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re: Settle this marriage/ parenting dispute
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:31 am to LSUGrrrl
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:31 am to LSUGrrrl
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You think she doesn’t know what her expectations and responsibilities are? She knows she should have cleaned the shite up. She was mentally done in that moment. That happens when you are home with kids all day messing things up while you try to put things back together and keep them entertained. She probably had little adult interaction all day. It’s draining.
You can be “right” and give her some lecture about expectations and responsibilities that she already knows. OR, you can have empathy, give her grace and have a happy marriage. Part of your expectations and responsibility is to support her emotional well being.
blah blah blah, I had a bad day. We all do from time to time but if you expect me to sit back and just ignore shite on my floor you're wrong. I don't expect perfection and I'm not unreasonable but I'm not ignoring shite on my floor. We're going to discuss it. I have empathy, I would have cleaned it. Don't expect it to be a common occurrence, don't expect me to ignore it. I'll help out around the house but you have to understand that having a difficult day doesn't give you a pass to expect that I didn't also have a bad day you self intitled twit.
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Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:32 am to Bert Macklin FBI
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I also never came home to poop on the floor and I didn't know that was a measure of a successful marriage until today
I've walked into some messes before, but never feces. Gotta take a win where you can.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:33 am to boosiebadazz
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The shite is still on the floor. I ask her why she didn’t clean it and she wants me to do it. Argument ensues.
There is never an excuse to "save" work for your spouse. That was a bullshite move. If she just didn't get to it, or if it was something she couldn't do, etc., fine.
But if a spouse consciously says "I saved this work for you to do" that's a completely fricked up thing to do.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:38 am to boosiebadazz
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The shite is still on the floor. I ask her why she didn’t clean it and she wants me to do it. Argument ensues.
What kinda sick human being leaves shite just sitting on the floor.. I'd pick it up and throw it at her to establish dominance...
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:46 am to StTiger
quote:This can all be true and she still shouldn’t have left shite on the floor
There are some shitty parents in here for sure. Too many of you think that because you work 8-10 hrs a day that your parental duties stop at the fun parts. And anything beyond that is for "beta" guys. Fragile egos here for sure. You get home, do what needs to be done. If someone needs a break, step up and do a little bit more so they can have it. Y'all forget we are only getting 100% of OPs side and I can guarantee he was an arse on the phone and when he got home when all his wife needed was a little support and help. Of course Mr. Badasszzzssz will deny that, but this is the OT so it was only the Wife's fault
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:48 am to boosiebadazz
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Who is right and who is wrong?
Well, it is obvious that you - *wait*
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boosiebadazz
*ahem* It is obvious that your saintly wife is in the right and you should not only clean that shite up, but thank her for the opportunity.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:51 am to boosiebadazz
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She ended up cleaning it up
So you wouldn't clean up after your child, your own flesh & blood, to help your wife out because you work? Figures coming from you.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:53 am to boosiebadazz
Ez, make her sleep on the couch. No man should come home after long day work and deal w this shite.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:54 am to This GUN for HIRE
Whats next he gotta cook, do dishes, wash clothes after working 10 plus hours while she does... what?
That shite stupid
Get yo liberal arse out cali aint here
That shite stupid
Get yo liberal arse out cali aint here
This post was edited on 8/23/23 at 9:55 am
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:54 am to pwejr88
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She’s been home all day dealing with it and gets paid $0.00 for the hardest job in the world.
Bill Burr on women claiming motherhood is the hardest job in the world
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:56 am to boosiebadazz
She is clearly in the wrong...
Posted on 8/23/23 at 9:59 am to This GUN for HIRE
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So you wouldn't clean up after your child, your own flesh & blood, to help your wife out because you work? Figures coming from you.
I think everyone is missing the point of this. The issue is the "saving" of work.
There is nothing wrong with a husband washing clothes, dishes, etc. But if my wife said "I washed half the dishes and I saved the other half for you" then I would lose my shite. That is bullshite. (she would never do that, because my wife is not evil)
Had his kid shite on the floor just as he was walking in, this wouldn't be an issue.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 10:01 am to boosiebadazz
Sounds like the shite hit the fan.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 10:36 am to boosiebadazz
Let’s be honest about some of this
Guys are fearful that they’ll piss off the one person that they promised fidelity because that one person can withhold the one thing we all obsess over- sex.
So it’s this delicate dance of how to maintain some dignity and marital power and keeping her happy enough to still have sex with us.
The line. It’s about that line. where we are willing to draw that line?
This situation, unless there’s more to the story, clearly seems to be worth some line drawing. Explain to her that her job is valuable and so too is yours.
If you mess up at work, you don’t expect her to clean it up. Same goes for her.
Again, unless there’s more to this, she ought to understand
Guys are fearful that they’ll piss off the one person that they promised fidelity because that one person can withhold the one thing we all obsess over- sex.
So it’s this delicate dance of how to maintain some dignity and marital power and keeping her happy enough to still have sex with us.
The line. It’s about that line. where we are willing to draw that line?
This situation, unless there’s more to the story, clearly seems to be worth some line drawing. Explain to her that her job is valuable and so too is yours.
If you mess up at work, you don’t expect her to clean it up. Same goes for her.
Again, unless there’s more to this, she ought to understand
Posted on 8/23/23 at 10:39 am to TutHillTiger
quote:I hear this a lot, and often its from guys who have just given up and let their wives completely run their lives.
Happy wife happy life
There is some truth to it, you do want your wife to be happy, and you want to take care of her. But you can't just lay down and be a complete doormat either. Once you lose her respect, your marriage is over.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 10:47 am to StTiger
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hand. Shouldn't been thinking whose turn it is to do this or who should've done that.
Leaving literal shite on a wall for someone else to clean up is a bit extreme. Not to mention the kids could have gotten back into it.
Say you need a break when they get home and any normal adult would be happy to oblige after a situation like that.
Doing shite like this and not communicating is why things become so hard on both sides.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 10:53 am to thelawnwranglers
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You married a woman who left human shite on the floor
this. enjoy your future.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 10:57 am to caro81
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You married a woman who left human shite on the floor
this. enjoy your future.
Always try to be the better person. There is shite everywhere. You just can't see it.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 11:23 am to Artificial Intel
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What does your 3 year old daughter have to do with this?
You’re wrong. Just sympathize with your stay at home wife and clean up the shite.
The moment boosiebadazz found out his wife posts here.
Posted on 8/23/23 at 11:25 am to boosiebadazz
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tile floor
Poor people problems
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