re: Please don't raise your kid to be like this

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I raised my children old school and they are head and shoulders over their peers

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Yep, Old school kids will handle diversity 100% better.

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What kind of changes are needed now?

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There are chapters and books written about this stuff and not to be rude but I don't have time today to explain all of it so I'll offer an example and context.

One example I will give is empowering adolescents and teens to be included and make important decisions for themselves and even the household and (even when you know their choice is wrong), let them go through with it and guide them through how to overcome the adversity that comes with it. I am not trying to be anecdotal here and say that NOBODY does this or NOBODY has ever done this but it isn't done enough.

Mark Gregston of Heartlight Ministries once said "Many over estimate the effectiveness and grossly underestimate the effect of today's culture."

-marijuana is legal (in some form) in most states now
-gender issues dominate social and main stream media
-teens communicate more with their fingers than voices
-teens spend an avg of ten hours a day looking at some sort of screen
-entitlement is everywhere
-little respect for authority
-most adolescents spend most of their time in the shallow end of the relationship pool
-teens are drinking less now, dating less now, driving less now
-social media gives everyone a platform which over inflates someones opinion of themselves and their peers
-the AMA has increased the age of adolescence to age 24
-imagination and creativity is dwindling
-it's more popular to record and share fights or conflicts than resolve them

This isn't a knock on anyones specific style but it's just different raising a kid now than the 90s, 80s and 70s. The world has shrunk and where kids go no for validation, value and self worth is different.

It doesnt mean that parents now shouldn't do ANYTHING their parents did to them and of course, there are some things that are always valuable in any parent / child relationship but the most effective parenting style today has to factor in the the changes we live in and more importantly the world our kids live in because they are the ones who truly feel it.

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You decide as a parent whom your children interact with, what electronics, shows, songs, culture they are exposed to.

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Good luck

Weak Fathers caused this

Don't get me wrong...this isn't about being easy on today's kid. In fact, discipline with clear expectations and clear guidelines are as important as ever; it's how it's done that can be improved.

-How they learn in school is different
-What they learn in school is different
-High schools and especially colleges (even here in the deep blue south) are very different
-Post graduate life is different
-The application and job search process is different
-The interview process is different
-The workplace (whether blue or white collar) is different

(Again, anecdotal exclusions are not the topic here. So for those homeschool kids that were locked in a basement, worked on a farm, etc. that's not what were talking about. This is bigger than the exceptions and exclusions; it's a societal change)

The world is different and preparing kids for a world that doesnt exist anymore doesn't help them.

It's not the removal of consequences but rather the same or MORE importance on them but just done differently.

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I use to drive a sports car at his age and would get randomly pulled over, because of it. I wasn't even speeding or committing any traffic violations. I didn't behave this way and they didn't even offer a reason as to why I was pulled over. They even asked to search my vehicle which doesn't bother me. It got me out of the situation much quicker than fighting it. I get others who rather fight for their privacy or whatever, but I rather make the interaction go as smooth as possible.

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What a bootlicker.

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h clear expectations and clear guidelines are as important as ever; it's how it's done that can be improved.

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Code for don't whip your children or you'll turn them into terrorists or deviants or sociopaths, which is a lie. It's about consistent and upfront punishment for bad behavior and rewarding good behavior like it always has been. As for school, if you're still sending your children to public achool and you have any choice you are playing with fire. They aren't being educated in school and companies are waking up to that fact. They need you to teach them to be useful, teachable, humble. Employers are required by woke ideology to give lip service to the crap, but they need thinkers and producers, not diversity hires. They still need old fashioned work ethic and will promote if you do what you're told and don't cause problems. And the pendulum is swinging back away from that nonsense.

You can raise your children however you want, but pretending like you don't have the tools is deceiving yourself. It's a siren song that will cause your children to crash and you will shrug your shoulders because "kids these days." Right?

You must drive a blue mustang.

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this is one of the best police and public interaction channels on youtube

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This rash of videos about not providing your license or whatever is just asinine.

You were fricking speeding, you got caught, dont waste everyones time please.

I mean, this "kid" is 19 and has a suspended license for DUI/possession of marijuana. His parents are clearly still insuring the car, and they actually showed up to help because he was getting a ticket? So much wrong here.

I'm going to put a fair amount of blame on the parents.