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Question about Identity
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:16 pm
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:16 pm
So while I've been ranting about Rapinoe today I've also been talking to a women on one of the online dating sites I'm on. I got back into the dating scene about 6 months without a whole lot of success. I've exchanged a few messages with this women, verified she's real (found her on facebook) and even asked her out. She's accepted and we're just trying to figure out when now.
Considering I haven't dated in awhile this will be my first in person date in probably 3 - 4 years. With that said it goes against my Incel identity which says that I am unable and too ugly to get a date.
If I actually do go on this date, does that violate my identity as an Incel? Will I no longer be able to be a part of the Incel community? I'm asking because that would definitely leave me alone and isolated.
What do you think about this identity and how it defines me? Should I take her out on a date and risk losing my identity? Or should I decline a date and preserve the identity?
Considering I haven't dated in awhile this will be my first in person date in probably 3 - 4 years. With that said it goes against my Incel identity which says that I am unable and too ugly to get a date.
If I actually do go on this date, does that violate my identity as an Incel? Will I no longer be able to be a part of the Incel community? I'm asking because that would definitely leave me alone and isolated.
What do you think about this identity and how it defines me? Should I take her out on a date and risk losing my identity? Or should I decline a date and preserve the identity?
This post was edited on 7/7/19 at 2:17 pm
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Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:16 pm to surftiger321
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:17 pm to surftiger321
Shut up, nerd
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:18 pm to surftiger321
This is a thought provoking question. Would remaining part of the incel community drive you to suicide quicker than getting rejected by some girl on the internet?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:18 pm to surftiger321
quote:
What do you think about this identity and how it defines me?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:18 pm to surftiger321
You’re a weirdo.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:20 pm to Tester1216
Oh come on I'm actually being serious. Trust me it surprised me as well but we have a lot in common and she seems to be up for it. She wants to try to arrange some time this week.
Considering my lack of experience here it is interesting. Do I stay with what I know (being an Incel) or do I actually try to do something with this? (and lose the Incel identity) Amazingly enough she's actually decently attractive as well.
I'll admit the idea of a date and possible relationship excites and scares me at the same time.
Considering my lack of experience here it is interesting. Do I stay with what I know (being an Incel) or do I actually try to do something with this? (and lose the Incel identity) Amazingly enough she's actually decently attractive as well.
I'll admit the idea of a date and possible relationship excites and scares me at the same time.
This post was edited on 7/7/19 at 2:22 pm
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:21 pm to surftiger321
quote:
first in person date in probably 3 - 4 years
Is there a different kind of date other than in person?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:21 pm to Tester1216
Tries waaay too hard.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:22 pm to surftiger321
Damn, how can people go through life with such low self esteem?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:22 pm to whoisnickdoobs
quote:
Is there a different kind of date other than in person?
No. I'll admit I could've phrased it better. I've talked to women for awhile but never got to the point of an actual date or if I did ask it was rejected.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:22 pm to surftiger321
quote:
So while I've been ranting about Rapinoe today
quote:
I got back into the dating scene about 6 months without a whole lot of success
No shite.....?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:23 pm to surftiger321
If you’ve asked out a woman and she’s accepted, then this...
You did it dude, you succeeded; don’t let your head get in the way. Go on the date, leave your internet self behind for a couple hours, and just try to have some fun.
quote:...is simply wrong.
my Incel identity which says that I am unable and too ugly to get a date
You did it dude, you succeeded; don’t let your head get in the way. Go on the date, leave your internet self behind for a couple hours, and just try to have some fun.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:24 pm to surftiger321
quote:
Do I stay with what I know (being an Incel) or do I actually try to do something with this? (and lose the Incel identity) Amazingly enough she's actually decently attractive as well.
Ok,I’ll play along.
What do you have to lose?
Ffs, you have made a conscious decision to forgo sex for what? How can your situation be much worse?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:24 pm to surftiger321
quote:
So while I've been ranting about Rapinoe today
What in the hell does this have to do with the rest of your post?
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:25 pm to surftiger321
I suggest you develop a relationship with a therapist before you start dating.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:27 pm to Tester1216
quote:
Ok,I’ll play along.
What do you have to lose?
Ffs, you have made a conscious decision to forgo sex for what? How can your situation be much worse?
BellaTigre I'll admit sex has always somewhat intimidated me. It's a mental block that I think causes me to unconsciously sabotage possible relationships. I always get very nervous before dates like this as well.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:28 pm to DaBike
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I suggest you develop a relationship with a therapist before you start dating.
I already have a therapist. My therapist was the one who actually recommended that I start dating again. She thinks in the very least it will help with being around actual women again and help with the process of unclogging all the Incel stuff in my brain. She thinks the Incel stuff has warped my view of women and therefore has made it more difficult for me to meet women. In other ways she thinks the Incel stuff has also caused me to unconsciously isolate from other people in general and to escape from reality. She is hoping that dating will help bring me back to reality as well.
This post was edited on 7/7/19 at 2:31 pm
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:29 pm to surftiger321
quote:
I'll admit sex has always somewhat intimidated me. It's a mental block that I think causes me to unconsciously sabotage possible relationships. I always get very nervous before dates like this as well.
No worries, that just means more sex for the Alpha males.
Posted on 7/7/19 at 2:31 pm to surftiger321
Shitty troll is shitty.
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