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But if I'm being honest - there's a connection with that girl that I still have to this day that I was never able to replicate with anyone, not even my wife of 9 years. I love my wife, she's a great person and I cherish her for the mother and wife she is but I know the truth in the bottom of my heart.

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This statement hits the nail on the head for so many, I’m sure.

Timing is a bitch. When you’re young, you don’t want to be tied down, and rightfully so. But how many lose a good one because life moves on and you cannot get the timing right? Then again, how many get saved by not being with that one and find the better one when the time is right?

Not really one that got away, but one that might have been. My dad's law school roommate had a daughter the same age as me and we both went to LSU. My parents kept bugging me to give her a call and I finally did. She was excited to hear from me but our schedules didn't mesh for us to get together. I called her once or twice more, same result so I just dropped it. For some reason I still think about her from time to time and wonder if she was really the one and I blew it.

Met an American girl while playing baseball in the Netherlands. She was there playing softball. We had quite the time over the course of that month. But, we both really hated it there, both came home, and never spoke again. We literally hung out every day until boarding the plane. This was before cell phones and social media were prevalent. It was the AOL era. I don't even remember her name now.

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But if I'm being honest - there's a connection with that girl that I still have to this day…

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Man, I can identify with this. I spent almost every weekday of my junior year at Auburn with an absolutely amazing girl. We coordinated our schedules so we could be in classes together, went to lunch and just hung out on campus all the time. Absolutely loved this girl.

Problem was, she was dating a guy the whole time and I was an idiot and never made a move because of it. With a little over a week left before summer break she informs me that she isn’t coming back after the break because she got engaged. I was absolutely torn up at this point but it gets even worse.

A few days after breaking that news she calls me up and asks if she could come to my apartment, which she had never visited before. She had been talking to her roommates and it turns out she was super conflicted about whether she should marry the guy she was engaged to or give me a chance. She comes over and tells me I am her best friend and she thinks she might love me. I told her I felt the same. Things got awkward and I didn’t have much of an opportunity to change her mind since I had to pack up and go back home, which was far away.

I feel like an idiot for not figuring out a way to shoot my shot. To this day I still think about her quite often. It just kills me that one week she was my absolute best friend and then a few weeks later she is gone and I never hear from her again.

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thats a refreshing share

No details but she broke really bad, as in she’s now thricely divorced.

I lucked out.

But she was a sweet tight little minx…

Facebook and later whatever platforms 30-40 year olds use are usually helpful. Usually.

My wife (no pics) is hot. Of all the girls I ever dated, hooked up with, or had a fling. I can find ONE who has aged as well. The rest put on some lbs or aged like cheesecake.

Turns out I got damned lucky and unbeknownst to me I was “culling” the fish I caught. Just dumb luck but I’ll take it.

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Why is it that girls never seem to have a One That Got Away?

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They exist. We have a name for them: Alpha Widows. Look up the term.

They are much more rare than the men pining for lost women though. For two to three decades, most women will have an endless supply of men lined up for them. They won’t be attracted to most, but they’ll never lack for male attention.