re: People who cut off their family, what did they do to you?

They didn’t use my preferred pronouns!!! I can’t handle that sort of violence from my family.

Literally shaking…..

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Daughter. She's an ungrateful, disrespectful

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Dealing with that right now. Tough love is a lot harder than I thought.

I have a step cousin who cut ties with me because she thought I was judging her lesbian pansexual lifestyle. I don’t care who she has sex with but I thinks she in envious of me because I have a good life and I am successful. Meanwhile she doesn’t like her blue collar job.

My mother sexually molested me as a child up to age 12 when I physically threatened her. Went public with it after my sister had kids, so it wouldn’t be on my conscious. Entire family took moms side and told me how much of a bastard I am was for talking about it. I later found out mom and her sister were molested by my uncle. Completely cut them off after I became a dad, so this ends with my branch of the tree.

F child molesters and the people who defend them.

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Daughter. She's an ungrateful, disrespectful shithead.

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Father was/is a great guy but was a truck driver and like many got addicted to meth. This was late 80’s. My mom never really tried to help him. In fact she used his paranoia against him to manipulate him to get what she wanted. She also had multiple affairs while he would be gone out on the road. When the casinos came to Shreveport/Bossier she got hooked on gambling and lost whatever money they had managed to save. By the time I was a senior he had gotten to the point where he couldn’t hold down a trucking job anymore and she left him, found internet love and moved to Ohio and married some dude. My father was crushed and despite the fact that I had been trying to get him into rehab and counseling since I was about 15 he spiraled even more down the hole. Ended up doing some stupid shite out of desperation and landed himself in prison for 5 years.

When I was 15 I was rear ended by a schoolmate coming out of school parking lot. Really just a minor fender bender but she made me go to doctor who prescribed that I go to physical therapy for my neck injury. Now mind you my neck felt fine. So her brother just happened to be physical therapist so who do you think I had to go see twice a week for the next six months. He never treated me once. Didn’t take me long to figure out it was all a big insurance scam.

I had a couple thousand dollars I had saved up that was in a joint account she had set up for me when I first started cutting yards at age 12. When she left my dad (kicked him out of house) she also kicked me out 2 days later. I was 17 and was 6 weeks from graduating. So you guessed it, she cleaned me out.

When my daughter was 20 and a sophomore at La Tech, she got pregnant by guy she was dating. Not perfect timing but you know shite happens. Even though I had long quit talking to my mother, my wife made our kids stay in contact with her. When my daughter called to tell her she was going to be a great grandmother her only reply was “Now what will I tell all my friends. I’ve always told them what a good Christian girl you were”. Now mind you, my mom married my dad when she was 17 cause he knocked her up. Naturally my daughter was heartbroken her grandmother would tell her this. At least my wife doesn’t make the kids talk to her anymore.

To wrap it all up. My dad did his time, got cleaned up in prison, got out and somehow landed a great job with a fellow just starting up a construction company. 10 employees and 2 trucks when he hired on and now 15 years later they have over 150 employees and my dad is like number 3 in company. He married a very nice lady about 10 years ago and is about to retire with a fat bank account. My daughter finished school, got her degree and is now an OT. She is married to a great guy and is about to have their second kid. The dude my mom married died, didn’t leave her with anything and now she has cancer. She had moved back down here and last I heard bitches to all her siblings that are still alive that her kids and grandchildren just abandoned her and never come see her even though she is in her death bed.

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Nephew (in law) and his 3rd wife were living with my mother in law (his grandmother).They are sorry as hell and she took them and their two children in so they wouldn’t be homeless. It was discovered that they had been stealing jewelry from her and pawning it. Nobody, except his mother, in the family speaks to him at all..I will personally beat his arse if I ever see him again. Mother in law is now deceased, he was told he wasn’t welcome at the funeral (I didn’t agree with this and wouldn’t have beat his arse there).

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Well, after flunking out of college, I allowed her to move back home with the understanding that she get a job and start JuCo the following semester. She got a menial job at a tanning salon, but was fired after 6 shifts for showing up late to 3 of them and falling asleep during the other 3. She also said that she had no intention of going to college. Kicked her out. She moved in with friends, but was voted off of the island within 2 months for being a slob and not holding gainful employment to pay her portion of the bills. Everyone thought I was the a-hole, so they tried to help her. Her mother and both sets of grandparents took her in at various times. They all kicked her out eventually and later apologized to me. Now she's 23, festooned with tattoos and body piercings, and pretty much stays high all the time. When she did come around, all she did was bitch about politics (she's a woke lefty, so everyone in the family is a racist, misogynist, homophobe/transphobe, etc.). Her presence brings me no joy, so I choose not to have her around. My hope is that one day she'll get her shite together, but I doubt it. People don't think Borderline Personality Disorder be like it is, but it do. I still keep her on my health insurance so that she can get her psych meds and birth control. The last thing I want is for her to reproduce.

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