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re: Settle a debate about who pays for alcohol at wedding reception
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:49 pm to Kingshakabooboo
Posted on 10/26/24 at 10:49 pm to Kingshakabooboo
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it is open bar however I see nothing wrong with a cash bar.
I would be embarrassed if I had to do a cash bar for my daughter’s wedding.
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Posted on 10/26/24 at 11:07 pm to Lickitty Split
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This post was edited on 10/26/24 at 11:09 pm
Posted on 10/26/24 at 11:12 pm to Lickitty Split
My parents wanted liquor at mine when my wife’s parents were only willing to pay for wine and beer (which I was fine with), so they bought the hard liquor for their own enjoyment.
Posted on 10/26/24 at 11:13 pm to Kingshakabooboo
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Bride side should pay if it is open bar however I see nothing wrong with a cash bar.
A cash bar at a wedding is fricking embarrassing and cheap. I promise you that you’re one of the only ones that think this.
Posted on 10/27/24 at 12:02 am to dallastiger55
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em tits are perfect
Nah. She’s obviously left handed.
Posted on 10/27/24 at 12:04 am to GeauxTigers123
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I will say it speaks poorly about society that people can’t have fun without being served alcohol.
1000%
Posted on 10/27/24 at 12:22 am to Lickitty Split
Brides side pays the reception, groom
Pays for the rehearsal dinner and typically the honeymoon
Pays for the rehearsal dinner and typically the honeymoon
Posted on 10/27/24 at 7:46 am to TutHillTiger
106 posts.... Guess the debate isn't settled 
Posted on 10/27/24 at 8:13 am to TygerLyfe
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Guess the debate isn't settled
Oh it’s been settled for ages some people are just not accepting of traditional practices because it is not how they think it should be done
Posted on 10/27/24 at 8:17 am to Bullfrog
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Cash bar brah that you get 20% of the take.
That what we did. Cleared $2.75 cold cash. Was nice.
Should have gotten at least $3.50
Posted on 10/27/24 at 8:39 am to Lickitty Split
Historically it’s obviously the groom’s side pays for the entire Rehersal Diinner and the bride’s side pays for just about everything else, including the bar at the Wedding Reception.
That has been my experience as a groom and also as the father of a bride and of a groom. (Separate weddings, this isn’t Pine Bluff)
An allowable exception (in my opinion) is an imbalanced guest wedding, I know of a wedding where the groom was from a huge family, his family was much more connected & prominent than the bride’s and the guest list was probably 75%/25% favored towards the groom’s side. In that case the groom’s family did pay for the bar at the reception. There were almost 2,000 folks invited so it was a matter of some substance.
If there are fiscal constraints, as parents folks should just tell their kids that there is a maximum amount they (the parents) are going to supply and stick to that budget.
That has been my experience as a groom and also as the father of a bride and of a groom. (Separate weddings, this isn’t Pine Bluff)
An allowable exception (in my opinion) is an imbalanced guest wedding, I know of a wedding where the groom was from a huge family, his family was much more connected & prominent than the bride’s and the guest list was probably 75%/25% favored towards the groom’s side. In that case the groom’s family did pay for the bar at the reception. There were almost 2,000 folks invited so it was a matter of some substance.
If there are fiscal constraints, as parents folks should just tell their kids that there is a maximum amount they (the parents) are going to supply and stick to that budget.
Posted on 10/27/24 at 10:20 pm to notiger1997
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I would be embarrassed if I had to do a cash bar for my daughter’s wedding.
Why. You are invited their to enjoy and be part of celebrating someone getting married. Why does that have to include alcohol. I’ve never understood people that can’t enjoy doing something unless they are drunk. And look, I’m not someone that’s opposed to having a drink now and then but I’m capable of enjoying a situation without having a drink. And no one is forcing you to show up. If getting a free drink means more to you than celebrating my daughters wedding then honestly we are probably better off without you anyways. Just shows your character is all. Or lack of it I should say.
Posted on 10/28/24 at 6:39 am to Billy Blanks
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Weddings without booze are AWFUL.
This. We once went to a wedding years ago in a small town. It was a Baptist wedding. The reception had punch, bowls of M&M’s, and wedding cake. We left as soon as it was polite and possible.
This post was edited on 10/28/24 at 8:52 am
Posted on 10/28/24 at 7:58 am to Kingshakabooboo
Nobody has to "get drunk".
Alcohol has been a traditional part of wedding celebrations since Biblical times ( see Jesus) and is generally expected, but certainly not required.
Cash bars are tacky, IMO, but sometimes necessary due to budget. That a least gives folks the option, I guess.
Alcohol has been a traditional part of wedding celebrations since Biblical times ( see Jesus) and is generally expected, but certainly not required.
Cash bars are tacky, IMO, but sometimes necessary due to budget. That a least gives folks the option, I guess.
Posted on 10/28/24 at 7:59 am to Lickitty Split
how many, "i/we paid for our own wedding" posts in here?
Posted on 10/28/24 at 8:00 am to Lickitty Split
We are paying for our open bar 
They charge by the beer and shot
They charge by the beer and shot
Posted on 10/28/24 at 8:27 am to boosiebadazz
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Weddings are fricking gay, bro. Full stop. Give it to them for a down payment.
Second. FIL offered this for us. Wish we would have done that instead.
Will do the same for my girls. Should have 60-80k minimally saved for each by the time they turn 18.
Will have the choice for it to be spent on a car, college, wedding, or downpayment on a home
Posted on 10/28/24 at 8:30 am to Psych23
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Why don't we do dowries anymore? Us men should get something for taking on the financial burden of another man's daughter.
We do. We get endless sex for lif-
Wait…
Posted on 10/28/24 at 9:33 am to GeauxTigers123
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I will say it speaks poorly about society that people can’t have fun without being served alcohol.
Alcohol is the only thing that makes weddings tolerable for men
Posted on 10/28/24 at 10:09 am to OMLandshark
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My parents wanted liquor at mine when my wife’s parents were only willing to pay for wine and beer (which I was fine with), so they bought the hard liquor for their own enjoyment.
This is the kind of thing that needs to happen on a case by case basis. Societal norms aren't the final say.
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