re: Those who had expensive weddings

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Like i said earlier, we spent maybe $5k on our wedding, had about 200 guests, and reception in the church reception hall, finger foods, etc. Everyone loved it and had a nice time.

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You also said that was over 20 years ago.

Wait....reception in a church hall? So no alcohol. And finger foods? So no alcohol and no proper food??

Yikes. Guarantee anyone that said they “had a nice time” was just being nice.

Please tell me your wedding reception was not during a meal time. That is like wedding planning 101....you have to give guests a proper meal(not finger foods) if the reception is during a meal time.

We did the same, except in a AMVet’s hall cause we like booze, and jambalaya as the main food. My wife and I have never wished we would have spent more money. It’s one night that you remember bits and pieces of because your getting dragged around for all the ceremonial things. You are really paying for other people’s enjoyment, not yours.

My wedding was 10 years ago now, I but I think my in-laws spent close to $50k. They could afford it, so whatever. Personally, I would rather have gotten a check for $50k, but that option wasn't floated out, at lest not to me. We were 25 at the time, so had a ton of friends to invite and all that, so it was around 400 people. It just adds up if you have a nice venue, good food, and drink for that large of a crowd.

I actually went to a wedding last night, probably the nicest I've been to. But, the bride and groom were both mid 30's, so a much smaller crowd - maybe 200-ish. I imagine the spent upwards of $80k, flowers alone were probably $15k...absolutely insane; but her parents are loaded...

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Those who had expensive weddings

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This kind of stuff is way out of control. Everything now days has to be done to excess.
You have a baby, there has got to be a reveal party.
Your baby is one years old, got to have a cake smash party.
Every succeeding party has to top the previous one filled with clowns, jumping gyms, water slides.
And then there are the photos!
Each event has to be chronicled in pictures by a professional photographer or videographer.
Something as simple as asking a girl to the prom now has to be a big stage production.
The funny thing is that couples spend way more time planning a wedding than wondering if they are truly compatible or in love.
This is the results of living in a country where the poor are rich by world standards and we have too much idle time to fill our days with excess.

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This kind of stuff is way out of control. Everything now days has to be done to excess.
You have a baby, there has got to be a reveal party.
Your baby is one years old, got to have a cake smash party.
Every succeeding party has to top the previous one filled with clowns, jumping gyms, water slides.
And then there are the photos!
Each event has to be chronicled in pictures by a professional photographer or videographer.
Something as simple as asking a girl to the prom now has to be a big stage production.

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yes. rampant narcissism. it's terrible

kids can't even go to school without those insane boards

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kids can't even go to school without those insane boards

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Those things are horrible

One of my friends gets so annoyed by the 50 million "my kid's first day back at school" fb posts with those damn chalk boards every year he just posts a pic of his dog.

Do a google image search of "back to school chalkboard sign" and you will see all the horrible name spellings these days. Such as ...
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I actually went to a wedding last night, probably the nicest I've been to. But, the bride and groom were both mid 30's, so a much smaller crowd - maybe 200-ish. I imagine the spent upwards of $80k, flowers alone were probably $15k...absolutely insane; but her parents are loaded...

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Parents of Bridezillas are worse than the Bridezillas themselves if they have money. It's all about outdoing others in their social groups.

I love these videos

80s mom vs 2018 mom


80s mom vs 2018 mom Halloween

I had a nice wedding 11 years ago but I didn’t spend a dollar of my own money. Had that been the case it would have been much cheaper

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Had that been the case it would have been much cheaper

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But you still would have served some sort of alcohol?

Dry weddings can be nice, sure...but those are the weddings you put in your obligated appearance in...stay as long as is not offensive to the bride and groom...and then leave as soon as you can.