re: Thoughts? Father publicly spanks kids in Texas

good parenting, carry on.

A little much for me. My dad was always able to discipline me low key in public, usually with a pinch to the arm or leg that almost no one would see. That with a look, was usually enough. Spankings occasionally in private.

Lots to unpack from a few seconds of a video but this looks like a shitty father who raised shitty kids and turned into an even worse grandfather (I'm assuming he's the grandfather).

I see a lot of 'I was spanked back in the my day and I'm better for it' types on here. Sounds like you were spanked a lot. Sounds like as a child you didn't understand the expectations of your parents. That or your parents didn't explain their expectations to you and then took their frustrations out on you.

I was spanked as a kid but not often and almost exclusively when I did something I knew I shouldn't have been doing, i.e. being rebellious for rebellious sake. In those cases I knew the potential outcome. Maybe these kids were doing just that and, being as they're in public, the grandfather felt the need to make an example. Who knows really. This seems to have devolved into a discussion about spanking rather than if that man went to far. The person videoing the interaction thought it was enough to warrant documentation. Perhaps this was going on far longer than any of us would be comfortable with. Maybe the guy was being a dick for no reason. Maybe the kids were just assholes. We really won't know. Not from this video anyway.

Spanking at a young age should be course correcting not fear driven. If a child does something that they know isn't allowed by their parents standards and they do it anyway then a swift spanking that catches them by surprise will almost always do the trick. Afterwards, when the situation calms down, the parent should have a discussion with the child about expectations (if they are old enough). If they are young 1-3'ish and are still agents of chaos then enough of these little interactions should set the course for the next few years and into their pre-teens.

Fear based beatings isn't "good parenting" by any stretch. I'm glad that's how it was back in the day but it doesn't make it right. Parenting is hard work but being a good parent is even harder. Lots's of generalizations being floated around about outcomes of kids who were beaten/spanked and those that aren't. It's pretty pathetic really. One generation vs another vs another. There have been shitty parents and people for centuries. But you have to be intelligent to understand that. Seemingly anyway.

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- Allowing your child to dictate what they’re going to eat Instead of you is child abuse

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Lol. Take a seat.

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Lol. Take a seat.

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Whenever you allow children to decide what’s for dinner instead of you, the adult, you not only reverse the roles of who’s running the show, but you put them at a disadvantage in their life by making them picky eaters, and cause them to be weird with food by not experiencing different things. Growing up, what was being served at the dinner table was not a democracy, and we weren’t getting up from the dinner table until we finished eating, so I was exposed to a lot of different foods, and we were taught to be grateful for it. To this day, there simply isn’t much I won’t eat or try at least once, and am grateful for it. I’m really grateful my parents didn’t enable me to eat unhealthy food simply because I wanted unhealthy food for dinner, thus causing me to have unhealthy eating habits and put on weight. It’s because they were in charge, not me.

After reading all the comments first, I expected a lot worse. He was slapping her feet, it appeared to me. While I get the fact that the spankings were generated out of anger and that’s not a good thing, it’s not like he beat her senseless and should be charged with a crime. I don’t know, I’m not a parent so I don’t really have a fair criticism to give, but I don’t think he beat the shite out of that girl.

I raised two children, not 20 & 28 yrs old. Both are positive, college degrees, one has masters degree other starts med school January.

I believe in whipping. Just never had to do much of it. It's hard to say about the video, we don't see what led up to it. I can't make a judgement if the man was overreacting, if the boy deserved that level of arse whipping.
I didn't see the girl do anything that warranted her being slapped as she was.
Again, hard to say with limited video.

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Whenever you allow children to decide what’s for dinner instead of you, the adult, you not only reverse the roles of who’s running the show, but you put them at a disadvantage in their life by making them picky eaters, and cause them to be weird with food by not experiencing different things. Growing up, what was being served at the dinner table was not a democracy, and we weren’t getting up from the dinner table until we finished eating, so I was exposed to a lot of different foods, and we were taught to be grateful for it. To this day, there simply isn’t much I won’t eat or try at least once, and am grateful for it. I’m really grateful my parents didn’t enable me to eat unhealthy food simply because I wanted unhealthy food for dinner, thus causing me to have unhealthy eating habits and put on weight. It’s because they were in charge, not me.

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Old man—My mom often gave us two choices for dinner and always made us help. By the time I was ten, I did much of our family’s grocery shopping by riding my bike to the store, and I cooked many meals for the entire family by middle school.

My parents, who worked their asses off while I socialized, were quite grateful.

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I got beat way worse than that.

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in public??? and at that age?

I got spanked. I got marked up. Took my fare share worse than that, but I was probably a bit older. I also spank my child.

But that kid looked young for that level and I'm not a fan of spanking in a "rage". Calm down then dish out what's deserved. Don't release your frustration on the child. And it looks like that's what he was doing. Didnt even turn the girl to spank he properly, just hit her like he was mad and wanted to hurt her. If he's willing to do that in public, what does he do when he knows no one is watching?