 50 % of the time, and both my mother and father passed away.

I'm not blaming those situations for how I felt. Even when things are out of my hands, I don't want to let them dictate my happiness. It’s not fair to put that responsibility on other people or outside circumstances — that’s on me.

On the other hand, ages 50 1/2 and beyond (51 now) have been great. I have a clean bill of health, two daughters I continue to have a great relationship with, incredible job where I am appreciated and admired, no debt, and a future that looks very bright for me, plus many other things that are too long to list.

It could all change in a second, but I'll always remember what I remembered before ... "every storm runs out of rain."

Maintaining perspective, and practicing gratitude have been keys to my overall redevelopment of shaping my outlook on life. I rarely get down, or get upset. Perhaps, I may have "overcorrected" but I feel like the new tools that I have in my toolbox have and will continue to serve me well, no matter what life throws at me.

Seems like a lot of us are 42 on this board. I am as well. I think that my late 30s and early 40s have been maybe the best period my life.

My 20s were fun, but I was partying, so it was a much different fun. My late 20s and early 30s were stressful because I was trying to build my career.

I am past that and now I have a lot more appreciation for things.

I’m very happy for you, Will. Tough sledding there for a while.

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Apparently it’s 47.2, scientifically.

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Wow! That surprises me. When I was 45 my wife and I practically became empty nesters. From 45 to 55 was what I consider (at 63 now) the prime of my life. I had reached the pinnacle of my career; I was free of the responsibilities of children (which I enjoyed immensely during that season); and we were both in perfect health (wife hadn’t gone through menopause yet, lol). Those were happy years.

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Hormone replacement therapy may have a lot to do with this

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Don’t let some out of touch doctor scare you away from this. Once you stop for a few years it is actually dicey to return to it. But if you stay on it the health and quality of life benefits are tremendous. I’m speaking from my wife’s experiences. We’re 63 so we’ve been through much of that.

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only if you let it. Steak or bologna, big vacation or little getaway? Life is what you make it. I may be slit if shite, but a victim of circumstance won’t be one of em, barring a real tragedy of course. Sick child or wife, Tragedy such as fire. But what’s on my dinner plate isn’t getting me down

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I agree


We should all keep eating the shite on our plates with a smile on our faces and keep paying our taxes to defend our greatest ally

Its got to be old age when you are in constant pain, cant drive, use a walker, cant get it up, and live in random dr offices.