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Why should we believe him when he lied in the OP, changed the story to make her look like a needy emotionally unstable girl at about the point in the thread when he was being criticized for being the issue, later admitted to having trust and commitment issues, and through silence has essentially admitted to being bipolar?

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Did he change the story, or did just withhold some of the less flattering aspects about her, because he does care about her? But eventually he had to reveal that stuff to give us better perspective.

Everyone has issues, I never believed that she was this perfect being that everyone else thought she was, because I knew he was leaving stuff out.

To OP, again, just get out of this. I know you want to do it in a way that doesn't make her feel worse about herself but don't know if that's even possible. But nothing about this situation will get better with marriage, that's for sure.

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Yes, many times over. Like I said, it's a hamster wheel.

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Then it should come as a surprise to her.

Don't make a production out of it. Simply sit down and talk it through and do it.

It helps to play the scenario through your mind, i.e., rehearse what you will say. That way you can avoid getting caught up in the emotion of it. Emotional break ups in today's society can lead to the cops being called and someone going to jail.

If she tends to be emotional and that leads to outbursts, it may help to have someone near by to give an recount of the event if things get bad.

Finally, avoid alcohol following the event, once you two have parted for the evening. Let it be a sober night so your emotions are unduly imbalanced.

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Emotional break ups in today's society can lead to the cops being called and someone going to jail.

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No, that's what happens with trashy people

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Whatever you do, don't answer when she calls. Not just right after it happens, but 6 months later. The worst thing you can do is try to reconcile. You'll be lonely, and the phone will ring. From experience, just let it go to voicemail. The berating that you get will hurt, but let her have at you. Take your licks on the chin (metaphorically) and move on. No need to berate her and make her feel any more shitty than she will.

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NOW THIS IS FUNNY! This reason this post is funny because you assume she'll be the one calling in 6 months, when in fact this is how your post should read...

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Whatever happens, she shouldn't answer the phone when you call 6 months from now. The worst thing she can do is try to reconcile with you. She'll be lonely, but when you eventually call her she should just let your call go to voicemail. The berating that she'll receive from you will hurt, but she should just allow you to vent on the machine. She should take her licks on the chin (metaphorically) and move on to fricking other men.

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I aint reading 16 pages of this bull shite. What page are the pics on?

Is there a way to break up and make sure she doesn't kill herself over it?

Play Mariah Carey's "All I want for Christmas" and tell her to listen closely to the words. Right when Mariah goes to sing "is You." Cut the music and say "is to be single" while looking deep into her eyes. It's festive and gets the point across.

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Play Mariah Carey's "All I want for Christmas" and tell her to listen closely to the words. Right when Mariah goes to sing "is You." Cut the music and say "is to be single" while looking deep into her eyes. It's festive and gets the point across.

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if you think hes going to get out of this unscathed you are smoking some good shite.

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she gon blow that rape whistle on his arse