re: Was I Really That Out Of Bounds Asking A Woman Friend To Be FWB?

I caught the autism reading this OP

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Of course at this point it's done and I can't take it back. All I can do is move on. 

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exceptbits on TD, which is like getting a bad tattoo.

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and yes it stinks that I have one less friend today than I did yesterday

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Unless you have mutual friends, they'll take her side.

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Unless you have mutual friends, they'll take her side.

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We don't have mutual friends so I'm good there. Yes I know some of her friends but since I'll no longer be hanging out with her they aren't people I'll see again.

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And yes you all have succeeded in making me feel like crap over what I did. But I do thank you all for your honestly and advice.

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you should feel even worse

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Not trying to be mean to you in case this is legit. You have much bigger issues than being 38 years old and sexually inexperienced if this lady is a friend of yours already and you didn't know what a bad idea this was. To write a email like this? I just don't know what else to say. You might need to seek some professional help for social issues. Because would have many better ways to see if she would be open to something like this with just point blank saying. Even FWB situation begin with some kind of physical attraction, casual friendly dating or something. Geez man, man this was dumb I hope for your sake this was a one on one friend and you can get a clean break otherwise if you were part of a group of friends you just committed suicide in that group. YOu can forget hanging out with any of them ever again.

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You need to get a female life coach to help you become more marketable to the ladies. You don't have the skills to do this on your own. Let a coach teach you where you're lacking.

Also, would you mind sharing her pic on here since you're no longer friends?

Hopefully you live a relatively large town and not Bumfrick, Arkansas with a population of 500

Take it for what it is. You live and you learn. Now move on.

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Never EVER take dating advice from a woman.
This is horrible advice.

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You don't think she could help you with body posture and clothes that fit correctly and are stylish?

Ok invisibleman, this is all very creepy. First of all, the email is super weird. No woman wants to know you are frequenting strip clubs. That is super desperate. If you are older and not having luck having sex it is probably because you are putting too much weight in it. Virginity does not matter at all. Maybe you will find someone who genuinely cares for you as a human so then you can learn with them in a healthy environment.

This email comes across as someone who needs, and I say this in not a harsh way, therapy. Sir. Prostitution? Gross. If you’re a virgin just say so. You give off the vibe of the church guy who makes all the young girls give him a hug because that’s the only physical touch he gets… I digress.

You seem to not understand women at all. We are not complex game playing creatures as movies or media make us out to be. We enjoy being treated like humans. If we feel safe we will sleep with you, if you are creepy and weird we will not.

Back to your email, her response was valid and getting annoyed with her honesty is creepy future sex offender sounding. You owe her an apology.

Also FWB seems like not a good idea for someone who doesn’t know much about sex… maybe learn to date first before jumping in like that. Good luck!