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Spinoff: Living with your girlfriend or fiance is a great idea before marriage
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:03 am
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:03 am
I am very religious and I lived with mine. I have known several family members or friends who chose not to in order to be "godly" and they ended up getting a divorce. I can't stress to you enough how important it is to live with someone before deciding that you want to spend forever with.
Don't listen to old people who say its sinful. All that is is old tradition that is dying out anyway and everyone who says that stuff sins in other ways.
Don't listen to old people who say its sinful. All that is is old tradition that is dying out anyway and everyone who says that stuff sins in other ways.
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Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:04 am to Mando
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Don't listen to people
This is how you should make decisions
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:05 am to Mando
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Spinoff: Living with your girlfriend or fiance is a great idea before marriage
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am very religious and I lived with mine. I have known several family members or friends who chose not to in order to be "godly" and they ended up getting a divorce.
Oh , well I guess that settles it
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:05 am to Mando
Ah, seems like just yesterday i was sneaking past the night security at Sarah Lawrence to throw rocks at Mrs. S’s window, beckoning her downstairs with a basket of champagne, baguette, and camembert.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:06 am to GreatLakesTiger24
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Late last month, the Journal of Marriage and Family published a new study with a somewhat foreboding finding: Couples who lived together before marriage had a lower divorce rate in their first year of marriage, but had a higher divorce rate after five years. It supported earlier research linking premarital cohabitation to increased risk of divorce.
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Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:06 am to Mando
Better yet, living with any woman is a bad idea
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:08 am to Mando
The creator of the whole fricking universe will be super pissed if you share an apartment with a woman.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:08 am to Mando
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Spinoff: Living with your girlfriend or fiance is a great idea before marriage
married living separately is better idea.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:08 am to Mando
quote:I think it depends on the situation. I think as long as your able to be open and trustworthy with each other it's not something that needs to happen. I moved in with my ex before getting engaged and it was good. Everything fell apart before we got married but I think for us moving in was good. Other relationships I've been in I think it would have been better to wait it out if it had gotten to the point. Not all things are created equal
I am very religious and I lived with mine. I have known several family members or friends who chose not to in order to be "godly" and they ended up getting a divorce. I can't stress to you enough how important it is to live with someone before deciding that you want to spend forever with.
Don't listen to old people who say its sinful. All that is is old tradition that is dying out anyway and everyone who says that stuff sins in other ways.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:08 am to Mando
Dated a girl for 4yrs somewhat long distance (1.5hrs away). Lived with her the last 6 months of that 4 yr span. Thank goodness we did as it saved us from marrying and the subsequent divorce that would’ve shortly followed. It worked out for both of us in the long run.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:09 am to Mando
When you're swimming around in the lake of fire, remember this post.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:09 am to Mando
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. I can't stress to you enough how important it is to live with someone before deciding that you want to spend forever with.
I don't care if couples live together or not but you shouldn't be marrying anyone that you aren't 100% sure you will get along with when living together. If it's truly the right person you don't need a fricking try out
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:09 am to GreatLakesTiger24
you just going to ignore the very next paragraph 
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But just two weeks later, the Council on Contemporary Families—a nonprofit group at the University of Texas at Austin—published a report that came to the exact opposite conclusion: Premarital cohabitation seemed to make couples less likely to divorce. From the 1950s through 1970, “those who were willing to transgress strong social norms to cohabit … were also more likely to transgress similar social norms about divorce,” wrote the author, Arielle Kuperberg, a sociology professor at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro. But as the rate of premarital cohabitation ballooned to some 70 percent, “its association with divorce faded. In fact, since 2000, premarital cohabitation has actually been associated with a lower rate of divorce, once factors such as religiosity, education, and age at co-residence are accounted for.”
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:09 am to Mando
Disagree, and not for religious reasons.
Living together prior to engagement/marriage is also a good way to end up married to someone you should never have gotten married to.
Lots of bad marriages occur because the couple had been dating, moved in together, and just got married because it seemed like the logical next step.
Not living together lessens the pressure of staying together. There's a lot more shite to worry about when you break up with someone and there's a shared apartment, bills, etc. involved.
I'd never seen this, but this is exactly what I'd assume. First-year divorce rate is lower because they are accustomed to living together and can weather more easily the initial "roommate shock." But more of those relationships were more forced than they should have been, and thus were more likely to end in divorce.
Living together prior to engagement/marriage is also a good way to end up married to someone you should never have gotten married to.
Lots of bad marriages occur because the couple had been dating, moved in together, and just got married because it seemed like the logical next step.
Not living together lessens the pressure of staying together. There's a lot more shite to worry about when you break up with someone and there's a shared apartment, bills, etc. involved.
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Late last month, the Journal of Marriage and Family published a new study with a somewhat foreboding finding: Couples who lived together before marriage had a lower divorce rate in their first year of marriage, but had a higher divorce rate after five years. It supported earlier research linking premarital cohabitation to increased risk of divorce.
I'd never seen this, but this is exactly what I'd assume. First-year divorce rate is lower because they are accustomed to living together and can weather more easily the initial "roommate shock." But more of those relationships were more forced than they should have been, and thus were more likely to end in divorce.
This post was edited on 1/30/20 at 10:15 am
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:09 am to dbowe82
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better yet, living with any MAN is a bad idea
FIFY!
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:14 am to Mando
Living together before you get engaged is commonplace but still trashy.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:16 am to Mando
i doubt that divorces are caused by moving in together before marriage. it could help avoid one, though.
Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:16 am to Salmon
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Posted on 1/30/20 at 10:19 am to Salmon
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you just going to ignore the very next paragraph
Fair enough. But it's also probably safe to say that we've got two organizations with competing agendas. Who knows which report should be trusted more.
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Journal of Marriage and Family
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Council on Contemporary Families
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