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Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:31 am to CocomoLSU
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:31 am to CocomoLSU
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FWIW, he isn't talking about restarting any clocks...he's suggesting you quit completely and unilaterally. An addict quits all the time, and starts back all the time too.
I’m not saying this guy is an alcoholic, but I’m of the opinion that his ole lady may have been gaslighting him in the sense that his intake or the amount of was the problem, rather than the anxiety of knowing (now proven) that she was running around on him.
ETA Maybe his alcohol wasn’t the actual problem.
This post was edited on 7/10/23 at 9:32 am
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Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:31 am to Big4SALTbro
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Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:35 am to CaptainsWafer
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but I’m of the opinion that his ole lady may have been gaslighting him in the sense that his intake or the amount of was the problem,
Look the baw admits, as a grown adult, to missing social functions due to being too piss drunk to show up.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:35 am to TexasTiger08
Sorry you're going through this shite and I hope things work out best for you.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:36 am to JohnnyKilroy
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missing social functions due to being too piss drunk to show up.
Didn’t put his wife into a situation where she was messing around with another man.
ETA, more so saying that his alcohol isn’t the reason they’re splitting up like he thought, it’s his wife’s infidelity. So let’s not hammer this cat about his drinking.
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Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:36 am to CaptainsWafer
They both seem to be a mess on a personal level. Prob best to go separate ways.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:38 am to CaptainsWafer
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Didn’t put his wife into a situation where she was messing around with another man.
Of course not.
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So let’s not hammer this cat about his drinking.
We aren’t hammering him. By his own posts it’s clear he has a drinking problem. He is in a vulnerable spot right now. There’s very little chance anything good comes from him drinking at this stage in his life.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:38 am to TexasTiger08
Nothing is going to get better in your life until you fix your own shite. Get your shite together. See a therapist if you need to, whatever. But start with the basics - start eating right, sleeping right and getting exercise everyday. Quit the booze. An hour or so in the gym and a walk in the sunlight does wonders for depression - may not cure it, but it helps. Get a lawyer and let the lawyer handle the divorce. But until you get your own head right, you’re gonna just keep screwing things up.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:39 am to TexasTiger08
So no not an upgrade for you. You def don’t want to raise the dudes kids for him unless you want to assert dominance over him.
Long term sneaky play if the coworkers wife is hot then get with her and make his kids hate him.
Long term sneaky play if the coworkers wife is hot then get with her and make his kids hate him.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:42 am to TexasTiger08
First, congrats on finding out and having the nuts to do something about it. You’d be amazed how many don’t have that in them
While I’m curious, don’t do this until that shite is final. The worst that can happen by taking my advice is you have to wait to share the lurid details.
You really don’t want to be reading your TD posts in court, homie.
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There’s more of a bombshell to this that won’t be posted yet.
While I’m curious, don’t do this until that shite is final. The worst that can happen by taking my advice is you have to wait to share the lurid details.
You really don’t want to be reading your TD posts in court, homie.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:42 am to CaptainsWafer
I don’t think he is blameless, he admitted to a drinking problem even missing an event because of it and before that he was depressed. Him not being on his shite gave the window for her to step out. She might have done it anyways, both at fault here though as he could have ran a tighter ship.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:48 am to SuperSaint
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im going to abandon character for a minute
Humble yourself and find a church, therapy, good friend/family that really has your best interest and open yourself up for support. Do whatever you can to maintain sobriety throughout this even if you yourself don't think there is an issue with alcohol. Get through this chapter and once the dust settles and life finds its track again and you feel the urge to have some drinks and let loose, have after it.
Wow. You do pretty well out of character.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:51 am to CaptainsWafer
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I’m not saying this guy is an alcoholic, but I’m of the opinion that his ole lady may have been gaslighting him in the sense that his intake or the amount of was the problem, rather than the anxiety of knowing (now proven) that she was running around on him.
ETA Maybe his alcohol wasn’t the actual problem.
Read the first page of the thread about them going to a wedding out of town and him drinking so much he blacked out and missed the wedding.
I'm not saying this dude's drinking "made" his wife cheat on him. But let's not pretend his drinking isn't a problem (and likely has been for a while).
And the last thing he needs to be doing right about now is getting blackout drunk and making horrible decisions that could frick him bigly in court.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:53 am to Proximo
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Don’t blame yourself, she’s the one who chose to be a whore and cheat.
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He’s an alcoholic and wasn’t meeting her needs
That’s not a free pass to commit adultery.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:53 am to Big4SALTbro
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I don’t think he is blameless, he admitted to a drinking problem even missing an event because of it and before that he was depressed. Him not being on his shite gave the window for her to step out. She might have done it anyways, both at fault here though as he could have ran a tighter ship.
No, he’s not blameless. Now that that’s out of the way, frick all this modern thinking that you have to be perfect to hang onto a wife. She’s fricking another dude while you’re married? YOU gave her a window to step out. YOU could have run a tighter ship. frick…all…that.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 9:59 am to Big4SALTbro
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Him not being on his shite gave the window for her to step out.
Hey, yeah, can you show me the clause in those wedding vows where it gives one of them the out to be unfaithful if someone isn’t “on their shite” and does that work both ways or just for one of them?
Thanks.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 10:00 am to TexasTiger08
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There’s more of a bombshell to this that won’t be posted yet.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 10:01 am to TexasTiger08
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Wife maintains nothing physical happened
Sounds like your wife was “cheating” with that Alabama fan who broke the news on vacation who couldn’t close the deal with the woman he was “cheating” with
Posted on 7/10/23 at 10:01 am to High C
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No, he’s not blameless. Now that that’s out of the way, frick all this modern thinking that you have to be perfect to hang onto a wife. She’s fricking another dude while you’re married? YOU gave her a window to step out. YOU could have run a tighter ship. frick…all…that.
Exactly. She took a vow. Sadly though, vows mean little to many people today. If all it takes to break a vow is an excuse to do so, then the vow is meaningless.
Posted on 7/10/23 at 10:02 am to TexasTiger08
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I took her keys before she left last night. The house is in my name only and was mine before the marriage. I suppose I can avoid changing locks in the short term.
Seems like you are in a strong position legally, but don’t muck it up by being overboard. The goal is her being out in a reasonably timeframe and you begin moving on. Avoid being overly punitive or unreasonable at this point even though it’s hard to.
With no kids involved you really dodged a bullet here. It’s 8 billion times harder with kids involved.
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