re: True Confessions of a suburban cheating Mom.

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I've heard this story before

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I have told it before..

They come in all shapes and sizes. I just think it's sad that I can name about two dozen females who fit the description of this "lonely & broken" housewife.

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and with how much she talked about him ignoring her, it wouldn't surprise me if he was cheating as well

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I'd like to hear his side of the story.

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every relationship goes through the doldrums of life, it takes work from both sides to get through these times

and with how much she talked about him ignoring her, it wouldn't surprise me if he was cheating as well

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You're probably correct on both points. Well you're 100% correct on the first part

Typical, can't turn a ho into a housewife.

This marriage was doomed from the start. And it was the most common reason that so many marriages are doomed nowadays. People choose their spouse based on all the wrong things. She finally realized this only far after the fact.....

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But in my 20s when I chose the man I would marry and to be the father of my children, I honestly didn't know what it actually meant to be compatible with someone. I didn't comprehend the factors we'd need to cement our marriage into our twilight years.

I was looking at surface likes and dislikes, political party and our shared preference for Italian food. He was handsome, athletic and had a good job. Unfortunately the facade was all there was. I was in a marriage without a friend.

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Did she talk about how she failed to give or support her man in the relationship? Or did she just rationalize her cheating?

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I have always hated the idea of cheaters. Sleazy, lying scumbags who were only out for themselves. Selfish egocentrics who were mostly men, with the exception of the soap opera vixen type. Certainly not a clean cut suburban mom like me.

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You weren't a clean suburban mom.

This. She seems to think more highly of herself than she should. Relationships are hard. Everyone teaches now to follow your heart (which most people confuse with their feelings) and you'll never go wrong. This is utter bull. Feelings are as fleeting as the wind and can change on a dime. Your mood, emotion, and feelings can change from perfectly fine to furious as quickly as someone cutting you off in traffic. The key is finding someone who will work through those tough times and pull closer to you rather than push away. This of course takes hard work and unfortunately people don't like hard work anymore. We live in an instant gratification society. That's why people will ruin there family to have sex with the hot secretary. People marry because of feelings rather than commitment.

People marry because of feelings and not commitment. If you marry your wife because she's hot a gives a mean BJ but there is nothing any deeper, you've made a mistake already. But again that's what we're taught. Men go get a hot wife who loves sex and women go get a rich man. That's as deep as it goes for some.