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re: Serious sad thread, OT Divorced baws unite!
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:40 am to Paul Allen
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:40 am to Paul Allen
Let’s meet up Pauly I’d love to chat
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Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:43 am to Paul Allen
What is going on in here? The OP needs us right now fellas like wonton said his soon to be ex is probably rounding second base right now let's stay on topic.
This post was edited on 2/18/18 at 1:46 am
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:47 am to King Jaffe Foffer
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Any advice on how to do this other than the tried and true methods of booze and strange?
Accept that it will take a year for you to be completely over her. Your marriage, the divorce, all the pain will be nothing more than a memory, a snapshot in 12 months. Feb 2019 you will not give 2 shits about her, or her manipulation, dishonesty, infidelity, etc.
Until you hit that year mark though you will ride the emotional roller coaster. One day you will be plowing a new 22 year old, the next day you will be wondering what you did wrong in your marriage. You will be messaging half a dozen attractive women from Tinder and Bumble who all want your cock, and then you will get a text from her that wrecks your day.
Best advice is to take care of yourself. Eat well. Exercise. Be social. Make money. Read. Go to church if that is your thing.
With no kids to weigh you down you have been given a new lease on life. It will not appear that way for a while. But it is true.
Bottom line is you will be a different man a year from now and at some point you will meet someone and build a life with her and your first marriage will just be one brief chapter in your life.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:51 am to IllegalPete
Pete well put. Just flip the page and start another chapter in his life.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:53 am to King Jaffe Foffer
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late 20's.
Prime of your life.
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I'm just looking for healthier coping methods than repressed rage, alcoholism, and failed attempts at picking up women in bars.
Nothing wrong with any of those in moderation. Part of the process.
Give yourself a year. Let yourself experience SOME rage, SOME hurt, SOME irresponsible drinking, SOME reliving your college days, SOME dirty meaningless sex with girls you will never see again or want to introduce to your friends or family.
You just got a "get out of jail free" card.
I look forward to seeing great threads from you over the next few years.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:56 am to canteen
quote:this post was kind of confusing.
my bf went through a bitter divorce with kids involved
he got into hiking, joined a running club, and did things outside of his comfort zone
he met someone new a year later and couldnt be happier
For future reference, bf usually means boyfriend
Posted on 2/18/18 at 1:57 am to King Jaffe Foffer
quote:It could help in that you're getting away from the memories and starting fresh somewhere else but also hurt at the same time since you'll be moving away from the ones who love you the most. It's their support that you're going to be relying on in the immediate future. If I were in your situation, especially if kids aren't involved, I'd pack my bags and go start fresh somewhere else while you're still young.
Also, I may have a chance to make a big career move in a few months time, relocate to a new city not long after the likely divorce would be finalized. Has anyone on here ever done that? Started fresh in a new city after a divorce? If so, did it help or hurt?
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:05 am to King Jaffe Foffer
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Any advice on how to do this other than the tried and true methods of booze and strange?
Work out, get a new hobby, and use this as an opportunity to take stock of your life and emerge from this as a better person.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:06 am to Eightballjacket
Why the hell was this anchored?
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:10 am to ForeverLSU02
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Why the hell was this anchored?
Probably one of the most relevant topics we will read all year on TD.
Maybe the OP is shitfaced and remorseful and RA'd himself.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:12 am to King Jaffe Foffer
Gym, tan, laundry. $$$$
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:12 am to IllegalPete
No reason for the anchor.
Anchor check 1
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Anchor check 1
Check 2
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:15 am to castorinho
quote:I'm still thinking that's what canteen may have meant
For future reference, bf usually means boyfriend
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:17 am to ForeverLSU02
This had to be self inflicted for the anchor. OP must have requested. I asked for a sticky from admins
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:33 am to King Jaffe Foffer
As a child of divorced parents who have seen the worst and most violent parts of marriage, be thankful you didn't bring any kid into this world around that.
You have your whole life ahead of you. You might've wasted years, but at least you didn't waste a kid's childhood. You dodged a bullet.
Oh and late 20s? You got plenty of time lol. Bumble is where it's at
You have your whole life ahead of you. You might've wasted years, but at least you didn't waste a kid's childhood. You dodged a bullet.
Oh and late 20s? You got plenty of time lol. Bumble is where it's at
This post was edited on 2/18/18 at 2:38 am
Posted on 2/18/18 at 2:37 am to rpr4695
I got counseling for my kids after our divorce my two youngest kids lived with my ex and she was in and out of relationships after our divorce. I wanted my kids to understand that this is not normal so I put them in counseling.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 4:56 am to King Jaffe Foffer
Been there. Honestly it’s best to bang your way out of the depression. Lower your standards and get to work. You’ll come out of it eventually and you’ll feel better.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 5:09 am to Dawgholio
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Lower your standards and get to work.
Please do not take this advice. Lowering your standards will also serve to lower your self-esteem.
Develop a new hobby, meet people for friends - find some meet up groups. Travel - can you take a few weeks off and plan a trip to a national park - Yosemite, or something bad arse.
Don’t go the self destructive ways - you’ll be better in the end and not feel all guilty about it.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 6:31 am to King Jaffe Foffer
Sounds like it's time for a road trip. Go do something you always wanted to do and see some sights. Go hiking in the mountains. Get outside in nature. Get to know yourself instead of escaping into a bottle.
Good luck to you.
Good luck to you.
Posted on 2/18/18 at 6:56 am to King Jaffe Foffer
Stick with good whiskey until you feel better and realize you get to keep your paychecks.....
Then to hell with her, get a boat, and go fishing.
Then to hell with her, get a boat, and go fishing.
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