re: Seeing a lot of "mental health" posts here and in the news in general

I deal with pretty severe anxiety. I push through it, but there are those bad moments. I wouldn’t call myself feeble or weak, it’s just something that I have and try to manage as best I can.

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deal with it

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That's what people ARE doing, but you are calling them soft for it.

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it's funny how everyone assumes I have not been through these things

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No, people are rightfully calling you out for being an arse hole. People deal with their issues as best they can to overcome them.

If your approach worked for you, great. Some people can't address it as simply as you claim you do.

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What's more infuriating about scenarios like that, is that you absolutely KNOW what your brain is telling you isn't true.

It's a wild experience to be sitting there arguing with your own brain/body KNOWING what you're brain is telling you isn't true, yet you can't shake the feeling.

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this is the insanity of OCD. The obsessing about the illogical.

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It seems like "focusing on mental health" actually just makes more people feel like they have mental health problems

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There are definitely people who "abuse" the new focus on mental health. But there's also a lot to unpack for entire generations since most of us were told "you're fine" "suck it up", etc... for 20-30+ years. Now that we can actually look inward without being lambasted, we're finding a lot of shite we've simply ignored for decades.

You can seem really healthy until you make your first doctor visit after 25 years of not going. Then all of a sudden they tell you everything that you've been ignoring is causing major issues

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I tend to think that exercise, eating better, sleeping better, and spending less time on social media would probably have more benefit on average for more people than therapy and / or meds.

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Absolutely. There are positive biological side effects of doing these activities. I think pairing them with modern medicine is a good start to improving yourself.

If your approach worked for you, great. Some people can't address it as simply as you claim you do.

This is really important. What works for one person won’t work for another. Heck, what works for one person in one situation might not work AT ALL the next time. Mental health is such a weird and dynamic thing.

I have been struggling A LOT lately simply because I spent years developing all of these different techniques and coping mechanisms through therapy and trial and error, and a lot of them simply are not working anymore. I keep throwing techniques and strategies at the wall and nothing that worked 2 years ago is working at all right now. I’ll probably be going back to therapy soon if only for this reason.

Nothing like being sane enough to not be locked up and have to work a real job, but too crazy to be capable of doing anything well enough or consistently enough to keep living wage work in this insane economy where food has tripled in price and most bills doubled while pay has been flat the last 3 years.

People talk about things now because talk therapy is statistically the most effective mental health treatment that doesn’t involve drugs. Exercise, sunlight, mindfulness, fostering closer relationships with friends and family, religion, sobriety, getting the right amount of sleep, etc are all recommended because they have the highest probability to work, or at least improve the situation, but nothing is bulletproof.

There are not enough upvotes for the amount of truth in that post.

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WRONG. I never said people are weak for wanting to seek help or talk about things. Go for it. It's great. It works. It's the people who wallow in their own misery and can't get out of their own way I have issues with. the world does not care. It will not stop for you and rub your head until you feel better. there is nobody to blame for your issues (or successes) other than yourself

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People openly talking about mental health is not expecting the world to stop for you. Or blaming others for their issues. They're talking about it because people need to know that they're not alone in dealing with those issues on a clinical level.

People having mental health issues that are more significant than yours does not mean they are soft. Not everyone can just "move passed" anxiety and depression with ease. A pill doesn't always just "fix" their issues. The brain doesn't work that way.

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but you DEALT WITH IT and kept your life moving and thats awesome. some people live their entire lives in fear of being offended by something or someone.

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you dont even know what the frick you are saying now old man. You are the worst. pray your kids dont get depressed.

Jk we will be the ones to help bc we arent hiding behind being a tough guy

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I deal with anxiety and depression but guess what...life goes on and the world does not care. Deal with it and keep your life moving. I will never understand people who are crippled with anxiety and so feeble and weak that they can't handle basic life matters like speaking to another human and looking them in the eye.

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I for the most part agree with this. I struggle with anxiety and occasional depression, especially in winter, and it is worse now with some sleep deprivation and work stress.

I allow myself to be upset for a bit, then I finally say to myself, “frick all that, time to get up and bitch slap life”.

But for all these teen and college kids that can’t deal with anything, whooo boy, they have some tough sledding ahead — it damn sure doesn’t get easier in life.

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they have some tough sledding ahead — it damn sure doesn’t get easier in life.

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So isn’t it a good thing that they’re seemingly seeking help early on?

My 20’s were a straight up bloodbath of suffering and setbacks, foring me to completely reboot my life at 28. If I had gotten the therapy I needed as a teen instead of at 30, I probably could’ve avoided a LOT of unnecessary suffering and struggles.