re: Settle this marriage/ parenting dispute

reading these threads always remind me why the divorce threads are always 20 pages on here

especially knowing this place and how bitter most of these guys are towards women

most of these threads turn into the OP trying to walk back the thread and defend his wife

Look I get she had a long day. I'd understand if she wanted me to help with dishes, laundry, kids rooms, baths, whatever...

But the fact she didn't clean up shite off the floor and just let it sit there, is just weird.

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Mom gets frustrated, calls dad.

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This is where it all went wrong. I've never been in the middle of cleaning up a child and their mess and thought I should stop doing that and call my wife. Afterwards to complain, sure, but get the poop cleaned up first. It isn't the same as leaving dirty clothes on the laundry room floor, or an overflowing trash can. It was literally shite.

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Dad walks in and immediately tells mom “I’m taking over, I’ve got bedtime, go do whatever you want to do.”

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This is always the right call though. For about 5 years my wife either stayed home full time, or worked a part time job. Most of this was prior to Covid, so our routine was me taking the oldest to school then going in to the office. She would pick up from school in the afternoon, after being home with an infant all day, and take care of both of them until I got home. There were frustrating times, as with any marriage. One of her thoughts when leaving her full time job was that it would give her time to run errands and do the grocery shopping to take that off of me. What that eventually turned into was her texting me a grocery list to get on my way home from work, because she was stressed. I gladly did that, and sometimes I would even come home first and take the kids with me when she asked, to give her an hour to relax. And I never came home to poop on the floor.

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And I never came home to poop on the floor

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I also never came home to poop on the floor and I didn't know that was a measure of a successful marriage until today.

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You try staying home with a baby every day and see how long it takes you to become unhinged.

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I can confidently say that I could stay at home with a baby all day and still manage to express frustration without passive aggressively leaving shite on the floor.

My wife has also managed to do the same.

I know you married a dime piece by not knowing you married a dime piece. Comes with the territory.

Tell her that it’s not fair to ask you to clean up anything that happened while she was watching them but because you’re a bigger person, you’ll clean it up because you don’t want the house soiled with feces or have anyone become I’ll because they ingested feces.