re: Recently deceased in dreams

My dad past 10 years ago and I still have dreams with him in them. Most of them has him inserted in current life situations I'm going through as if he never past.

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I've had these kinds of dreams before. I think it's mostly remembrance or subconscious longing for the company of someone you lost. If it's something else, that's cool too.

Read The First Phone Call from Heaven- Mitch Albom.

It's fiction but came out a month or so after my brother died so I enjoyed it.

I see him and both of my parents, the three of which I have lost in the last three years, quite often in my dreams and it's always a pleasant experience. Sometimes when we were young and sometimes as we were older. I enjoy those random dreams and also the memories. All of them are always with us somehow and that's comforting. I had all three of them for close to fifty years which is one of gods greatest gifts and earthly blessings - that of a family complete. Enjoy and embrace those moments because it is what allows us to get up in the mornings and live on.

OP, fwiw, I read somewhere once that if one dreams of a deceased loved one that is a good sign. They have moved on and are okay.

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OP, fwiw, I read somewhere once that if one dreams of a deceased loved one that is a good sign. They have moved on and are okay.

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I know mine are ok. My father always said as long as wherever he was going had cold beer he was fine. And he has my brother to drink with. My mother said she made all of us and our friends so many sandwiches she assumed God would have her making sandwiches. So I envision her doing that with a smile while wiping her hair from her face with the back of her hand.

Martini, I'm happy you are at peace with your situation. I hope I can get there someday.

I'm not, one of my siblings did themself in (as they say) in 2004 and their spouse did the same thing to themself last week. Just Terrible. Eleven years of inconsolable grief and now a surgeon gone from society.

When I was 27, my 37 year old brother died unexpectedly in July. My sister (one of five) called in late September to wish me a belated happy birthday, and we go to talking about him. I said I had a freakish dream the other night in which he was sitting on the edge of my bed, looking at me intently, and then we were in a bright hallway with tiled walls that smelled like chlorine. She said "That's the hallway from the high school gym." I went cold- it was. "Then we were on the bleachers" (identical to my dream).
We exchanged more vaugue details, and she asked "was his hair white?" (it was- but was black in life) and by now I'm hyperventilating, and asked her what time she woke up? She said 3:19 AM. My clock, 300 miles away, read 3:20 AM when I woke up that night. Bowled me over, but at the same time, I was overcome with calm.

My mother passed in 1997, and now my dad, and these dreams/memories/subconscious events help!

Definetly the birthdays, holidays are painful. I had to make a thread late at night last year on his birthday just to vent. I was on the edge of letting the pain do me in. Sometimes the OT will surprise you with understanding and compassion .If you ever need to vent I'm always on one of the OTs.