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re: Question about popping the question
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:16 pm to Geauxdhan08
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:16 pm to Geauxdhan08
i meannnnn the dogs not a bad idea but it wont reveal much more or make you feel any more confident in my opinion. if you really want to learn then your going to have to live together. thats the only way i could see you truly testing the waters.
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Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:57 pm to Geauxdhan08
quote:Great idea, what could go wrong?
Should I just pop the question for the sake of taking the next step
1. If you're not ready, there's nothing wrong with that, but definitely don't take it to the next step.
2. If you've been together 5 years, and you still don't know if she's the one you want to be with forever, that's a serious red flag you may want to evaluate. You should know by now, either way.
I was in a similar situation. Same age at 27, with a girl for 4 years. Luckily she never brought up the marriage thing. But at some point I just got to thinking that after 4 years I still wasn't sure she was the one I wanted to be with forever, so that was basically the beginning of the end for us. No point in wasting 4 more years for the inevitable to happen.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:58 pm to Geauxdhan08
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5 years, some off and on but really good the past year or so
Never gonna work..
Posted on 11/17/16 at 2:59 pm to baseballmind1212
quote:Not many dudes excited about the idea of 1 year of wedding planning.
plus at least another year to plan a wedding.
quote:After 2 years, that's pretty strange IMO.
Seems a little rough but we only see each other 2x a week for a couple hours at a time due to our work schedules and my school schedule
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:02 pm to Geauxdhan08
quote:5 years together and you don't trust her.
I just think the rhetoric will change once the title becomes Mr. And Mrs.
Considering cutting bait at this point is probably where you want to invest your thoughts instead of marriage based on the limited info you've given us IMO.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:03 pm to Geauxdhan08
You should never get married unless you're ready. You'll likely regret it. 5 year relationship at 27 with a 25 year old is pretty aggressive though, be prepared to lose her if you don't, but understand it's probably for the best.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:04 pm to BeerMoney
quote:I told my wife we either go to Vegas and get married and I'll gladly spend 1 hour making all of the arrangements, or I have zero to do with any of it, none.
You'll wish you were dead for that year.
She actually wanted to do the Vegas thing but her mother offered to pay for everything if we did the traditional wedding. I again said I honestly don't care but if traditional was the choice I wasn't going to participate in any of the planning. I guess I luckily chose the right girl and in-laws as she chose traditional and never had an issue doing the planning and leaving me out of it, and it worked out just peachy.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:05 pm to shel311
It is. I work ~50 hours a week at night while going to school full time. She lives about 45 minutes away, works a day job, and has to be home at night with her child. I only see her on the weekends
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:07 pm to baseballmind1212
I'm sure he will be ready soon..
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:07 pm to baseballmind1212
quote:Being an adult sucks!!!
It is. I work ~50 hours a week at night while going to school full time. She lives about 45 minutes away, works a day job, and has to be home at night with her child. I only see her on the weekends
Sounds brutal.
This post was edited on 11/17/16 at 3:08 pm
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:31 pm to Geauxdhan08
If you have to start a thread on the OT about whether or not you should pop the question then this is not the right girl or right time.
Unless you want to be miserable in 5 years, with a mortgage, a couple of kids, and a fat and/or cheating wife.
Unless you want to be miserable in 5 years, with a mortgage, a couple of kids, and a fat and/or cheating wife.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:35 pm to AZTarheeel
When you get tired of BJs that's not on your birthday then get married.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:41 pm to shel311
Not sure if your being sarcastic.
I do whats necessary to make it through school without burying myself in debt. If my SO can't understand that then she is way too shortsighted to be with me.
I don't make financial decisions to make sure i can go drink on the weekend. I make financial decisions so i can buy a nice house and have a 6 figure retirement account before i reach 30.
I do whats necessary to make it through school without burying myself in debt. If my SO can't understand that then she is way too shortsighted to be with me.
I don't make financial decisions to make sure i can go drink on the weekend. I make financial decisions so i can buy a nice house and have a 6 figure retirement account before i reach 30.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:43 pm to Geauxdhan08
I got married at 27 and am now divorced at 31. She tried to change me once we got married and i wasn't playing that game. I filed in May and am the happiest i've been in years.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:53 pm to Geauxdhan08
Bachelor Ben Higgins is older than you and he's not ready. Sounds like you'll never be ready
Posted on 11/17/16 at 3:53 pm to Geauxdhan08
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What says y'all?
PIIHB
But seriously...
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I know she's the one to marry
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i don't feel like it's smart for us to get married yet
You could always pop the question and if she says yes, then wait a while before you start wedding planning and just have a longer engagement.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 4:08 pm to J Murdah
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You don't have to do what everyone else does or tells you is standard.
This. Your wedding day is entirely about you and her. Not your parents, not your priest, not your best friend or your sister in law. It's the one day out of your entire life when you can make every decision for it to be exactly what YOU want and no one can hold it against you.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 4:12 pm to Geauxdhan08
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she's 25
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she thinks we're going to be chasing our kids with walkers and canes at this rate.
Well FML then
Honestly, sounds like you just are not ready right now. And that is ok.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 4:15 pm to Geauxdhan08
What the hell is wrong with you posters?
OP we are gonna need pics of gf and her mom so we can make an informed decision.
OP we are gonna need pics of gf and her mom so we can make an informed decision.
Posted on 11/17/16 at 4:15 pm to gorillacoco
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Your wedding day is entirely about you and her. Not your parents, not your priest, not your best friend or your sister in law
Honest question. Have you ever been married?
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