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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:09 am to TexasTiger08
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:09 am to TexasTiger08
I can't tell people this enough...stop looking for personal satisfaction (happiness) in professional achievements. No raise, title, promotion, job description is going to fill the personal void you have. You have to separate the two and work on them individually.
But anyway, post some pics of her.
But anyway, post some pics of her.
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:09 am to TexasTiger08
Just 1, and it cured me from that silliness.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:09 am to TexasTiger08
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No, but we had been trying.
That's the only positive thing about the situation. Best of luck to you.
Hopefully you can do what I did...get rid of a girl with no education or career and marry up.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:10 am to TexasTiger08
It sounds like the door is still open to saving your marriage if counseling is coming up? Commit to that and commit to her that you’ll do what it takes to keep her. My brother just finished his divorce and it’s been pretty rough on him. Do what you can to avoid that!
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:10 am to TexasTiger08
Stop drinking. It will change your life.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:11 am to sidewalkside
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:11 am to TexasTiger08
Hmm. So you got really drunk around Easter and NYE and its a huge thing? Is she going through any other things, stressors or anxiety triggers?
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:11 am to TexasTiger08
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I’m waiting to see a psychiatrist. Counseling for us is on the horizon.
Definitely do the couples counseling but also make sure you’re doing individual for yourself. A lot of times in relationships, it’s our unresolved individual stuff. If the drinking and depression is a larger problem, you can see if your area has an Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP) where you’re doing intense therapy during the day for a couple of weeks (if you’re able to take the time off work/FMLA). Just remember everything you work on in individual will help you whether you divorce or not.
If she’s willing to go to counseling, you still have a chance at reconciliation. If you’ve had serious talks about divorce, it would be worth seeking a consultation with a lawyer just to CYA.
This post was edited on 6/15/23 at 10:12 am
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:11 am to TexasTiger08
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My depression
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bad drinking
my suggestion is start working on you, before working on the relationship, b/c if you ain't getting right, it really won't matter, in the long run, as far as the marriage counseling...
i see you are going to a psychiatrist, and that will be helpful, just keep working on you, b/c if the worst case does happen, at least you'll be better prepared for it, and for, possibly, someone else...
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:11 am to thegreatboudini
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:12 am to thegreatboudini
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4 months between the last noticeable time you got shite housed and made an arse of yourself and you think it's only 1 episode she cares about?
So, he gets drunk a few times a year and she can't get over it? Sounds like she's the one with issues.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:12 am to TexasTiger08
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I had a bad drinking episode around Easter that weighed heavily upon her.
What'd you do?
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:13 am to REB BEER
quote:meh... i'm no prude but a grown man getting so drunk that he had to miss a wedding the next day is pretty pathetic
So, he gets drunk a few times a year and she can't get over it? Sounds like she's the one with issues.
eta: and it's reasonable to assume it wasn't a happy and fun drunk
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:13 am to Havoc
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:13 am to joshnorris14
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Do you have children?
Biggest question
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:13 am to TexasTiger08
There are actually some pretty good threads and some pretty heart wrenching threads on here. A lot of folks have been through some crazy shite and surprisingly have posted some pretty deep stuff on here.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:13 am to TexasTiger08
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I haven’t done that since.
Yeah but have you specifically acknowledged that you made a mistake and are taking measures to make sure it doesn't happen again?
Just cuz it hasn't happened in the last 3 months doesn't mean that you've definitely conquered that demon. And if you don't tell her that you are making changes and then show her the effort you are giving to make those changes then how is she supposed to rest easy? Every time you have a drink she is probably anxious as can be that Black out Bob is gonna make an appearance.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:14 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:14 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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i'm no prude but a grown man getting so drunk that he had to miss a wedding the next day is pretty pathetic
I agree, he needs to work on his testicular fortitude.
Posted on 6/15/23 at 10:18 am to Havoc
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So you got really drunk around Easter and NYE and its a huge thing?
I am not a psychic but just because those are the two most recent drinking episodes doesn't mean they are the only ones. I'd imagine she has a laundry list of times that this guy blacked out and caused a scene and/or embarrassed her in front of people.
Which is why it's so important that you tell her out loud what changes you are willing to make and then have her witness you actually make those changes.
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