re: Update pg. 7: How to handle a girl that worships her father

how does that even play a role in your relationship with her?

my opinion is if you end up fighting in front of your kids ... you must then resolve it front of them too. teaching them conflict resolution. so important in communication and relationships.

disagreements should happen. otherwise ... you worry that one side of the relationship has lost their identity to think as an individual. a certain amount of team mentality needs to be present but ... kill me the day i just agree with whatever someone else says. that's no fun. i enjoy being challenged. to be pushed to think about life from new perspectives. sometimes that can cause arguments. arguing with my significant other doesn't scare me. it isn't a barometer, personally, for my relationships.
for her, arguments may be directly correlative.

or you could just remember to put the damn seat down.

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or you could just remember to put the damn seat down.

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You could also remember to check before you sit

I agree here. You and your wife should share a common belief system..

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they usually just go eat, change her oil, tire pressure, turn signal fluid, you name it.

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Her dad is a maintenance type guy. He maintains, and fixes things in his life before they are broken. He anticipates her needs and tries to offer solutions before problems arise. He is a planner.

If you don't want to be that guy then leave. She will craft and mold you until you are, then you will be 60 and wonder what happened. Her molding will become more subtle, yet effective, as she gains experience.

Every time she brings up her dad you can bring up her mom, telling her that mom probably offered up plenty of BJ's and homemade brownies. When that pisses her off you can let her know that is how you feel when compared to dad ad nauseum.

In the meantime, be a good dude at all times and see if she can complain with it in her butt. See if she can make an omelette with it in her butt. Brush her teeth, etc. with it in her butt.

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Posted by OweO on 7/14/17 at 9:04 pm to nelaZZ She is basically looking for someone like her daddy who she can have sex with. She will go to him every time something is wrong and you will not be able to compete with that. If you are cool with that, then proceed. If not, then bounce.

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I have experience with this situation and it never ends well. If the dad goes along with it, always jumping in to make things right, it is worse.
Just remember one thing: YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE THE SITUATION.

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But of course, I am single. So what the hell do I know?

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Not a damn thing, like most of the folks in here.

I married a woman who thought her father was the greatest man on the planet until the day he died.

That man really didn't like me. But he didn't have to, nor did I have to care.

When my wife mentioned things her dad did she wished I was more like him about, I ignored it.

After a while she quit doing it. I've been married to her almost 40 years and you know who is the greatest man on the planet to her now?

Me.

You boys need to learn some patience and not get your panties in a twist so easily.

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Title says it all. 2 year relationship. Just moved in together, and apparently I don't stack up to her father at all. Borderline seems like she wants to replace me with him. How do I address this with her?

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How well do you know her father? Is he the type of man people generally look up to? Has he been an exceptionally good father?

If yes, is that the type of man you aspire to be? Do you feel you measure up or will one day measure up to the man?

If you are cast in a similar mold as her father and he is someone you could respect (clearly he will have flaws, we all do, but is he a person worth respect despite these), there may be hope for your relationship. Sit her down and discuss your concerns, let her know you strive to be a good man and partner but are not and never will be her father and would prefer not to be compared to him.

Alternately, just PIIHB

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Is this normal..?

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Fairly common. I've found there are generally 2 general options for young women when they are considering settling down: either a guy like daddy or never a guy like daddy. As they get older they develop more nuanced desires.

Of course there are a lot of guys looking for someone to momma them. Basically want a porn star in the bedroom and mom in the kitchen. Not saying that's a bad thing, just saying

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Absolutely not an alpha. An alpha of his family, maybe.

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I was reading and thinking he is either a strong alpha who protects and serves or else a weak bitch who spoils and caters to a brat.

Based on her moving in to become your sweet piece of college arse and her brother out hitting the bong, Id say this guy is a weak bitch.

Shes trying to gain the upper hand and mold you into her next weak bitch. Soon you will be doing all the chores, earning the money and rubbing her feet. Twice a year she will lie on her back and allow you to take her

be a man. Put your foot down.