re: So the time has come. A young man is coming over to take my daughter out.

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don’t get divorced... it ruins your life and fricks up your kids.

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Divorce can definitely throw fuel on it but marriage certainly doesn’t insulate teenagers being sexually active, either.

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WTF can I do?

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Nothing. Just stand there and take it.....whatever. But above all don't create a conflict, cause then you could loose any chance of keeping the lines of communication open with your daughter. Just love her and try to listen when (and if) she needs a shoulder to cry on. IMO that's your best approach.

I can understand your hesitation when it comes to allowing your daughter out with an 18 year old, unfortunately you and your wife are divorced. Your ex-wife is not in agreement with you on this. Plus your wife has primary custody of your daughter, that puts you at a distinct disadvantage. However, sensing the concern I read in your message......I figure the oppertunity to show her you want to be a good loving Dad will happen.

I'm sorry you have to go through with all this. Divorce is awful on kids.......not a cakewalk for the divorced father either.

Good Luck......Dad!

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Nothing wrong w vetting him. He and she can earn your trust.

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Nope, he's 18 so he's a piece of shite, immature, pussy hunting a-hole. There is no other alternative.

my nephew got married this weekend,


to a young lady who was a charge of his at Church camp.

but, he's only a year older so we're not trashy like this story

There’s only one reason a dude that age would date a girl that young..... probably been banging her for a bit already.

There is no doubt about that, old sport!

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Nope, he's 18 so he's a piece of shite, immature, pussy hunting a-hole.

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In fairness, that probably does cover about 85% of 18 year old guys.

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In fairness, that probably does cover about 85% of 18 year old guys

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And 17 and 16 and 15 the low IQ OT thinks this is exclusive to 18 year old high school kids.

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If you focused on just forcing your children into respecting your word at an age where both boys and girls seek individuality, than I hoped it truly worked out.

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First of all, you don’t force respect, you teach it. And you earn it. And if youstsrt our teaching them respect at an early age it will serve you well into their adult life. My son is 17. He’s 6’ 240 lbs of muscle. Truth be told, especially since I’m just about disabled now, he could snap me like a twig. But he still does as me and his mother tells him. Is he a teen who pushes his boundaries? Of course, that’s natural. But he still respects and follows our rules.

The key is if your a parent from day one, and by that I mean a consistent parent who sets clear expectations and rules with clear boundaries, those things you instill in them as young kids will remain for the rest of their life.

And the best part of it is, kids thrive in a home where there are clear boundaries and rules they excel when you teach them things like respect for you as their parent, their elders, and themselves. Kids flourish in a structured life.

Just doesn’t seem necessary but OK.