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re: Question about popping the question
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:36 pm to corndawg85
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:36 pm to corndawg85
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Don't do it ever. 10 minutes after the ceremony she'll want kids and a new house. You'll be broke, drinking yourself to sleep every night with rug rats eating all your fishing/hunting/stripper/fun money. No poonaner. Not that you'd want it cause she done ate 5,000 hotdogs and gained 30 pounds. Run for your life get some help!
This is pretty dead on accurate!
I genuinely feel sorry for people who so poorly chose their partner.
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Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:37 pm to Geauxdhan08
Marriage is not a trivial thing. If you don't feel ready don't do anything to "take the next step."
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:38 pm to Geauxdhan08
Question: Tell me what you think about me, buy my own diamonds and i buy my own rings.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:39 pm to baseballmind1212
That's another thing, when we first started dating I made it clear I felt like it would be 8 years until I would have an established career and feel ready to get married, over these five years the seats been getting hot though.
- that's very close to our exact situation, but we've already lived together 2 years, then she graduated nursing school and now lives/works in Lafayette so we only see each other a couple days a week
- that's very close to our exact situation, but we've already lived together 2 years, then she graduated nursing school and now lives/works in Lafayette so we only see each other a couple days a week
This post was edited on 11/17/16 at 1:42 pm
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:40 pm to Geauxdhan08
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Good thought I hadn't thought about the adjustment engagement period and she wants at least a year long engagement.. I've told her about all of my apprehensions, I just think the rhetoric will change once the title becomes Mr. And Mrs.
When you get engaged they tell all their friends and that period goes out the window. They're over the engagement almost instantly and in instant wedding planning mode which is chaos and horse shite. You'll wish you were dead for that year. There is no engagement period. You're kidding yourself. Take the blue pill and move in to a one bedroom with a good life.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:41 pm to MSMHater
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Move in together. Have a 6 month trial marriage.
I COMPLETELY agree with this. Its amazing how much you learn about each other once you move in together.
My mon was against the idea of being unmarried and living together but my wife and I did and it worked out great. My brother got married to who we thought was a normal nice girl and they were divorced 6 months later because she became a psycho once they were married. My mom told me about a year later that she never wouldve thought she would recommend moving in together before marriage but that really opened her eyes.
If you are feeling like you arent ready, then you should talk to your gf about this. Just be honest with her and she will appreciate you more for your honesty. One of the major keys to any marriage is communication. If you cant do it well now before marriage you will be in for a rough time once you get married.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:43 pm to Geauxdhan08
I can relate. All mine does is talk about babies. I understand. She's 30 and that clock is ticking. But she knew damn well when we started dating that it would be at least 5-7 years before id be comfortable having kids financially and mentally ( I'd be ~27 with 3.5 years in my degree field). that puts her at 33. Now that I have secured a job that baby fever is heating up bigly
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:47 pm to baseballmind1212
She's a labor and delivery nurse too so now that she's graduated and seeing babies born every night......
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:51 pm to Geauxdhan08
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Question about popping the question
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I don't feel like I'm ready
Then DON'T DO IT!!!!!!
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I think once it goes from "boyfriend" to "husband", her expectations on little things will change
You almost got it right.
Your expectations and what she feels she has to do with your little thing will change.
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Should I just pop the question for the sake of
NEVER! Never get married for the sake of anything short of getting a bullet thru your temple, and then that might be something to think about.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:57 pm to Geauxdhan08
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Should I just pop the question for the sake of taking the next step
Read that comment out loud and listen to how stupid it sounds.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 1:58 pm to Geauxdhan08
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Geauxdhan08
I'm in a similar situation and ironically, we both graduated from Destrehan.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:00 pm to Geauxdhan08
yea. I catch a little break because she has a daughter from a previous marriage when she was really young. however she does make comments at times about how she wants to raisemy kids. freaks me the frick out sometimes. I'm still trying to stay out of Freds on Fridays
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:00 pm to MSMHater
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Move in together. Have a 6 month trial marriage.
You don't sound ready, IMO.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:01 pm to Geauxdhan08
You have to do what you feel is right. However, you also have to realize that when chicks get babies on the brain, the amount of pressure on you to pop the question will only rise. At some point you will get an ultimatum.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:03 pm to MSMHater
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Move in together. Have a 6 month trial marriage.
6 Months isn't long enough. People can fake it or suppress their true feeling for 6 months. Minimum a year
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:03 pm to airportwhiskey
Common misconception: neither of our relationships are with destrehan students tho..
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:04 pm to Geauxdhan08
quote:You have to do what is best for you. If she's the one put a ring on it. The wedding and engagement is all about yall. The engagement can last until you are financially, and emotionally ready. You don't have to do what everyone else does or tells you is standard.
Good thought I hadn't thought about the adjustment engagement period and she wants at least a year long engagement.. I've told her about all of my apprehensions, I just think the rhetoric will change once the title becomes Mr. And Mrs.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:05 pm to gamatt53
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6 Months isn't long enough. People can fake it or suppress their true feeling for 6 months. Minimum a year
Mine was 2 years, so I agree with you.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:12 pm to baseballmind1212
I would be okay with having a child, honestly. I've always wanted a kid but I've always been apprehensive about marriage, maybe because my parents had a contentious divorce and it's easier to part ways if your not married if it doesn't work out.
I've honestly thought about proposing us getting a dog together to buy more time for the kid/serious commitment discussion... Good idea? Take care of a dog together and see how it goes?
I've honestly thought about proposing us getting a dog together to buy more time for the kid/serious commitment discussion... Good idea? Take care of a dog together and see how it goes?
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:12 pm to BeerMoney
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They're over the engagement almost instantly and in instant wedding planning mode which is chaos and horse shite.
This was the nail in the coffin to my engagement. I get the whole women dream about their wedding thing to an extent, but it should never be at the expense of the couple's pre wedding hapiness. It's your life together after that matters, not some stupid party. If they can't understand that, they are shallow and you should run.
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